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thanks bella
didnt know you were here
but i do know you know

im too friggin ouchy today to bother
and i was the point so now life is good
this round is hopefully complete




L8R

Stupid is not the word for this behavior, stupid I can handle. Depression or alcohol is no excuse for being totally disrespectful of others. Get help, don't whine or attack others for your problems.

I seriously believe this guy has a big problem. When he first came on, he was nasty and rude, depressed and depressive. Then lately he started acting half-ass decent, I figured maybe he's found something to help him, or else it was a totally different person posting on his name. Then last night the obnoxious boor came out again in full force. I can't deal with people that you never know who they're going to be.

If someone has a problem, I don't feel the need to subject myself to it. I lived with a drunk, depressed, ex who wouldn't get help. No way I'm feeling anything but pity mixed with a slight revulsion for anyone like him. They don't want to be happy, it's so unknown it's scary to them. Depression and anger at the world for their problems is easier for them cause it's what they know, it's everyone else's fault and they don't have to look at themselves.

Provoking anger is what people like him feed off of. It justifies in their mind what they are feeling and doing. He's run off every person IRL by this behavior, so he has come here to get his fix of it. Don't show it to him and give him the reaction he craves, he'll go find it somewhere else. When the vending machine button stops working, he'll find another one to push. Just make sure it's not yours.

As I've mentioned to you before... I have my OWN mind.. no on will push my buttons unless I want them too.

you are absolutely right that alcohol and depression are no excuse for disrespectful behaviour towards others..

But I DO recognise those things as a problem. (I too have experience with all that) .. and for those things.. I DO have empathy.

There is a distinct difference between empathy and enableing. Not saying you are, but just for the record.

Well.. that's good.. I'm glad you are not saying that. ESPECIALLY.. considering this is the first time I have said a word about it.. here.. or off the forums.

Hehe..I know, I just couldn't help myself.

Oh! dur!

Really, that's good. Not necessarily good for him, but good for you. Probably something I could use some work on. At least you're not getting angry and giving him what he wants.

Personally Bev.. I don't give a flying fart about what he does.. that's HIS choice. If he chooses to alienate himself by behaving like a prat.. then so be it.. HIS choice.



I just don't like to see a dog kicked when its down.

Sometimes i have seen some people on CS claim or discuss their RL problems . And as it goes on , initially we are supporting or giving advice. Laters if he/she goes on with sob stories slowly our patience wears out and we call it drama or pity seeking. On other instances , if he/she is rude we attack them or even tell them to seek professional help. If they behave fine for a while , we arent affected. But if they behave inappropriately we vehemently want to set them rite or make them ashamed.

Now having been here for a short while , i think we see such posters quite often. Point is we dont know what is the truth for real nor what goe son in the backdrop.

For all that we have done so far , it hasnt stopped. But, we have definitely made them feel worse or run away if they are sensitive .. but if they are here only to wreck peace they enjoy it eitherways
( any attention ) .

So..... why not just either leave them alone or respond in a simple manner. The insulting doesnt help anyone.

Good answer.

EGGS-Actly!

Skeptic, you sure know how the get the women involved. You can wipe the smurk off your face now.

Call me shallow, but anyone who uses "whom" correctly (as in the above sentence) me likee!

Good answer

<-- to the "Queen of reason" around here

thanku ..thanku..

ermm .. i am feeling generous today .. soo ... here's for dear Zell ..

( chocklates ) and a free entry and invite to the etiquette party on CS ( ermm its sans etiquette really )

One of my friends call its Et-e-kut... she says... *None of yooo buugggers 'as as much Et-e-kut as me!*

So..... why not just either leave them alone or respond in a simple manner. The insulting doesnt help anyone exactly

reminds me of gorgeousgal .. i miss her ..

and ermmm claayer you shocked me with the "flying fart " thing.