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Would you rather be loved or would you rather love?

I am loved..
And I love...

Am I IN love?...No, that takes two, I'm just one

Would I like to be?... Some day.

Wow...thats a double ended question...

For me ..I dont want one without the other...Guess i feel they both go hand in hand

I agree... although I don't think they necessarily go hand in hand ... I think it our own individual responsibility to do the giving and hope that the other person reciprocates... that aspect (unfortunately) we don't have any control over... I think you have to be brave enough to do that if you want to be truly loved...its a scary thought, but I believe its worth it...

Hmmm good question, interesting for sure...

Im not sure how to answer it logically....and if you can have one and not the other? As great as being loved is and I would have to go with I would rather love......
Only because, I cant imagine not loving my kids. I would rather have this feeling of loving them with all I am... the pride, honor, and accomplishment that comes with being their mom. I dont think I would feel all of that if I chose to be loved, rather then giving my love.
So with that, I'm assuming that I would choose the same way if were regarding a different relationship...aawww but to be loved is precious.

Yeah...thats a more accurate description of what i feel


So...will you marry me and have my children???

It is increable feeling to be LOVED ... if I could accept this formula long time ago I would be a happiest woman in the World ... a long time ago.

Unfortunately there is no logical answer on this question,Bebe .... It is the same as Life which has no Logic ... Only Amor Fati

Awww sooo lovely... to love is a wonderful feeling also our lives would be pretty hollow without that lovely warming sensation... I don't have any kids.. but I adore my niece and nephews.. such sweet angles.. and I'm not being biased

... sweet angels...

... sure as long as 12 kids is ok for u

Well said BEB! I remember after having my daughter thinking "I really am capable of unconditional love", I wasn't sure before that.

I would rather love.
Then expect, hope and be open to receive the other persons love.
If it's not returned. Their loss.

Marty. (*Old meaning* PS. the new meaning is for meanies only)

I pondered this for a bit, and then realized perhaps I have not had enough coffee. Yet.

In the absence of symmetry, I suppose I would rather love. Being loved without proffering reciprocation strikes me as something that feeds the ego and not much more.

Then again, unilateral love also strikes me as someone offering you to take a motorcycle for a ride, and then walking away without giving you the keys.

Well said Rwantin

Let's face it, people always whine when they dedicate themselves to others only to get zip!
So, i guess people want to be loved.
Everyone wants to be loved, right?



Ah, you can't satisfy humans.

yes ... you need more coffee, Robert.

BEB gave me a way out when she brought mother love into the equation.

If we are talking only about romantic love then I have to be a selfish biatch and say to be loved. I would hate holding a torch for someone who didn't return my affection... and I'm at least nice to men who are in love with me.

exactly, having kids puts a diff face on being loved or loving someone..unconditional love for sure, never knew I could love anyone so much until I had them..

for sure angels at times Aries, not sure about 12..but bless you for the thought of it..

I would think tho giving love without recieving it, wont be satisfying and that need would get stronger and even harm ones ability to love if it was never given back....everyone needs to be loved in some form or the other.

so true Luscious, you make a good point.

Kon...I always try and make things logically and with love, it doesnt seem to fit..