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Yes they really are those who actually do that
I wonder if they think the competition is supposed to be a turn on???

But to each thier own... i know what i like and what i offer... and hope i never make the mistake of saying that i learned or taught it to anyone... Just that i like it or don't like it

as far as the rest of the issues... sometimes when the other knows you where married it is difficult to say anything without them thinking you are comparing... when all you are doing is saying "i have been here before ... and this is what happened"... and i do not wish to have it happen again. or i really want it to happen again.

Good thread by the way... and i know you may deny it... but it is yours and it is a good one

I have to be honest. there are some things in the past that won't affect the realtionship that I would rather they NOT share with me.
I think there can be Too much info at times..

We all do a LOT of stupid things that we wish we hadn't. Especially when real young.

However,,, If a relationship starts to get serious, I have this discussion with her.

I don't need to know exactly how many partners you have had,
I do want to know the things that directly will/can affect the realtionship, I want to know things from the past that have hurt you, so I will know not to repeat it and for understanding, and so on...

but past is past and not everything needs to be said.
The future is whats important and knowing that this is a person that has actually learned from the past and improved.
And not just someone that still continues the bad ways from the past.

Sorry if that is clear as mud?!

the bare minimum. like how many relationships they've had, how long they've lasted, any kids to speak of....i don't want a bunch of kids suddenly turning up at dinner and calling me 'mom'....other than that, the less the better!

I read your blog! You kind of scare me!

I don't need to know every ounce of the history,
Oh to hell with it, Just come on over and we can make some history!

why did it scare you?? remember in that story the guy is the villain...we all hate the guy, he's the uncaring bastard who's always tinkering with his cell phone. the woman is very passive and ummm....non judgmental?

hah! does that line ever work on anyone?

Sounds right. Things come out through time. Less is more.

Silly thing........ It wis sarcasm. why else would I have made the last comment.......but you ignored that part..LMAO

Bring it on girl, You don't scare me!!

BTW
Krazi!

Wheres all the ladies hiding

Well Ras,I really think we need to know,in a relationship once where the details were not revealed,didn't like that,though perhaps i should've known better because of her tendency to always speak in run-on sentences,thanks!

I don't think people should casually refer to things in their past, like my ex always..., or he used to..., but I do think sharing stories in the right time and place is important and can be fun. Curled up on the couch together exchanging stories... the worst fight I ever had... the best relationship and why... when I was a kid... I think it's a really good way of getting to know a person and gives you an insight to some of their personality traits. There's nothing I hide, but I don't shove it down their throat either.

True, as I stated earlier, Some things I will ask if I need/want to know.. but if its something that bothers me I will also say that I would rather not talk about it.

hehe maybe you scare me a little...what's that you're holding in your display pic? a fish?

The less people know about each other, the more the mystery and attraction.

some mystery is ok but if you had seen my eyes when I was told of my ex being a nudist? uh,that is important to me and I even have it stated I believe in my profile,no offense but some things aren't better left unsaid.
Hey DocRas

Im a streaker!!!
I streak from the bedroom to the shower!
But if you saw my body.. you might demand that I shower with my cloths on!

Doc,nudity does not bother me,it is the fact that he bbq with these people and played pool and bowled,mmmmmunhhhh,just not for me is all,and as long as you don't wear the red outfit? you can streak all you want

I would at least have a hat hook!