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I agree with everything you said especially the highlighted bit.

Hmm ... I have always wondered why people dont read profiles .. assuming we are honest on our profile ...

In one instance someone even assumed i was misleading people when i said i am not interested without reading my profile which is the same in terms of what i seek since the day i joined. That if i am on a dating site it is not wrong in approaching me rather thats what is to be done sorts ... depressing !!!

I agree people might face problems when they come across people not looking or attached but i definitely agree with the OP .. Honesty in what we seek is a must . Until its clearly mentioned on the profile what the person seeks and dating or not ... i quess i am happy.

Hmm Well this lady isnt lieing..i stated i am taken..and we all know with who..i am here to meet woman..man..as friends..and i dont really care why anyone else is here..its their business Not Mine..

I agree with Lusciousmile, this is a site for all types of friendship and I believe CS actually like the few profile pics of couples....it promotes the possibility of meeting a partner here.

As for the pics sending out mixed messages, to whom? You'd have to be pretty daft to try and make romantic moves on somebody so happy in their relationship that they want to show everybody by posting a pic of them both!

The people who are really abusing the site (and their partner) are those who deny their current relationship....not those in couples like LM OR those who are at least honest enough to say I'm in a relationship but I'm not happy and seeking love 'on the side'.

I agree it's not fair. And also, being the internet, it's so much easier to mislead someone because they can't physically see you. At least in person, we'd be able to see if the other person is wearing a ring, or has a tan line where one usually sits (unless of course they're the type who's never worn a wedding ring)...we'd also be able to read body language, and eyes and tell a lot easier if someone is taken or not.

I also know that a lot of people don't read through a whole profile, they just go off the little thumbnail picture when they do a search and don't bother to read. I usually try to go to the profile mainly to check & see if they smoke or not (since that's a deal breaker for me), and I usually skim through. But reading would help alot & being honest would be a huge benefit too...lol

Jan.

One of the many reasons i have 'our' pictures here is to encourage others.

If one partner or both are unhappy in a relationship and he or she comes on a site looking for another should state they are in a relationship and is looking for someone else. They should state it in their profile, so that they will not mislead another. We can't control what others do. People are going to do what they want to. It's just a suggestion to those that are in a relationship and seeking another. The other person can either trust this person or not. If they want to follow through with communicating with him or her. That is their chose.

My opinion. You can agree or disagree.




(Then they innocently fail to mention that fact until after meeting and becoming involved. NOT FAIR....BIG TIME Jackass!)

I agree with this. They should have stated before getting involved.

In a perfect world...you would be right! However, there are people trolling these sites looking for a "quick fix" When they see a picture of a woman with someone on a dating site, what might go through their head??

Threesome?? A little on the side??

It would be nice if everyone shared the high moral standards exhibited by all those nice people on CS, who never had an indecent thought, but the truth is...some are looking for adventure!

I whole heartedly agree that this room should be open to all. And I don't believe I have said anything to the contrary. I am just submitting that a person shouldn't be surprised or insulted, when A person looks at the picture , on a singles site, and wonder about the reasonings.

But I can see once again, that people are closed minded and can only see their point of view!!

<<<<<<<<<<very open minded.

wasn't referring to anyone in particular...just to people who can't see that not everyone has the same agenda, here

Let me claify here, kiddos.
I am not opposed to "looking for adventure", looking for new friends, killing time, or whatever. BEEN THERE>>>DONE IT. I am not necessairily a candidate for the Pearly Gates Premium Pass...but I keep praying for a little pair of wings before I go "HOME".
However, my point above refers to people who cannot be without a warm body... people with a kid and live-in/mate/wife/husband who consider themselves to be unhappy...wanting to get out of that relationship....SHOULD FRIKKEN DO SO BEFORE LETTING SOMEONE MEET YOU WHO MIGHT JUST HAPPEN TO ADORE YOU AT FIRST SIGHT>>>
in spite of the fact that the person who is being adored is a selfish, narcisstic, messed up BIG TIME JACKASS.
I gotta git to the store and get a 50 gallon drum of "UN-STUPID" and a 25# bag of salt peter.

letting someone meet me who adores me at first sight?
thats a number one red flag-someone that responds that way

sometimes people will say anything to
avoid saying 'back off' or 'no thank you'
even "sorry-im married"

It's wrong. Relationships shouldn't overlap, not if anyone ever expects to trust anyone, and without trust they can't have love. Not to mention "what goes around comes around"

Maybe his karma will be a nice STD or at least to have the same done to him by someone he starts to love.

Agreed, Boots.

Still, I do have a minor semantic quibble with your "handle" - namely, I think you could've chosen a better descriptor. I would suggest, a la Detente, that you substitute another letter for "t."

Thoughtfully,

Jeff

stop it

shes gonna fall at first sight for you next buddy!

just make sure youre really available
not like that last guy

Wow, Mindful, love your new pic. You're cute even without that red, spherical nose.

I don't its necessarily JUST a dating site.. cause I am just here for the forums.. I do think it is important to be straight up though.. e.g. I have made it clear on my profile that I am not looking...

Seriously, good point, Mindful. Few countryfied women can resist a man with such large, well-lubricated/working tools, in my experience.