How soon is too soon for sex

Lionhearted1967 London, Ontario Canada

Wed Apr 19, 2006 9:17 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

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Ok, I am not really the type of person to ask this kind of a question but I am really curious to know. I just turned 19 and just gotten out of a long term relationship. I was used to my ex-boyfriend, they way he'd talk to me and the way he was with me. I am now back on the dating scene and am having some difficulty. I have never really dated seeing as how I was with my ex for most of my teen years. Now the problem I am running into; I am not sure if it is the type of guys I've been meeting or just an age thing I just haven't been exposed to until now. But to cut to the point, Most guys want sex right away. I don't know if I am being old fashioned or these guys just want one thing, but I don't do that. I don't want to just have sex. I don't do casual sex. Now I get lectures on this from all the guys I hang out with that it's just sex...but isn't it supposed to be more than that...I was thinking that because the last couple of guys I dated were older, 22-25 and I am 19 that maybe it's an age thing. But for me to have a relationship with somebody I relate to he has to be a little older...So please if u have any advise..help me to understand this further...

Of course your used to things the way they were with your bf. Sounds like that is all you know.

I don't think it is all just an age thing going on with the guys. It sounds more like the type of guys. A decent man no matter what his age would only respect you for your self-respect. Keep being who you are. There are decent men out there..rest assured.

ruoutthere143 Freehold, New Jersey USA

Wed Apr 19, 2006 9:27 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

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Of course your used to things the way they were with your bf. Sounds like that is all you know.

I don't think it is all just an age thing going on with the guys. It sounds more like the type of guys. A decent man no matter what his age would only respect you for your self-respect. Keep being who you are. There are decent men out there..rest assured.

Hey Lion... I missed you!!!!

christianhotti mesa USA

Wed Apr 26, 2006 9:13 AM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

Ashlie i was in a relation ship for a while and we ended up having sex and getting married been married for 10 months and now getting a divorce sex is wonderful but if guys would like to have sex make them wait you dont want to turn into a slut and that is what guys would call you if you have sex and not into a realation ship i had sex all the time and then i met this girl a yr and a half ago and waited to have sex with her because there is to different kinds of love that is love to have sex and love to be with some one all the time dont get me wrong if you just want to have fun then go ahead and do it if you want some one to love you as you are and be with you then make them wait if they like you enough they will wait would like to talk more

SOUTHERNBELLE052 SUMTER USA

Wed Apr 26, 2006 9:54 AM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

Dear Ashlie,

My name is Heather I'm a almost 32 yr old woman, and you are right in your thinking. Wait for the sex! If a man is really into you for you, he will wait for you to be ready without pushing you or adding pressure to you. Men will say or do whatever it takes for them to get who or what they really want...so please be careful and guard your heart with lock and key. I am speaking from experience and wish I knew at 19yrs old what I am telling you now. If you start a chatting relationship with someone keep the chats CLEAN! NO SEX TALK! THAT ONLY LEADS THE MAN INTO THINKING THAT WHEN AND IF YA'LL MEET, HE'S GETTING LAID, AND YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO THAT! Chat, meet, let him go back to wherever he is from, chat some more, give things time to blossom and develop...your heart will tell you if and when the time is right. Any questions or wanna talk, I am happy to lend an ear....Heather

thaMatt Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Thu Apr 27, 2006 4:54 AM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

make them wait...at least 1 month if you are only 19...sorry guys but if all they want is one thing...thats probably too long a wait

annabanana1 toronto, Ontario Canada

Fri Apr 28, 2006 8:13 AM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

hey, well i am the exact opposite of you. Im looking for someone older, becasue i want someone to satisfy me and i am open to sex. If you want it to be a longer relationship, tell them right away that your looking for someone to be with for a while. most guys tend to loose interest after you have sex with them. I suggest letting them know off the bat what your after, and see if they feel the same way. dont let anyone push u any further than you want to go, becasue their not worth it. good luck:)
Anna

rtmoore73 highland USA

Thu Jun 15, 2006 9:44 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

It really all depends on the person. If you feel comfortable and it is something you want to do you can consider it.

If you want a relationship you and your other will wait for sex, take your time it truely is a lovely thing and should not be done until you know what you want.

enya1234567890 Redwood City, California USA

Tue Jul 11, 2006 2:50 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

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Ok, I am not really the type of person to ask this kind of a question but I am really curious to know. I just turned 19 and just gotten out of a long term relationship. I was used to my ex-boyfriend, they way he'd talk to me and the way he was with me. I am now back on the dating scene and am having some difficulty. I have never really dated seeing as how I was with my ex for most of my teen years. Now the problem I am running into; I am not sure if it is the type of guys I've been meeting or just an age thing I just haven't been exposed to until now. But to cut to the point, Most guys want sex right away. I don't know if I am being old fashioned or these guys just want one thing, but I don't do that. I don't want to just have sex. I don't do casual sex. Now I get lectures on this from all the guys I hang out with that it's just sex...but isn't it supposed to be more than that...I was thinking that because the last couple of guys I dated were older, 22-25 and I am 19 that maybe it's an age thing. But for me to have a relationship with somebody I relate to he has to be a little older...So please if u have any advise..help me to understand this further...

wow, i think i've found my identical twin here, lol. i can totally relate, ashlie. like they've all said, DON'T compromise. it's extremely regrettable.

enya1234567890 Redwood City, California USA

Tue Jul 11, 2006 2:51 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

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make them wait...at least 1 month if you are only 19...sorry guys but if all they want is one thing...thats probably too long a wait

i disagree

. just wait till you're ready and you really want to do it with who's "offering"

Illuminate Kathleen, Georgia USA

Tue Jul 11, 2006 2:52 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

We gotta at least get done eating

up4anything1111

Tue Jul 11, 2006 2:53 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

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Ok, I am not really the type of person to ask this kind of a question but I am really curious to know. I just turned 19 and just gotten out of a long term relationship. I was used to my ex-boyfriend, they way he'd talk to me and the way he was with me. I am now back on the dating scene and am having some difficulty. I have never really dated seeing as how I was with my ex for most of my teen years. Now the problem I am running into; I am not sure if it is the type of guys I've been meeting or just an age thing I just haven't been exposed to until now. But to cut to the point, Most guys want sex right away. I don't know if I am being old fashioned or these guys just want one thing, but I don't do that. I don't want to just have sex. I don't do casual sex. Now I get lectures on this from all the guys I hang out with that it's just sex...but isn't it supposed to be more than that...I was thinking that because the last couple of guys I dated were older, 22-25 and I am 19 that maybe it's an age thing. But for me to have a relationship with somebody I relate to he has to be a little older...So please if u have any advise..help me to understand this further...

There are four stock answers, depending on who you speak with:
1) Never. Mary was a virgin and you should be too.
2) Best to wait as long as you can so you know it's with the "right" one.
3) Anytime you feel like it, you liberated woman!
and
4) Search your heart. You'll know what's right for you.

Pick one that fits!!!

kuza42368 keene, New Hampshire USA

Tue Jul 11, 2006 9:26 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

Not old fashioned, but you are just being smart and using your head.

RainbowSlider Yellville USA

Tue Jul 11, 2006 10:21 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

I think if you got a good defroster that a frigid woman would be less of a problem, lol.

Belushi1

Tue Jul 11, 2006 10:27 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

too soon?

... after the main course, and before the dessert!

You have to wait until at least the coffee has finished!

There is an old Blue-Rinse Granny type saying that goes ...

"Listen Jerk-off, if you only want a shag then I am not your girl! Make love to my mind before you get your hands on the booty!"

Kiss a few frogs, before you find your prince, and then when you find him (he is out there) he will prove that we are not all sex-crazed fiends!

I wish, I was ... I struggle to raise an overdraft on my checking account!

mastic55 Long Island, New York USA

Tue Jul 11, 2006 10:30 PM CST : How soon is too soon for sex?

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I know that with my last ex we waited a few months and with my ex before him we waited for 7 weeks. I know it can be hard sometimes but I think its worth it. I did the mistake once to start off with someone with sex and I got attached and he didn't and we ended up breaking it off and since we were friends before that it was ackward afterwards being back friends again. So learned a lesson there.

"hard sometime's"My mind is shot.

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