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well firstly
who is anyone to draw a line for what is normal
in private among consenting adults?

secondly Cloud of Faeries gave reasonable input
in my opinion
we live in a starstruck society where even
the most inappropriate 'titles' w/ public jobs are pedestalized

there are minister groupies even-thats weird

people are attracted to anything shiny
especially the wet grass that seems greener...
transferring is always easier than being afloat.
if youre empty in that way...

i have learned that there is something i can do
to prevent or stop an attraction i 'feel'
i can remind myself feelings arent facts
i can do the opposite of what i might like at the time
i can have a moral compass and take direction from it

there is no haziness here
sexually adventurous people arent normal
but having uncontrollable attraction is?
thats not uncontrollable attraction
its obsessive thinking,
its coveting, it can control me-yikes!

i dont operate that way
but i had to practice to get there

i say out loud
"thats wrong
grow up and act right dum dum"
and then i offer myself some gum gum


<<<weirdo

Howdy My albino buddy

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Such good advice...and ohhhhhhh the images...

Nooooooo... Shurrley narrrt ...

If that's weird then tar me with the same brush!

well i spose if we werent immature sometimes CS wouldnt be much fun

but i mean seriously
i cannot romanticise and sing the praises
of someone i should avoid.
im tricking myself then
and i aint tryin to be a trick

*naughty street slang reference from my chequered past*

HMMMMMMMMMMM...Maybe I should try that...trick myself into some romance...I wonder if it works!!!!!!!!

You got it didnt you?

shame shame

gee willikers claaaayer!
ida thot youd be the last genteel woman here
to understand such a reference


(transparent lie/gladhanding*)

How'd you think I go these new shooooooooes

hahaha

i think for shoes it doesnt count


im waiting for that hot guy in new zealand to show up
and start his bit about how
prostitution is the oldest scam in history,
next to religion he says...

how is it a scam-its an agreement-it gets fulfilled
its a business transaction-goodness
its not like being mugged



but he is hawt

since this thread has gotten so off track
i would like to offer a solution that just came to mind

maybe the OP should get a hooker that looks like 'her'
or just secretly take a pic w/ his phone, blow it up
and find one that will wear it



i am a solution oriented individual
always interested in assisting in difficult situations

go me

Hey be honest. Who are you doing this for anyway.For him,for her,or mostly for yourself. I see you like the girl so if you get close enough to the fire you just might get burnt.

I have been honest..... but go back into the thread and read the responses...... In this response, as in others, I am automatically at fault..... out of control of my emotions..... like everyone here is not guilty of that in one way or another..... under differant circumstances.

Morally I am as true blue as they come..... though, like everyone in a circumstance where they are not sure of their own motives, because emotions can cloud ones better judgement, I thought I would get alittle feedback..... sometimes it just takes a nudge to reaffirm what really was already decided. I would have made the right decision whether I posted here or not, I was merely thinking out loud my situation.... and provide alittle real life controversy here in the forums.....even though this situation is real, I didn't REALLY need advice.

The way I see it, being honest about oneself, especially in a controversial topic, can generate an atmosphere of negativity....
I have no desire to bring that out in anyone, however I have learned that total honesty is not a virtue for the forums.... one can not honestly bring forth what would be accepted as unguarded human frailty, if one is straddling a moral fence, lest one could be accused of alterior motives..... either in the topic of the thread, or the reasons for posting it.

I wont forget this thread soon, not so much in what I recieved as advice, the genuine constructive advice especially, but rather mostly in the negative manner by which much of it was conveyed.

I agree with Goose.

That IS the kind of stuff that SHOULD get a guy's ass kicked.

Let the guy deal with his wife.

And if she ever becomes single and you end up marrying her, you'll get to take his place

Way too negative for me..... so its time to take a break.....couple quick emails, and I'm gone....

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that they probably are SWINGERS......or are he is into watching her to have sex with other men. Taking her out and knowing that she is attracting HORDES of sexual attention, they know the score. All you have to do is bait the hook if you want to bang his wife. Mention how good she looks tonight and you ain't the only one that notices. Tell him how proud he must be to have such a fine, hot lady. See if the conversation steers in that direction. My dollar is on HELL YEAH.

No Need To Thank Me....It's my Pleasure.

Bet that's too negative too


Always a pleasure, HP

Why thank ya darlin. I'm just sayin'...it's been my experience more than once..that this what he is experiencing. Dude giving out his phone number and so forth, he's planting the seed. Takes his old lady out...she dresses hot...Moves even hotter...and puts of some " I NEED THE D**K vibes", then you got phone numbers and invitations to sit with them. Seize the opportunity, bro. It's a brave new world. I"m not telling you what I read, or what I heard, I'm telling you what has been my experience. Your moral compass may point in one direction, but your male compass, if it's working right, is pointing in a whole different direction.


No Need To Thank Me.....It's My Pleasure......and Arabellas' too.....