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*cough* At least people are free to express their opinions on the forums, whether or not others agree with them...

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damn I hate furballs this early in the morning...

I'm having a hard time imagining someone NOT being able to fall in love with someone's mind or heart, because I've *always* been able to do that. And that doesn't mean that there is an unlimited range of physical attributes that I am attracted to; I can love someone's mind and heart and in no way be physically attracted to him, which has happened, unfortunately, but I do become more attracted to men physically when I've fallen in love with their hearts or their minds.

I have to respectfully agree that in my opinion, to just look at someone for their body is shallow, and good luck sustaining any kind of long-term relationship based on that. Hopefully as you get older, you will learn to get past that.

Reminds me years ago on some talk show (like Oprah) there was a woman who had had many plastic surgeries because she was addicted to looking like Barbie (no kidding). She only dates men who look enough like Ken, and when they don't, she dumpeds them.

Sad... very, very sad.

I also saw firsthand at my 20th high school reunion that the girls who had gotten all the attention for their looks in high school (you know, basically the blond cheerleaders) never seemed to really develop their personalities or their brains, and were still desperately trying to get by on their looks... which were fading.

As a group, the not-classically attractive girls were in more successful relationships and were far happier.

As I told a really gorgeous little girl (about 11 -- looks very strikingly like a young Elizabeth Taylor) on a trip recently: people will be drawn to you by how you look on the outside, but they will love you and STAY with you for how you are in the INSIDE.

Masters degree -- works on developing mind, not just body.

Physical -- works on taking care of himself.

Profile -- wrote some very good verbage.

Forum Postings -- what the heck!?!?!?!?!?

On another site, I posted (as a secondary photo) a pix of me on the hood of my Corvette (in a skirt and heels - taken as a joke). Attracted all the 'wrong stuff'. Yeah, I know -- Duh! So now it's my company party photo and a photo of me just after swimming, sans makeup, and wearing my boring terry cover up.

FYI, I donated the Corvette to charity last year, and have a nice conservative car now (fast, but conservative).

Guess thats why male birds are always so beautiful, to attract a female. Most humans are the same way both male and female have to have a physical attraction. Not shallow here but if I'm not attracted by his looks it probably won't work. Just nature at work. Have a great day.

Gee thanks - I feel like a pupil lollie! haha!

I think you may have misunderstood this, I need to clarify: I didn't in any way mean to imply that you can't fall in love with someone for their heart or their looks! What I meant was, for most people, I think the issue of the major deceit would far *outweigh* whatever attraction they might have felt for the person beforehand. I think it would create a major trust issue, like "How can I ever truly trust someone who would lie to me this way, you've turned out to be someone completely different from who I thought you were!"

NOT that people are silly to think someone could fall in love with them for their hearts or minds.

111MAILIW,
A INTERESTING PHOTO,NOTICED YOUR COMPLAINTS,OF OTHER PHOTO'S APPLY TO YOURS ALSO,NOTICED THE PARTIAL PIC,
ALSO THE PISS POOR ATTITUDE TOWARD OTHERS ON SITE,EASY WAY TO FIX ANY OF THE PROBLEMS YOU FACE IS TO START WITH YOUR SELF.AND PLEASE SAVE THE BRAVADO,IT DON'T WORK.WORK ON YOU!

Don't like how I sound here. So doing a retraction..... Sometimes looks just don't matter. If they treat you really good and you have alot incomin sometimes you just click and fall in love. The last 2 men I was in a relationship with were 200lbs heavier than myself. But I was attracted to them for whats inside not their looks.

HAVE to reply to this...let me ask you something! IF you meet someone who is beautiful eye-candy..everything you ever wanted in life..fall in love..live happily ever after UNTIL..to everyone's horror..some horrible infliction causes a change in their looks. This can be any type of infliction..illness, auto-accident, life itself can cause changes in outer beauty. Do you LEAVE that person because to you they are no longer your IDEAL look? If so, then, we can just skip past you and move on..cause there is NO guarantee on looks..but personalities..rarely change, Good OR bad...........

Have to say for once I totally agree with
Joovisst and phoenixrd said it right too.

Picked the two guys because they are guys,

Respect Siren

dont rem. when mine was taken about 5mths ago and i dont really care if people care what i look i want to know me for my thoughts

My only concern, when I voiced my frustration, was and is the fact that anyone is being deceitful -- it's not about your appearance -- if he or she post an out-dated picture of his or herself, and then conviently not note to any potential interested person,that he or she is much older and probably look a lot different than the posted profile. If a person wants honesty,in any potential relationship,why not start with your profile?

I'm convienced that all of you who read this, have broken off a relationship, friendship, fired someone... because you discovered that person was decitful, with held information, or just outright lied to you about something.

One last thing, "Windygirl", if you were being sincere by explaining how "heterOsexual" is spelled, I appreciate you -- thanks! But if you were attempting to be cute or condescending -- shame on you. I'm sure you have never wrongly spelled a word...

mine are recent..
but, when i'm up first thing in the AM, think I look like that?
I take my hat off, reaaly ;)

Get to know the person. The real person,not the photo.

There have been many threads on pics...

Hmmm, spelling....

When I read a profile and it says that the person has a Masters degree, I assume a level of education where someone might write without frequent spelling mistakes.

And if it's a profile text, it could be spell checked and copied to the web page when completed.


For me, words speak louder than pictures.

heh!

i just get my words assbackward, lmao...

words and actions, you bet! =o)

Everyone makes mistakes typing. Hit the key and it doesn't work or just your brain gets ahead of your fingers. I dated a guy with a masters and he couldn't type worth anything. So this little ole Tech school graduate girl would type alot of his tests out for him. So schooling doesn't mean everything.

I have a Master's and I'm the daughter of an English teacher, but I have found an occasional mistake on a post I already sent in... Ah well, we're all human...

Thats right. lol

i have a wedgie.what are we discussing?

Meilandra and PaleEyes,

An open mind, is a powerful thing. Thanks for being who you are...