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Me, I think so, yes.

If someone takes the time to write you, the very least you can do is reply and tell them you're not interested.

It's just rude not to...

What do YOU think?

i agree with ya.....as it cost nothing to be polite...and i am sure their mothers would be appalled to think they had no manners to reply....

How about you get a dozen messages. Cannot reply to them all....

I don't know that it's rude to not respond - Some people here get literally hundreds of messages each week. Seems like responding to each and every one would take waaaay too much time.

Having said that, I will admit that I, personally, try to respond to each message I get - Even if it's only to tell a scammer that they've been reported to the moderators. Fortunately, even before I met my wife here, a loaded mailbox wasn't something I really had to worry about too much...

Last time I check a dozen was just 12...

Are you telling me that curiosity wouldn't get the better of you? You wouldn't go and check out the profile of the sender?

If somebody has enough time to check out the sender's profile they have enough time to say "thanks, not interested"

That's just my opinion...

In theory yes, but if a profile clearly states not looking AND please don't be offended if you don't get a response as only replying to forum friends....as mine does, then I think it's rude that guys still send messages with clear romantic or sexual intent. Even ruder if they haven't read my profile.

I don't get any mail

Depends entirely on the message sent, but in general if someone has clearly taken the time to look at my profile and then write a note, I respond.

If they continue writing after I have said thank you but no thank you, I just delete the subsequent messages.

Should we also post a reply in every thread?
Its just rude not to acknowledge the poster that took so much thought and time to start it

Reply to the nice emails- the rude ones can vaporize!

Yes i answered all my emails..but now that i am taken..and here for just friends and talk on the forum..i only answer the sincere mail..i get mail saying i want a relationship with you and have read ur profile and i really like it...LMAO..Sometimes i will write back and say He$$ no you didnt read my profile becos if you did you would know i am already in a relationship...JMO

All fair then, you've done your best to inoculate any misunderstanding. If a chap won't read your profile it's not your fault.

I started out answering all messages and responding to flowers sent... but found that it actually causes more problems then ignoring them does. When I would send a polite reply explaining why I wasn't interested, or why I thought we were not a good match... I would often get an abusive or accusatory response, when I ignore them I never hear back.

If I see someone has really put some time into the message then I do respond, but if it's a single line... you're hot, lets hook up, I'm the guy for you, etc. I delete.

I used to reponds to all mail and flowers . Just to say thanks but no thanks, but then started getting resposes asking why and on many occassions they were abusive . so now i don't answer them all.One mail i had an hr ago.

'My addy is ..........

please add me


'Send me yours i am waiting ......

This i will not reply to

I personally don't think one needs to give a reason.

If a guy or girl can't take rejection then they shouldn't ask.

I don’t reply to every message. And I don’t consider it rude at all.

I also sometimes choose to not answer my phone and let the answering machine pick up. I sometimes choose to not answer my front door when people knock. I often choose not to answer postal mail that I receive in my mail box outside.
Just because someone chooses to solicit me for time, attention, dates, money, whatever… it does not obligate me to reply.

If I spent my life sitting down and replying to each and every piece of correspondence that ever came my way,
I would have no time to live my life.

Can't reply to all. Particularly to those that have not read my profile.

That's my opinion too.

I try to answer mail and flowers from forum friends.

My profile says I've given up looking. After three years here without a date, that makes sense.

If folks are offended that I don't reply, I guess they have to understand that there are just so many hours in the day.

And they should try someone else

Not rude...not replied and been not replied to in equal measure.

Life goes on ya know...

Not rude, no explanations anymore ...

I have become a pro at rejection!

Mouse.....I love to answer the door for Jehova's witnesses and mormons! just to mess with them.

I once told them to come on in..I worship satan and am ready for a human sacrafice..
You should have seen the look on his face! (not a joke)