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Marriage forever??? Get serious!! two years is pushing it!! It's a nice thought....but I never have been a romantic!!

I would have to have something in place to protect my half of whatever we built together but just would never feel entitled to anything that was his before we met - especially since there would be no children involved, if there were, of course I would be protecting their interests as well as looking at things like providing for their education.

No.

Very good question.

I agree with delineated marriage contracts, noble woman.

In high school I had this cool economics teacher....

We all witnessed his emotions and grief at the close of his divorce. He used to make jokes about sometimes divorce being OK if you really weren't meant for each other. Which I do agree with! His grief was not for the loss of his wife, for he was in agreement to the divorce....His grief was because she got the house the car everything......It was incredible the toll it took on him he was a different man one day. He became bitter...

One day He came back to class after some time away (probably divorce related)....His opening statement to the class was this......

"OK guys I have a new economics concept for you to think about......"

"SAY "I DO".............DIVIDE BY TWO!!!!! GET A PRE-NUP GUYS LOVE CAN CHANGE!!!!!!"

My take is this.....leave with what you came with, split amicably and equally everything you bring in together!!!!

A pre-nup isn't a bad thing, it can protect both parties equally. Divorce isn't always friendly!!!!



My two cents........(they're mine! )

i think it is garbage for mostly it shows no trust besides how many of us have enough to actually need one of those if for marriage, not that will ever be in my future. so why not other relationships as well then could save trouble there to.

Do not agree with you. This type of contract is important. Only by such contract people can provide their and their children future and keep from money hunters. Besides, such contracts appeared more then 1200 years ago.

Hmmm ... That's perhaps the most common reason not to have one ... ( but later ... when/if it comes to a divorce their tearing their hairs,whining and moaning and being all because someone who they were madly in Love leaves them almost naked on a street.)

Let's be realistic.


___________________________________________________________________________________Very good post Jet .... i had no idea that those type of contracts were in existance for 1200 years

Marriage is to hard to make work these days. There was a time that divorce was unheard of. People did what they had to, they were in it for the long hall! Now divorce is so easy to get, it's easier to get divorced then to make things work. Now everyone wants contracts before they agree to marry.
When did marriage become a buisness transaction, and stop being about love and trust?

Well I have had all three available marriage contracts - and none of them ended up fair, according to how they were worded. It gets more complicated than we think. Even lawyers couldn`t work it out.
It just boiled down to what the two of us agreed on sharing.

The Original Version: "In community of property" - where Everything is shared = the one who grabs and stashes the most before the divorce is thru wins.

The Antenuptial Contract: (where one having a business/property, is involved). Everything in you/their name belongs to that person. Pity the home-maker who just raises the children and doesn`t "own" anything.

Antenuptial Contract with Acrual: What is owned before the marriage is excluded from mutual sharing. This is the Complicated one the lawyers are bamboozled by - you get Consumer Price Index`s shoved under your nose and have to know how to use a Financial Calculator. The original worth of property is devalued, and what is left over is divided, except for what is in the name of the owner.
This one usually involves paying High Court costs or 3 days plus Advocate fees, in order for the Judge to decide, by which time there should be hardly anything left over to share anyway.

At the end of the day - the only agreement I have ever seen actually work well for both parties is an Ordinary Business Agreement, just like going into business together .... what you both are investing, and the sharing of profits after expenses ... but then you got to keep a Set of Books on the subject of your Life Together!

For some is better to have real statements in a lawful contract, which ''guarantees'' their certainty in their uncertain life.

Marriage IS a contract!!! Divorce happens when the contract is broken

What's yours is mine and whats mine is mine.


No it goes like this:


What's yours is mine

What's mine is mine

and what's ours is more mine than it is yours