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Okay, so I know sometimes I can act immature, but isn't that sometimes a good thing? Take it from this angle- when I'm old and gray, I'm gonna be that crazy old coot down the street who just loves to have fun and make people laugh/smile. Now, My point here is not that at all though, my point is that a beautiful girl who's got maybe 3 or 4 years on me says I'm too young. "But you're adorable, so don't take it the wrong way" Am I really "Too young" to be flirting with girls in their twenties?! what is socially acceptable for an age difference?! I mean don't get me wrong i wouldn't date someone over 26 unless they REALLY had something goin' on, but.. You know?!

anyway I talk too much. Tell me what you think. Share stories .

naaaa i dont think your too young, yes for me...not for her...maybe she'll see the error in her ways..

I don't get it, Manigratsi, I think you deserve everything those older women want, and so to they! Don't give up. Be a bullfighter. Keep chasing them. Women are starting to come around.

Good luck.

It depends. The older you get, the less age differences matter. I'm 34, and I would date someone up to ten years older than me, but no more. When I was 20, I would never date someone who was in their thirties though.

I think that women have figured out that older men are probably more mature, which is not necessarily true, and they don't want to be with a younger guy. Especially at that age. Women in their early twenties perhaps are looking for a husband and figure a young guy won't be ready to settle down.

That's just my opinion though. Doesn't mean you can't prove them wrong! Just be respectful, and the one deserving of you will reciprocate!

4 or 5 years is a big difference when you're in your 20's. Guys are already less mature than girls at that age for the most part, that's why most girls look for someone close to or a bit older than they are.

You might have life experience that makes you more mature than some guys a few years older than you, if so she'll probably see that if she gets to know you better. But you being in your early 20's and she's in her mid 20's, you're probably at totally different stages in your lives. She may be ready to settle down, and you're probably not there yet, I'd hope, 21 is way too young to hook up and start having babies.

Enjoy this time in your life, it'll never happen again.

= be young...

Im afraid I have to be honest here... at your age... it can make a difference.. depends on where the girl is at... e.g. if she is looking for a 'longterm' committed relationship or if she is only looking for a bit of fun...

bit of fun... sure... but the thing is alot of girls over the age of 25 are starting to think about some kind of commitment... not in the sense that they want to drag the guy kickin and screaming up the aisle.. but something which has potential...

At 21 (and rightly so!!) you are out there to have fun, party, get with the girls for fun times etc.. your entitlement and obligation as a 21 year old (lucky b***tard!! :grin)...

Don't take it personally...

BTW ur cute... take it as a compliment

I do think maturity levels, life experience and personal development play a huge part in selecting a partner, but its wrong to judge that only on the basis of age! I would be open to anyone I found attractive and could have a stimulating conversation with regardless of her age.

You're 21?Had to check into that.Man,you've got it made!!!
In my early 20s I dated 3 women older.Two-29 years old and one 30 years old.These were good days for me.Gone were the silliness I had gone through.These gals all had professinal jobs,knew what they wanted,made there own money,and best off,taught me a thing or two about proper dining,proper drinking,how to really dance and they all had their own places to stay and more.I had no regrets and think back with a smile now.

I say you can gain alot by being with a woman a little older than you at age 21.But,if she's not having any part of it..you must move on.Every year after the age 21 goes faster and faster.Don't waste time where your advances may be unwelcome.At 21,life is a playground..so have fun!