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I was thinking that just flowers would confuse her more and maybe get her hopes up again.
Just think the card would clear it up quickly without giving her time to get too excited. then meet her in person.
If worded right... it would give per peace of mind more quickly rather than crushing her a second time by letting her get her hopes up again?

Lets hear some other womens views on this one!!!

I was thinking that just flowers would confuse her more and maybe get her hopes up again.
Just think the card would clear it up quickly without giving her time to get too excited. then meet her in person.
If worded right... it would give per peace of mind more quickly rather than crushing her a second time by letting her get her hopes up again?

Lets hear some other womens views on this one!!!

Hmmmm, I like the idea of flowers, not roses, something cheerful and springy. Maybe just keep the note short and sweet, somthing like, sorry I snapped, had a bad day, I'm an arse, friends? Then give her a couple days, if she doesn't call, call her. Then take total blame for the incident, cause you were something of an ass, even if you were justified in how you felt at the time.

You may never get back to exactly like it was before, but if you're honest with each other, it could be even better. Or not. But do try to give her some dignity back, if you're really good friends.

Just my .02, as a woman.

thanks... no woman in her right mind would agree with you---screw the flowers-just go over there and confront her with it all-THEN take her out to dinner/lunch....

All women do not think alike, all men do not think alike.

Hmmmm, I like the idea of flowers, not roses, something cheerful and springy. Maybe just keep the note short and sweet, somthing like, sorry I snapped, had a bad day, I'm an arse, friends? Then give her a couple days, if she doesn't call, call her. Then take total blame for the incident, cause you were something of an ass, even if you were justified in how you felt at the time.

You may never get back to exactly like it was before, but if you're honest with each other, it could be even better. Or not. But do try to give her some dignity back, if you're really good friends.

Just my .02, as a woman.

For 5 years she eaten at my house 5-7 times per month. She has been friends with 3 of my GF's. So haveing her over for d&m was nothing other than ordinary.
I hadn't called her on the comments because I feared things would get weird. But now I see that as a mistake.

You may be right, who knows.

As hard as some of the responses may have been to your situation...I would like to commend you for at least seeing that you made a mistake and caring enough about your friend to want to rectify it..That takes compassion and guts!!!!!!!!!

I have to ask,
Have you ever had relations with her?

But if a best friend as you say.. I can't imagine loosing it like that with her. you could have just sat her down and explain exactly how you see her, and that you would appreciate it if she could just keep it as friends.

but I think you have deeply hurt her, she was clearly hoping for more and you blew her away.

Would be a great time to send her some flowers with a card telling everything about how you see the relationship. and In writing, it gives you the time and space to articulate what you say and how you say it,

write out how you feel on a seperate piece of paper first,, final draft in the card.

Just make it clear that you value her as a friend.

I take full blame here. I f**ked up and would give anything to take it back or fix it. This is a very beutiful and wonderful person who I've hurt. So you are all correct I F**cked up.

That may be sooooooooo but did you read my response?As hard as some of the responses may have been to your situation...I would like to commend you for at least seeing that you made a mistake and caring enough about your friend to want to rectify it..That takes compassion and guts!!!!!!!!!

A few years back we took a trip to louisville, ky. We shared a room at a bed and breakfast. One nite while there we went out to a bar called steve rays. Upon returning to the room that nite she made a comment that let me know she was willing if I was interested. I rolled over and went to sleep. The next morning we headed back and never spoke of it again. I should have handled this long ago I guess.

A big mistake we all tend to make in many situations is to hold back until the pressure causes us to explode. Then we hurt the ones we have tried to avoid hurting worse than if we had handled it sooner.