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One weekend a month I play with my band.....
Every time we gig, we have regular people that come out and see the band.....
There is a woman who comes to see us with her husband.
He is a nerdy type guy, friendly and nice, great job, and a good provider for his wife..... but he doesnt have a clue about style....or dancing for that matter.... and its evident that that, and other men's attentions, is beginning to strain their marriage....

She is the sexiest woman I have see in quite some time...
She is in her early fifties, but looks mid thirties..... she is in fantastic shape....The moves she makes on the dance floor leave me breathless
She dresses so sexy, and is so alluring that I am really attracted to her.... and have been for the year that the band has had them coming to see us....she really conjures up alot of attention from guys at the club..

She is married...... attraction or not, I will not go there period.....
If you've ever had it done to you you know you would never want to put someone through that kind of misery....

I never sat with them, when we are on break, not because I dont want to, I am afraid my eyes will give me away.....as it is though, I am giving other guys the evil eye to keep away from her....lol

There is nothing I can do to prevent the attraction I feel for her.... soooo......... this past gig, I sat at their table thinking that getting to know them better would help to curb my desire for her.... I wore semi-dark sunglasses to shield my eyes...lol

Her husband gave me his cell number to contact him... mind you, that even in the event they split up, I would not pursue her, no way... there are current signs the marriage is weekening......however I am thinking about taking him out shopping, and giving him new ideas to romance his wife, so he doesn't lose her....

Any comments?

I wouldn't get involved at this point... there could be so much more going on then you are aware of. This guy may be getting his kicks watching you all drooling over his wife, they may be looking for a third for a little play. She married him, I'm sure his dress style hasn't deteriorated over the years and if she is unhappy with the way he dresses I'm sure she would take him shopping.

No reason not to be friendly with the guy and if he asks for advice then sure, but other then that I wouldn't get involved.

A year is a long time to admire someone from afar. It sounds as though you're jumping off the fence. I haven't been in a situation like this but there's one thing I know. jbibiza never gives bad advice.

sounds like there is already a lot of undertones,,,,If you really dont want to play into some funky shit,,and it can get real funky,, Disconnect,,, make no mistake, we are all responsible for our actions and regret doesnt change what should have never been....just my two cents,,,take it easy.

Leave it alone......find a chick.


That's stuff that'll get a guy's ass kicked....

No I have never been attracted to someone who is married or who has a girlfriend...I have an automatic shut-off button when it comes to trouble....

She is distancing herself more from him everytime we see them...
I actually have a pretty good repoire with him..... I can tell he loves her, so I thought I might be able to help..... I know its not a swinger thing.... he is just a very passive type guy, who doesn't seem to have a clue what to do.....

There's enough headaches in trying to meet a woman and develop a good solid relationship as it is.....who the hell needs the headaches of messing around with a married woman?

I don't......

Sound to me like they're looking for a partner for a threesome. Or maybe he just likes showing off his eye candy. To each his own.

I didn't know she was married for better part of 8 months.....didn't even know who the guy was.... at one time per month, thats only 8 times we have seen them...... part of the reason for my ignorance also, is I try not to mix personal stuff with my professional stuff... clients who come to the club are the clubs business.... we need to be their to entertain them, and nothing more..... there are times however, when the whole band gets involved in the lives of people who frequent the band.... and we all get closer.... this is one of those times

Hmmmmm....so they're not swingers. Well...she obviously knows she's drawing attention from the guys. Ego booster. As long as nobody gets hurt. Good for her.

To be honest,I wouldn't even take the guy shopping,because it might lead to him knowing....somehow....how attracted you are to his wife,if he already hasn't sensed it.

It your life......do what you want,but me personally,I WOULD KEEP THE DISTANCE.

Well when I posted this thread, I gave a honest overview of the situation..... I am not after, nor will I pursue his wife...... the situation is delicate... for sure.... and the opinion here is to back off.... isn't this what forums are for? every now and then you have to have a thread that everyone can kick someone else's proverbial nuts....

Damn!! I gotta she this woman dance!! Sorry...I'm just picturing all the men hypnotized and drooling as she struts, twirls, shimmies, shakes and undulates on the dance floor.

So....does she walk all over him? Sounds like it to me.

Sorry..forgot to turn down my 'Blunt Meter.'

I think you are right.... don't take the chance.... seems to be the general agreement.....for what i can see, and others too, he needs to brush up on his romance 101, or shes a gonner

Yes..... poor guy....... you have the picture.... when they slow dance, hes timid about holding her.....

As for their marriage,maybe they could see a marriage counseller to figure things out,if they really want to save their marriage.I can understand the whole attraction thing though,it doesn't mean you can't still find her attractive,they never put you in jail for looking......just don't touch.

Once again...... just my opinion.

Well......... I am not interested in hurting the guy....