bajanblue: I just recently discovered that I am perceived as being so self sustaining and self sufficient that I would not need anyone enough to make me properly appealing.
Kind of a catch 22 situation, while I am alone, there is only me to take care of myself and keep things on balance. if being needy is a prerequisite to finding a mate, i will always be alone.
While it is true I have never been the needy, clinging type, and consider myself responsible for my own happiness, I have all the normal human needs for companionship, shared laughter, and love.
I just don't see any point in being miserable and bent out of shape if I don't have it in my life at the moment.
So I guess I am looking for a man who is looking for a woman who will enjoy him and being in a relationship, rather than a delicate flower who needs to be shelteredf from and guided through life, who blames him if she isn't feeling happy when she wakes up.
I have a hard time with this as well, and I just don't understand it. To me it's so much better to want or be wanted then to need and be needed. If I want you... it's you, the happiness I feel being with you, the things we share, If I need you, its for a roof over my head, to protect etc.
I think it takes a very strong man to accept the fact that he's loved just because he is, rather then what he provides