Posted: Jun 8, 2008, 10:44 AM CST
we broke up while i was pregnent, he cheatet and i left the relationship than.
he never evr payed an penny.
but still i told him, because money and being an parent are 2 different things, if he like he can see his son when ever he wants to.
well, he never taked that possibility either.
i figured for my and my sons life (he is 17 now)
that the best way is to not count on anybody.
some bucks more or less do not make life better or nicer.
plan the things only in what you have secure every month and the rest is just not worse to use the steress all the time.
people can be poor and happy. parents never ever should tell children that the the fould why money is tide, is by the other parent. in fact, money problems should not be as a talking about point at all as a problem.
kids can know that money is not there in masses, and that we have to safe money before we can buy soemthing bigger, what enyway helps them better to understand to not get broke and life from credits...smile... but besides that?
no way!
it is not on the kids to handle that and nobody at all have to feel unloved why somebody is not paying... money have nothing to do with love and should be total out of this pot.
otherwise we teach the bad things...if somebody pays for you...he or she loves you? uhhhhggggg.... no way!