The step factor

Claayer
Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK

Posted: Mar 23, 2008, 2:33 PM CST

j_goose71 wrote:

Everyone I've ever met has to go through a rigorous testing phase before they can even MEET my kids. Children, especially mine, are very quick to get attached to someone. In my case, the kids don't have a positive female role model in their lives.

NO ONE will meet my kids until I know FOR SURE that they're a) right for me....and b) right for them.

Thats just like my kids.. they are like that.. I only have to LOOK at someone and they have us walking up the aisle.

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jus_4you
pleasantville, New Jersey USA

Posted: Mar 23, 2008, 2:42 PM CST

lusciousmile wrote:

I'm sorry to here that, and hope your kids heal soon.

thanks luscious, my boys have gotten over it but daughter wishes she would come back, my ex has tried to work it out saying she didn`t mean what she said and that it was that she was upset with somebody else, to me it doesn`t justify taking it out on me i`m nobodys punching bag

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prncss4someone
Hopeful, Michigan USA

Posted: Mar 23, 2008, 3:59 PM CST

lusciousmile wrote:

Top secret.

She first asks, listens and then guides me by email and has never tried to judge or crucify me maliciously, in public. She's mature and a lady by action. I may not have a mother but it is women like her who inspire me. I'm not missing out on anything after all.

awwww, how sweet are YOU! That brought tears to my eyes...

[color=fuchsia]I have a 22 year old son and never found anyone to be with as he was growing up that would fit into our lifestyle. My son has faced many trials in his young life, some of them jading him-but temporarily, because I was bound and determined not to let this world keep him down. Anger, writing rap that would make anyone's blood curdle to stories that would give you nightmares--patiently went through these forms of artistic impression and now he is in college and is blowing his English teacher away with his depth and command of the language-being a wordmaster that makes you really think. I am very proud of him, and as for his friends, since he was a teenager, I was mom to them-and to this day. It always makes me feel so good when they just give me a hug upon meeting and leaving-my son included. You are a very smart girl, and I think that when become a woman-you will be a wonderful one, in the truest sense of the definition.

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Mar 23, 2008, 4:12 PM CST

prncss4someone wrote:

awwww, how sweet are YOU! That brought tears to my eyes...
[color=fuchsia]I have a 22 year old son and never found anyone to be with as he was growing up that would fit into our lifestyle. My son has faced many trials in his young life, some of them jading him-but temporarily, because I was bound and determined not to let this world keep him down. Anger, writing rap that would make anyone's blood curdle to stories that would give you nightmares--patiently went through these forms of artistic impression and now he is in college and is blowing his English teacher away with his depth and command of the language-being a wordmaster that makes you really think. I am very proud of him, and as for his friends, since he was a teenager, I was mom to them-and to this day. It always makes me feel so good when they just give me a hug upon meeting and leaving-my son included. You are a very smart girl, and I think that when become a woman-you will be a wonderful one, in the truest sense of the definition.

I'm sure your son and friends are proud to be a part of your life.

Thank you again princess.

Lots of love.

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nomindgames
Painesville, Ohio USA

Posted: Mar 23, 2008, 4:17 PM CST

Unfortunaley I am probaly too old to meet a gentleman and get serious with wh has smaller ones.I'd love it.I a very maternal and enjoyed my own,reading books and watchig them have fun at the park.As of now,no chidren and a grandson in another country,no communucation.I persoanally would love to met a man with kid.Of course most that I meet have older ones.

I was in this situation when my son was born till he was 4.Then the man I went with and got engaged too,was his father figure till my son was 14.It was hars for my son and I and my new son,but he was a great dad.I missed out on alot of dating when I hada child for a few years,he came 1st.Then I dated,but strictly away from him,in case it didn't work out.Be so careful all of youGo with the gut instinct and watch and listen.There are many good people out there with their own or have none,but either way they can love you and your kids.

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jus_4you
pleasantville, New Jersey USA

Posted: Mar 23, 2008, 4:22 PM CST

nomindgames wrote:

Unfortunaley I am probaly too old to meet a gentleman and get serious with wh has smaller ones.I'd love it.I a very maternal and enjoyed my own,reading books and watchig them have fun at the park.As of now,no chidren and a grandson in another country,no communucation.I persoanally would love to met a man with kid.Of course most that I meet have older ones.

I was in this situation when my son was born till he was 4.Then the man I went with and got engaged too,was his father figure till my son was 14.It was hars for my son and I and my new son,but he was a great dad.I missed out on alot of dating when I hada child for a few years,he came 1st.Then I dated,but strictly away from him,in case it didn't work out.Be so careful all of youGo with the gut instinct and watch and listen.There are many good people out there with their own or have none,but either way they can love you and your kids.

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Mar 23, 2008, 4:32 PM CST

nomindgames wrote:

Unfortunaley I am probaly too old to meet a gentleman and get serious with wh has smaller ones.I'd love it.I a very maternal and enjoyed my own,reading books and watchig them have fun at the park.As of now,no chidren and a grandson in another country,no communucation.I persoanally would love to met a man with kid.Of course most that I meet have older ones.

I was in this situation when my son was born till he was 4.Then the man I went with and got engaged too,was his father figure till my son was 14.It was hars for my son and I and my new son,but he was a great dad.I missed out on alot of dating when I hada child for a few years,he came 1st.Then I dated,but strictly away from him,in case it didn't work out.Be so careful all of youGo with the gut instinct and watch and listen.There are many good people out there with their own or have none,but either way they can love you and your kids.

Thanks for the contribution, NMG.

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alex_192
sarasota USA

Posted: Jul 11, 2008, 11:42 AM CST

lusciousmile wrote:

This is for the divorced or single parents.

Do you ever worry how your prospects would be around your children? Do you have a special way to discern women; the kind that will treat your children the right way and not with ' they are just someone else's kids, not mine' attitude?

I think this could be harder for divorced males.

The reason i ask this, is because i have noticed different ways older women approach me when they think i need some guidance and wondering how it would be between them and say, people a few years younger than i am.

If i was 17, i'd be scared for my step-mother.

it alwas was my concer how she will trat and tlk to my daughter

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