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I can't believe it. My sons moved in with me 3 months ago after their mother kicked them out and they both are just leaving for their 3rd shift jobs (their first night); and I'm feeling sad like they're growing up and leaving the nest.

They are 18 and 21. They both had jobs when they lived with their mother on the other side of the state but I was just a weekend dad then.

I know we're all supposed to grow up and work, but I feel sad and lonely. That is so wierd.

Awwww

I haven't had to go throo any of that yet..

Eeek! I'm not looking forward to it either.

That's a Fathers love, thanks for sharing.

Thank you.

On the upside..

think of the pressure it will lift from your wallet..

Growing up is a hard thing ( and I mean that for us! ) My son is 22 and lives on his own - for about a year now...I had a really hard time with that one, but I see the man that he is becoming, and I am proud of him...I wish you much peace with the transition of it all...it doesn't come all at once-thankfully, but when it is over with, it is a bitter pill to swallow...


jmo

it's ok they'll be back in the morning!!!



sux tho when they grow up

Thank you. I never expected to be sitting here bawling like a baby. Maybe it's a culmination of the whole day.

:::have some tissues::: it's ok we all go through it


with them living full time with you now, it hit you more the "empty nest" feeling

Awwwww

Then again...some of us are never allowed to grow up....lol

My parents live in the same city I do and are over here quite a bit (they're my menehune's ....uumm...elfs). I also end up going over to their house to help them out. So I'm sure they don't feel like I've ever left...lol

I do know how you feel though. When my older son moved to his dad's it was a big adjustment for me. It was even harder when my ex won custodial parenting of my younger son....that was back in 2002 I think....and even now, if I think about it or talk about it too much I can end up in tears. I ended up with the empty nest before I was ready. It didn't happen gradually.

*think I need to go read & change the direction my mind's going*

I will always remember the day when we brought my eldest son to college. I bawled all the way home. When they grow up and get lives of their own, the family structure changes...life is never the same. I am thankful today that I had both sons, I did the best I could raising them and watching them turn into the wonderful men they are today.
Its hard to let go....once a parent, always a parent....worrying, wondering.... go with it and just accept it all....its life...

It's been a number of years for me now since my sons left the nest. I can't tell you how happy it would make me, even to this day, to come in from work one day and see a backpack on the floor near the door, a dirty cereal bowl on the coffee table, and a pair of size 13 tennis shoes in the middle of the living room floor.....all the things that used to drive me nuts! The clichés are so true....they do grow up too fast.

Krazie, I have no offspring--and it's a damn good thing--but I wish you the best in working this out.

My son just turned 13 and I am feeling the pain of him growing up too fast. I can't imagine what the first day of work must feel like!
I remember the first day of middle school! He was so cute - he wanted me to stay with him! 6th grade and he wanted his mom there with him all day! It was a new school and a new schedule - he had to change classrooms for the first time on his own. I felt honored and I felt his terror. He truely has a beating heart. Which makes this momma proud!
I feel for you Krazie! Hang in there!
~sakana

I know what you mean...my sons are now living with me again. They're both 19. No, not twins. They're 10 months apart. The oldest will be 20 next month.

After having 9 children....3 boys 6 girls, I've realized that them having a job, going to work, and getting their own place is what I LIVE for right now!!! But seriously I do know how you feel. My oldest is almost 25 and they grow up so fast. In my case having 5 more girls at home........NOT FAST ENOUGH!!!

there are 2 things you give your children...
one is roots for a strong foundation and anchor...
two is wings so they can fly and soar for their dreams

beautiful and very true........


then watch them fly with tears in your eyes, because if you've done well, it will show in just how high they soar-running into obstacles along the way, and handling them, to get to their dreams...

I am witnessing it in my life right now, and while it is a painful experience, it is also an amazing one!

Terrific post beb....

My sons dont live with me...thank goodness.
They do however work with me in the family
business.
This is where 'role reversal' comes into play
quite often.
Its not unknown for one of them to give me
a ticking off and suggest i "could do better"
but when it comes down to it, they know,

Dad knows best