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My ex-wife's boyfriend called me at 12:01 am Central Time to give me pointers on how to raise my daughter. Once I was in my car on the way over, it was suddenly a misunderstanding.

Am I over reacting?

Would anyone else get violently angry over something like that?




still

a little bit

I'd have given him hell on the phone....HE'S not her DAD....

I agree with you completely... I believe that the parenting part should be kept between u and ur ex wife because they are both of your kids... If there was a problem which im not saying there was it should have been ur ex wife to address it to you.... its understandable to be upset however i dont believe that violence is the answer to anything granted if i was in that situation i would want to be kickin some arse but the best way to go about it is to speak with ur ex wife about the situation and explaining that it is not appreciated and that if there are any problems or occurances in raising ur children it should be discussed between the two of you.. jmo

NO you're her DAD he should mind his own dam business.

JMO

no you should of carried on driving and let your fists do the talking

I did...I said, "Where would you like to meet me?"

He says, "To be honest, it wouldn't bother me if I never saw you again. We don't need you."

I said, "It seems like you are seriously confused about your role in my daughter's life. I think we should get together and get this sorted out."

That's the short G rated version of it anyhow. He wasn't expecting me to answer the phone at midnight. He probably didn't know that I have been aching for an excuse to beat him ever since my daughter was trying to use his last name. Grrrrrrrrrrrr

I know that violence isn't the answer, but sometimes I get it wrong on purpose.

He sounds like a total d!@k. He's not even the step-dad, just a bf? He really is totally out of line. You had a right to get mad, and you didn't really carry out the violent response, so I'd say no, you're not over-reacting. Might want to speak with him when you're calm and tell him firmly that it's none of his business how you raise your child.

I was trying to get him to meet me somewhere. It wouldn't do to get arrested in front of my daughter.

But I know what you mean

I can definately see being very angry. but think telling him off on the phone would have been enough then hang up.
But to head over threr in your car says that you have a temper problem! Especially if you were willing to make it physical in front fo the kids!!!

This shows problems in your thinking process also.
might need to take a longer look at how you act with the kids.

But yes.. the guy is an assH(&e

What?

Kids need to learn when and how to whip arse too.

You don't want it to go that far....even if you beat the guy's ass and avoid getting arrested, word will get back to your daughter...cause that's what evil ex's do....spread shit.

I don't knw your situation, but I find myself doing damage control everytime my kids come home. It scks, and I'm ready to file for custody, sell the business, and move far away.

long story, but it sounds like you can relate with out me going into details.

i can relate on this subject seeing as tho i was in the same situation however... i was the daughter... I have seen my father get arrested in those situations and it was never good to see.. I admired my dad more for coming up and taking his stand when it came to me which is something u should be admired for...


I completely agree with he is just a boyfriend even if they were married being a step father is honestly to me just a title... not a role.... unless of course the father was never in there life to begin with..... U are Her father She is Ur Daughter....... No one should even be thinking about trying to get in the middle of that... Ur ex wife should have seen that and thought of her daughters well being in the whole situation it can be confusing for a child and she needs her fathers guidance not some guy whose with her mother...


Kudos to you

i understand wot your saying but if your daughters find out you can always sit down and tell them why it happend your daughter would nt stop loving her dad

Hitting someone over words is not a good thing to teach kids.

jmo-- it can be damaging to see from personal experience.. even tho i never stopped loving my father seeing him get arrested was very hard being a child... R.i.p. daddy i miss u a lot

sorry bout that

I wouldn't have done it because of the words, but in order to establish dominance.

She won't stop loving her dad, but "Violence begets Violence".

And young children are impressionable.

AND they hear EVERYTHING...even if you think they don't,,.....

That's so sweet, I know he loved you to.

What are you? A Gorilla?