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This is for the divorced or single parents.

Do you ever worry how your prospects would be around your children? Do you have a special way to discern women; the kind that will treat your children the right way and not with ' they are just someone else's kids, not mine' attitude?

I think this could be harder for divorced males.

The reason i ask this, is because i have noticed different ways older women approach me when they think i need some guidance and wondering how it would be between them and say, people a few years younger than i am.

If i was 17, i'd be scared for my step-mother.

It is something that I give a great deal of thought to. I don't really have a simple answer. I have resolved to be very very selective of a long term partner, or new wife. I hate to brag (actually I love it), but my daughter is a very loving little girl. It would take a real hardcore douche bag to not love her right back.

A special tribute to Princessforsomeone.


You always have a tasteful way of approaching things and i'm sure you make a great mom. You taught me something a week ago and i'm glad you made it your business to try to guide me that way.

You saved me.

haha Aaawww

Tell me! tell me!.. she always has such good ideas ...

She looks like a real princess.

I think it might be easier for men with really young kids to start off with someone new than for those with teenagers and ages above that. (???)

I was watching this show that said that whether we like it or not, a young person's mind is still developing to at least their late twenties. Now, i may not be a teenager, but i am particularly appreciative of older adults who put their concerns of me in a decent manner and quite aggresive( like teenagers, haha) when it's done distastefully.


It would be easy for a partner to show kindness and love to a young kid than one over 15.

The best way to learn a person would probably be with how tey deal with people over this age. They can't hide for long in such cases.

Aww sweet ... love to hear proud Daddy's boast about their lil' girls...

Top secret.

She first asks, listens and then guides me by email and has never tried to judge or crucify me maliciously, in public.


She's mature and a lady by action.


I may not have a mother but it is women like her who inspire me. I'm not missing out on anything after all.

Wow Lusc.. ur new photo is stunning!!

Thank you girl. That's Raul. (the bunny)


He's asleep now.

Hi Luscious,this topic is not only for divorced parents but also for widowed ones too.Having experienced the latter with 2 young daughters ages 5 and 7 at the time.Me being their dad raising 2 girls is quite a challenging and a learning process for moi.

Going through counselling and therapy have enlighten me ,of both scenarios facing the future as a single parent.

First in a divorce situation, the children always are the ones that suffer the most.Depending on how amicable or bitter the divorce is will determine the extent of the children reactions.This scenario is a tempoarary one which prolong the situation untill adulthood.

In a widowed situation,this condition is considered a permanent one,that is there is no turmoil and fighting between parents.It is a grieving one,where accepting and dealing with reality of facing the future without one parent can be devasting to a child.

With continuous therapy and counselling can only eases the pain at times.

Having said the above one have to consider of placing their children in a situation from whence they come from.Taking a chance of a step parent accepting your children as their own and not showing preferential treatment should be a considered.Sometimes the risk of a single parent is better than a 2 parent scenario.

Considering the pros and cons in raising and developing children ,it is always correct to think of their welfare first and foremost.With continuous counselling and therapy the desired end results can be achieved.

I guess it's safe to say in your case, that the way to a man's heart, is through his children.
It would be selfish for a parent to put all his/her needs before their children's. I would make them a priority, if i had them.

Thanks for the insightful post Rob.

I divorced when my daughter was two years old and chose not to get involved with anyone else and her father chose not to be a part of her life. I think it is important if one of the parents is no longer involved to provide good role models of that sex for your child. In my case my father, brothers and best male friend provided great male role models for my daughter and were a huge part of her life and still are. When I look at her now I know I made the right choice... She's confident, smart, loving and is marrying the perfect guy for her next year.

Good luck with your situation, I'm sure it can be difficult but you sound like a really loving dad and I'm sure what ever you decide will be the best choice for your kids.

Thanx Jbidiza...congratulation on a wonderful job...you are worthy of all admiration...and be proudly rewarded... .

Raul? what a name

Everyone I've ever met has to go through a rigorous testing phase before they can even MEET my kids. Children, especially mine, are very quick to get attached to someone. In my case, the kids don't have a positive female role model in their lives.

NO ONE will meet my kids until I know FOR SURE that they're a) right for me....and b) right for them.

It`s not an easy task i` meet a girl hear on CS she was great to my kids as i was to her daughter so much so she would ask her mother daily when i was coming over it took her a little while to come around but eventually i won her afections i even won the afections of her parents she told that i was the best guy she`d ever brought home made me feel ten foot tall, but she treated me like a low life i don`t know of any man that wouldn`t get tired of thatafter three times i broke it off. It broke my boys hearts because they liked to play with her daughter it`s been about two months and my three year old daughter still ask for her. it`s tough finding that girl that will treat you as well as she does your kids

I am sure you make a great father Goseeeey.



I think waiting before letting them meet 'a prospect' is rather clever. It wouldn't help for them to get attched to someone who won't be there the next day. ( I'm talking about 1 night stands)

I'm sorry to here that, and hope your kids heal soon.