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that your life is interesting ,nice and entertaining,is it going to be that way ?
If you believe that you are a lucky person , you'll get kissed by Fortune ?
Do you believe that positive thinking ,being a positive and a happy person brings the good luck on your side?

I believe positive thoughts make positive things happen...I don't know if it's luck or just the fact that good people and things are drawn to someone positive over the negative!!!!!!!!!

how would I know???....LOL

Well after realizing how much your thoughts can contribute to your way of life, and your health, I have learn to stop mulling over things that had already happened and just get on with it. Sometimes I feel that I am lucky by not being ill because of all of the unnecessary negative thinking. Your body is healthy, only if your mind is healthy. Things in life does not always happen by fate, sometimes it happens by choice. If its something that I can change, than I change it right there.

It's very painful to carry over things that might not have been appropriate to you. You're body is a very healthy, powerful organism. It's just too bad that we abuse it. You have to take care of yourself inwardly at some point in time.

As for me, I am totally drawn to somebody who is sensible and sees the light in a lot of things. It doesn't take much for me to detect that in somebody, so if you have a lot of things on your plate, then away I have to go.

Ask yourself.

I can't recall the last time I had a positive thought

Most days I'm waiting for the world to give me another kick in the privates!

That is one of the coolest screen names I have ever seen!

Maybe. Maybe not.


Sometimes, no matter what, circumstances happen which one may not have control over.

We are all caught up in the middle of one gigantic circumstance. We always have control in our circumstance, whether we choose to exercise it or not, it is still there.

Not necessarily - keeping in mind that there are many times in which we cannot control the actions / circumstances of others, in turn, can have an impact.

Believe me, I know what I am talking about here... long story, and one not to be posted in a public forum.

Albert Bandura is a psychologist from the University of Stanford who explains the important concept of personal control in terms of self efficacy. The control mainly exists in our attitudes, and is not nessessarily a factual control. Still, it is probably the most active ingredient in determining the outcome of events.

Research shows that people who believe that they can exert control over circumstance will do better experience less stress from events, and perform better when confronted by obstacles. The sense or attitude of control is what makes the difference in how we experience things.

A person without this attitude of control is a slave to circumstance. Bandura found that he could teach people to control even a tiny aspect of the situation, then their confidence would improve, and they would gradually gain even more control.

No ball of string is ever in such a knotted mess that there isn't some place to begin unwravelling it. We can pull ourselves up by our boot straps, if we'll first bend over and reach for the straps. It's a start.

Wheter we recognized it or not, we have all experienced this effect ourselves, or at least seen it with others. Problems can easily seem overwhelming to the point that depression and anxiety kick in, and throw a wrench in our coping abilities. Then we are caught in the frightening downward spiral that intensifies our feelings of helplessness even to the point of panic. In moments like this, I've found the suggestion to relax to seem quite ridiculous.

"How am I supposed to relax at a time like this? Even Calgon can't relax away {fill in the blank with problems that are killing you}!!"

That's logic that is very hard to argue with. But, it's that attitude of hopelessness that makes any action short of a miracle seem pointless. It is also that attitude that stifles any possiblity of a miracle or recovery from the misfortune.

No matter how oppressive any situation seems, nothing can take away the fact that we can choose how we will respond to it. There is always the choice of attitude in how to respond. When we realize this, we have the creative edge of freedom in dealing with any circumstance. If we ignore this fact, we can never discover our true purpose in life. Even if the only choice is to turn a situation of defeat into an opportunity to learn something, an attitude like this can be the difference between ultimate defeat or survival.



*a short part of a really long story

I believe that the harder I work...the luckier I get.

Gee, thank you so much for doing all of that research. Too bad it doesn't change certain circumstances that have already happened!


End of story.

You look so sexy in sarcasm.

Ya think?

Choice has been proven to be a crucial element of survial for victims of catastrophes. Loss of freedom, whether by environmental forces, or by limitations of the body in sickness, can be a source of depression or the loss of will to survive.

Persons that have survived these types of situations tell us that by limiting their awareness to just a few areas of attention, they can gain a sense of freedom. Deciding how to tie your shoes can be a simple palce to start. If there are no shoes, then there might be toes to count, or name, or dedicate the day to. Nothing matters except to find some place, even if it's only in the imagination, to play the game of awareness. You make the choices in that game, and you make the choices to remain in charge of the game. As long as there is a choice, there is life.

University of Wisconsin psychologist, Richard Logan, has studied the survivors of ordeals like imprisonment, or being lost on a long voyage. He found that the person's attitude, above anything else, affected how the predicaments affected them. Some of those survivors reported a transcendence. They sort of merged with their environment while performing their activities, or even during moments of great suffering. By almost any "normal" standard the environments would be considered quite unsatisfactory. But when the transcendence occurred, any distastfulness would disappear.

A judgmental attitude traps the person in a prison of helplessness. When the awareness is focused on how things are not okay, and how much everything sucks we are stuck. Suspending this judgment allows us to become centered in the moment, and is rewarded with peace, harmony, and flow. A judgmental attitude cuts us off from the flow of life, acceptance carries us to the next unfolding moment, and the possiblity of change.

I don't mean to make light of your story....this is just a subject that I have a lot of interest in.

Caroline Myss's 'Woundology' is a good theory of how people hold onto their negatives in attempts to manipulate people around them rather than facing their stuff head on in a positive manner.

Life is what you make it. Its about using luck when appears. Shrugging off bad luck and getting on with life and not wallowing in self pity.


One of my best friends is an inspiration to me. She live in Belfast in the trouble is catholic married a solider. Her brother was killed by a random snipper her father died of a heart attack brought on by his death. Her husband was shot in front of her when she was out shopping with her toddle daughter. Yet there is no bittiness in her she has gone on to bring up two lovely children she was also pregnant at the time. She is one of the funniest kindest woman i have ever know.

So i know no matter what live throws at me if she can survive And still be one of the nicest human being i know that so can i