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Morgan. Koni.

Your post has just inspired some thought. *Not directed at you in particular*

Why is it necessary that we find people with the perfect attitudes/personalities yet distasteful to even consider that we should want the same on the outside ( appearance)??

I frankly don't believe in 'it's what's inside that matters'.
Beauty as personality is relative and i for one think that both the inside and outside matter to everyone to some extent.


What my man finds attractive( me) could be unattractive to another but he obviously appreciates the outside as well otherwise we wouldn't hear men/women say 'You look lovely honey'.

If you find your partner attractive then looks do matter, that is the look you have chosen to be attractive to you.

All relative, all matters.

Ok.

Koni.

yes they are Lush .... but unfortunately North American regions have the biggest population of overweight people in the World.

Thanks to McDonalds .... and other fast food joints or maybe there some other explonation needs to be offered.

There is a difference between Europe and North America. And North American American people have to face it and do something about it.


Do not get pissed people ... Let's be realistic and face the Dragon. Just think about it.

Hi Lush hope your good. Can see what your saying , i dated a guy once that initially i didn't find visually very attractive but as i got to know him i liked his personality. We were married for 16yrs.

I won't waste my time...

Not to anyone in particular!

I think that if we look for perfection, we should try to seek the same from ourselves first. Behave and look your best if you want the same.
If you have a problem with people who don't act or look like you want then think of what faults they could find in you as well* Tsk tsk*

For instance: You may require a little patience from people, they may require you think of joining a gym.

My point is, if you aren't perfect, then shut the hell up!!!

Well said !

There are so many factors. As far as looks, yes, it is important, but perhaps not in the way you would think. Just because a man looks good to me, doesn't necessarlily mean he is the type that would be preferred by the next woman. And there are several other qualities that create a man's "appearance" in my mind. I have been out with some very physically attractive men that have all the charm and personality of a porcupine with an attitude. I have also been out with some not so attractive men whose company I really enjoyed because they actually had something to say and could carry on an intelligent conversation. I want to be with someone I can be proud to be with, not embarassed to be seen with. Perhaps that's shallow, but I can't help how I feel.

As far as having a sense of a date being "the one," well, I did have that happen once. I had not had any initial interest in this man. He talked me into meeting him. I had no expectations and figured it would be another toturous couple of hours after which I would try to find a graceful escape. I was delightfully surprised. He was much more attractive than his picture, a little overweight, but not so much so as to be unattractive or offensive, much more personable than I had thought he would be based on his correspondence and just a real joy to be with. He was also the first one I had wanted to see a second time. I can't say for sure that I felt he was the one on the first date, but just the fact that I wanted a second made me think about it. After the second date, I could think of nothing else. We were together almost constantly for the next 2 months. Truth is, I still can't imagine myself with anyone else. I don't really know what happened. But that's another story. I've not completely given up because that feeling is so strong, and I know he had it too. I guess time will tell.

Good luck to you.

It's been a long time since I came across a woman as "attractive" as you, so you will be a long time looking for someone the same as you!

God morgon, Lush! Jag har svårt att vakna om morgnarna

I do not believe in "inside" thing myself ... so many issues are raising among couples who began to date in thongs and boxers ( I think they are sexy ... but again it is my opinion) and after awhile have changed to baggy sport pants with bubbled arses.

Inside is crucial but visuals are supporting insude inhance it .... JMO

We have to respect who we are not just how we act ... but the way we look in everydaylife.

I'm actually quite puzzled myself how my Canadian find me very much attractive ... cause my previous boyfriends were trying to feed me to excess to get me a wee fatter than I am.

Everything is irrelevant in this World of human species.

It always amaze me how people can loudly condemn others for being different (personalities) yet the same people have faults of their own.

I make a choice to not tolerate bullcrap from people like others chose to marry five husbands and others chose to eat more than i do in a day. All choices!!!!!!!!!!

Character assasination is just as bad as judging others on looks. None is worse than the other.

I'm guilty of something like any other person is.

Who is perfect? Show by hand please!

Koni. You always make me giggle.

Typo: 'Amazes'

Now I understand why so many Aussie women are looking to us Yanks for a relationship..

What is the matter "mate"? You post your replies to women openly yet you send me a private email, NO BALLS??????

Hello Patrick, kinda says alot ????

Good morning young lady..

It appears we have idiots in this world and then we have real idiots..

hello patrick

u have an attitude problem along with having your balls evaporating into your grey hair..

..god bless yankyman

ps: george w is reflective upon your lack of intelligence and private parts! thats another set 'twins' a yankee misses!!!!!

have a gr8 day

At least I have balls.....

Patrick you also have the 'balls' to respond on the threads not private mail !!!