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Just a lion protecting his cub

Which is nice to see actually because a lot of fathers out there arent there for there children.......


Its nice to see a fathers love even tho it can be crazy at times

I wish.

I agree

Wow not a good example to set a child. I understand you are upset and this man seems like he trying to take over your child, but Violence is not the answer. What if your daughter loves this guy, children have the capacity to love many people it does not make her love you less. Beating him up would confuse and hurt her. I agree you should be talking to your ex, particularly as this guy rubs you up the wrong way.

Nice to see a lot of the men on CS not Advocating Violence.

I like the way you and some others did not advocate violence, but didn't make me feel like a freak for having those emotions.

Thanks y'all!

Her Mom and I talked again today, and she apologized profusely. She said that she didn't know that he was going to do that, and agreed that it's between me and her, and not his place to get involved. I apologized too for overreacting and tried to explain what it was that set me off.....

I don't know if I will ever get over the anger fully. I hate that I'm a part time Dad. Hate it, hate it, hate it, hate it! I have a legal right to have my daughter for less than ¼ of every year. This guy is living with my ex-wife, and my daughter is there most of the time, and that alone makes me insanely jealous. I wouldn't take a pinch of crap from him to really set me off.

I am very happy that u and her were able to speak and get things cleared up.. Dont think its wrong to feel jealous it is very understandable. this is something that is very hard to go through.. but just know no one can replace ur daughter's daddy.. thats u and u should be proud of that...
wishing nothing but good things your way

The timing was bad, and the advice, well, try to rise above the petiness, because after all, he is also involved, and your daughter is in the middle. I have to say that this speaks poorly for your ex wife too, because a smart woman is able to keep the peace between all involved...

Sleeping with your ex...doesn't make him daddy..remind him of that next time!!!!!!!

Can't say I blame ya for being angry...self-righteous people who like to throw things in your face..when it's not their place make me.... too....

And speak with the Ex, Dio. It's her place to keep the d*ckhead in line.

She claims that she chewed his ass. Last night after he called me, she told him, "He's probably on his way over here right now."

But who knows what actually is said by her?



Sometimes I wonder if she sort of unconsciously enjoys getting me stirred up, because her Dad was never around when she was little.

ok, so he,s an asshole. Hangup and ignore him.He is nothing to you. Do not let somebody else come between you and your daughter. It is understandable to feel angry, been there. In later years you can explain to your daughter and she,ll love you even more for being mature enough not to have risen to the bait of a fool. My kids now think I,m great for not having risen to the bait.

I like the old school method of taking the bait from the fool, and beating him severely about the head and shoulders with it, simply because I can. I am further convinced that this method strongly discourages future foolishness.

I kind of like being compared to a Lion, or a Gorilla.....


Ugggh...Dio...Animal...

Dio...Godzilla...ex-wife puny boyfriend...Japan

This is a difficult situation and maybe he is trying to be what he perceives as a good role model to your daughter. After all, you've already said that he sees more of your daughter than you do bieng an integral part of your ex wife's life.

You both need to get together and talk about this rationally for your daughter's sake. Whether you like it or not she has a relationship with this man and it's better for her that there is no conflict however much it makes you jealous.

Incidentally, why did he feel the need to call you at such a late hour to criticise your parenting skills? We don't know the whole story do we, maybe he felt the need to do this for a valid reason?

I don't really want to get into the "whole story". I just wanted to wine about it a little bit.

My jealousy regarding my daughter can provoke me to violent rage. Although I may seem glib about it, it's not something that I'm genuinely proud of. It's just something that I'm wrestling with.

Right now, I have a joint legal & physical custody agreement with my ex-wife. Her and I together have the exclusive right to make determinations regarding our daughter's upbringing such as where she attends school, medical decisions, religion, etc. etc. He simply has no say int he matter...period. I do recognize that if they get married, as the head of the household of which my daughter is a primary resident, then he will have some responsibilities of guardianship including discipline that cannot be avoided.

For the time being, he is just the second guy that my wife has shacked up with since our divorce was final, and one of twelve that I know about that have spent the night in her home since we were separated. At the moment, I don't have the slightest inclination of negotiating any sort of compromise with him.

I tend to feel like what is in my daughter's best interest, is that I refuse to share my Daddyship with anyone.

ok, so you get the satisfaction of thumping him. Here,s what happens next......

You get arrested and charged, maybe even go down for it. Then you kid has got to go to see you in a jail. You get a criminal record which could have an impact on the rest of your life. He gets to spend even more time with your daughter and possibly forms a stronger bond than the one she,s got with you. Indeed, the courts may decide that as somebody prone to violent outbreaks you are not fit to have any contact, or maybe only supervised contact, with your daughter. I know it,s a crock of shit, believe me. He,s not worth it. Your daughter is your prime object, what,s good for her, not for you. She will respect and love you more. I know.

Try not to be jealous of any role he plays in here life. Concentrate on you role and setting a good example.

I am going to try to assume that you don't intentionally mean to seem condescending. I have made that assumption wrongly in the past, and really pissed of some people I considered friends.

I'll just say...I fully understand the consequences of violence. It is a subject that I have given a great deal of thought as a Sociology student in college. I'd be lying if I tried to pretend that I'm above it.

Thanks for caring enough to respond. I promise to carefully consider your input.

Thanks, I am not being condescending, I,m trying offer sincere,heartfelt advice to somebody who is in a very similar position to one I,ve been in. I managed to avoid the wrong moves by listening to good friends. I really do feel for you. My god, many was the time I wanted to go round and smack the other guy. Don,t think I don,t know how hard it is, and bloody painful. You seem like a nice guy to me
and your feelings are a reflection of the love you have for your daughter. Having those feelings are perfectly natural and understandable in a loving caring dad, better than one who just pisses off and doesn,t give a damn. Just concentrate on you and your daughter,let him go to hell. Oh and good luck.