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I can't use emoticons or I would have a bunch here for you! You guys are just mean and rotten! LOL

just realistic, love my kids to bits always will, but what they can put you though is not easy !!!!!!!!!!

i know, Dizzy. That's why I'm scared. Now having to go it alone, too. My husband (their father) just passed away. Don't know how we will get through it without him!

When i was in my teens I screwed up and my father said to me 'it is not what you did , but that you got cought' I continued to screw up but was cautious to not get cought ever again. I'm not sure if this is reasuring but I did listen to dads advice.


Dennis

Well it's true that getting caught can add all sorts for permanent damages to a stupid kid prank, so I can see that logic. Hope it never comes to that. I just wonder if there's something I could be doing to make it easier to communicate with them when they start growing horns and all! LOL

While, and after raising my own 3 kids through teens, I also fostered drug addicted alcoholic teens with criminal records. I have been fostering now for 11 years and have 2 at the moment aged 15 and 17. My own kids are now 23, 26 and 28. All have turned out really nice people.

Holy Cow! Can I bookmark your name for the first crisis call????

I think I might have enough on my plate for the moment lol

Been there and done that, just carry on talking to your kids as they are individuals and hope for the best they come out the other end as lovely people

A great aunty of mine once said that the children were not mine but on loan to me, to raise them (great words from an old lady)

I have to laugh, my father once said that there was only one person on this planet that I can trust , I expected him to say that it was him, instead he said it was my mother. ,,,,,,,Probably the only one that would say "I would not change a thing"


Dennis

So can I call YOUR mother at the first sign of crisis? LOL I know I'm not alone here, and that helps. But I'm still scared witless. They are such little angels now.....

Your quest is a fools erand. You do the best that you can and there is nothing else.


Dennis

just enjoy them while you can, at their ages that is all you can do

It think it's easier when the parent has done all the crazy shit the kids are about to do,but think they can get away with it.

Been there done that i say.And looking forward,don't even think about it.
SPEECHLESS!

Tough love works wonders.

Not sure if you realy want to talk to my mom, however the little angles will teach you, your mom will help even when you do not want her to.

Dennis ( Have fun , and understand that you will look back and the view will be differnt)

And aren't ya'll just full of faith and optimism??? Ugh. Just remember when I start to get a little nutty on this site....my kids are driving me to do it! LOL

hey there i am a teenager and i gave my parents the time of life when i hit my teens and you know what i found out................... my parents are tough and i fought and fought and i lost over and over until i came to the realization that i live here and what they have to tell me is not always right but it leads me to the right path for me. but if want some advice from a broken teen to a parent............. never give in.... constant consistence no matter what they did if they broke the rules then you punish them no matter the excuse and the number one is no privacy if they live in your house and they eat your food and they were your cloths they have no privacy. it works i know i am a trater to all teens when i say it. and to all of you parents that want to be a friend instead of a parent stop grow a backbone and do what needs to be done. because if its not done it could hurt the kid and it will hurt you because you will always feel guilty.............

so good luck

Many thanks, Blue! Maybe we should get you to start a teen group for clueless parents! I love the idea. Thanks!

You are a saint

Beat them with a belt.

Not flogging mind you, but a good Bare a$$ whoopin' Generally calms them.


I mean Yeah, I'm only 18 and can't possibly have a teenage child BUT I just went through that phase.

Don't leave a mark, Just cause enough stinging pain to Show you are still the Adult.

I mean my Dad has Told me on a number of occasions that No matter how big i am, He will still lay me out if I get too big for myself.

A good excuse is "I brought you into this world, I can take you out."