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do you get over being shy?

dance through life like you just don't care....

thats a great question...ive done many things to overcome it, not all have been pleasant...now i just dont shut up

Honey, I wouldn't exactly know. I've never been shy a day in my life. I think I felt, as a kid, that I got so much attention because of the backbrace and the body cast, that I had to stand up to it and just get past it, so I did at a young age.

It has served me well. Just play the part until you feel it.

good idea unless you have no rhythm

do we really buy me as shy????

I used to be real shy. I found that the more well read I became and could converse on a wide range of topics the more people wanted to talk to me-shyness cured!

You have to just get out there and do the things you don't like in oreder to become shy...Believe it or not I used to be painfully shy...didn't even like to go shopping by myself in case somebody looked at me... It wasn't until I started getting jobs etc that challenged my shyness that I finally overcame it...I was a prison guard at 19...no room for shyness there and in my next job I had to do alot of public speaking...Not to mention as my self-confidence grew...my shyness disappeared little by little!!!!!!!!

Now I can get up in front of a whole room of people I don't know...Not have a speach prepared and still give a damned good speach just off the top of my head!!!!!!!

It's all about challenging yourself and recognizing your own abilities as a person!!!!!!!!!

UMMMMMMMMM No...so my advice was for all the REAL shy people out there!!!!!!!!!

if you didn't care, you wouldn't notice if you had rhythm or not

im proud of you! givin a speech is a pain in the butt whether you're prepared or not

start baking like a chicken then if nobody is around you know you are ok,but?! if somebody sees you then you have crossed the first hurdle,the only drawback is they will think you a loon you do find on here gf was there a specific situation you refer to?

pssssssssst ::: i really am shy.....well in certain situations.........like meeting new ppl, around men, getting up before an audience(heck even when i'm confident about getting up before an audience my face turns bright red ):::

not caring what ppl think in general is not a big deal.......that's one thing ppl can say about me.........i just don't care bout that

hehe...i had a list and i accidently deleted it...

in highschool i was extremely shy and quiet and it didnt really get any better for a long time.
Cuz I knew i had a problem with it and I couldnt stand it and was a tad jealous of my friends who werent.
My first thing was I started making sure I always made eye contact, couldnt keep it for long, i wanted to look down...but each time i got better, now i maintain it very well. I put myself in uncomfortable situations where I had to talk and be upfront with ppl. I didnt notice a big diff until i started college bck in 2003...then i didnt really have an option, i was in new territory...very strange...by the time i was finished with school, I had held several offices and was nominated to speak infront of the Iowa Gov., oh man that was a doozy...cuss, i was so scared..i busted out laughing infront of 300 ppl, and ended up talking for 5 min...since then my shyiness has kinda despeared. Now I am usually the first to speak or make conversation with strangers and friends...yeh i talk too much...

Well as you can see I don't have a shy bone left in my body now!!!!!!!

i am a loon

there have been males who catch my interest .......i have a friend who keeps tellin me to "go for it" and when i say i'm too shy to make the first move.......she tells me to "get over it" but she can never tell me how................so since there are so many smart ppl on here i wanted to pick some brains

Wow, me too. I used to be so shy that I hid in the bathroom during recess because I was afraid the other kids wouldn't want to play with me...

and dont be afraid to laugh at yourself...i used to get offended when i would make a mistake and ppl would laugh...now, haha...i smile first, shrug my shoulders...you just can put to much value in what others think of you...