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i do not like woman who post on dating sites and do not reply to men who want to get to know them even if they are not interested they should say something.

I have to agree with you on this one, I have read many of these posted threads where they say their mailbox is far from full, and if they are not interested they should just drop a note to say that! I personally think it is just bad manners and boarderline rude. We woman want someone who is honest yet there are those of us who do not recipricate the same honesty by saying we are simply just not interested. Making a new friend is always an option. Don't give up...look at this way..she just wasn't the one! Good luck.

I started the thread about whether women's mailboxes were always stuffed partly to answer this question, because so many men report being igored. I am ignored constantly, all the time. Now I am old, another reason to not be interested, but is that a reason to ignore my messages completely? I wouldn't have thought it would be so difficult to type the one word message "sorry", but I don't even get that. So when I read on another forum on another site a woman complaining that her mailbox was always completely stuffed full, I thought that might explain it. It does seem that women do get a fair bit of mail (more that I do, that's for sure), but I still think there is something wrong.

dpw

I find people do not read the profile.If they did I would not be getting old men or 18 year olds. Sometimes I get interest from someone who wants a slim girl or they are 5'4.Hellooooo!!
Personally I will not answer people who obviously did not read my profile, are married or ask me if I want a good time(wink wink).I will answer sincere responses but the rest are deleted.

Personally, I always make a little note at the beginning when I am writing to someone whose profile indicated one thing but I think they might be interested anyway, but I know some men send out messages without that, in other words they do read the profile, but decide that maybe its worth a shot anyway.

Does that make them spam, to be ignored? Maybe.
I would think a single word "sorry" wouldn't hurt you,
but if you get dozens of them, I suppose that's too much to ask.

The thing is, an owful lot of women seem to have
rather unreasonable expectations in their profiles,
and if you never suggested they expand the envelope,
there would be few to write to.

dpw

I READ PROFILES AND I RESPOND ONLY TO THE ONES THAT I AM A CLOSE MATCH TOO BUT YET THEY DO NOT RESPOND BACK IT IS LIKE THEY DONT GET THE MESSAGE OR SOMETHING

I HAVE SHOWN AN INTEREST IN A YOUNG LADY AND ALL I GET IS NOTHING AND I WANT IS IF YOU FOUND SOMEBODY TAKE YOURSELF OFF THE MARKET SO TO SPEAK

THE ONLY THING WRONG WITH YOUR THEORY IS THAT GIRLS E-MAILS DONT GET FULL THEY ARE JUST INCONSIDERATE OF OUR FEELINGS THAT IS ALL

Well alot of women as you say eagle151 dont respect the men's feeling's. I alway's try to answer, unless the undertone is sexual. I don't personally think these people should be writing like that, there is no need to introduce yourself in that manner.

But there are women on occasion who are new and press the wrong button. For example I had been on this site for about 2 week's, not really sure how to use all the function's. I selected the mail I had replied to, to enable me to delete it. Only problem bieng the whole bloody lot dissapered I only selected 3 out of about 5/6 I think it was.

Ann-Marie

I have the thought that the reason reply's dont come is people may be stuck on the idea that this is a dating site only and that dont give any thought to possable freindships,so when they see a note and check the profile they think oh! i dont want this guy or gal.just a thought i have.Who relly knows tho.

Actually pheonix that is also correct, I thought that stupidly with a guy that posted me yesterday. I wont go into too much detail on this one, if you don't mind.

Ann-Marie

For all of you out there.There is those of us who like freinds as well.before you ignore a note consider this.I am a over the road driver.Accordig to her profile Aspendawn is also.We like others have a social life limited to a cell phone,e/mail and our office dispatch.Like most drivers I may not see my home for up to 8 months.Once I was out for 2 years without seeing my front yard.People like myself do like to get reply's but if everybody thinks a short note is a come on to sex,dating or mate finding then it is their loss.There ar many people out here who like to have freinds.Consider this when you get that next note and take a chance.In the end you have a block sender button.Like todayI am in Boise Idaho for 498 hours and I have nothing better to do than sit in the truck and watch tv or read,I am in a strange town,I dont know anybody so I try to find a freind where i can.Because I am under dispatch 24/7 I cannot venture far from the rig and must be ready to roll at a moments notice.

The world doesn't serve you well, Phoenix. You know there are some lonely compatible people in Boise for friendship or whatever, but your chances of finding them are low. That doesn't seem fair, to me. Why
doesn't the world provide quick ways of hooking you up with them, even if just for coffee and conversation?
There are fake ways, of course, come ons, but nothing that really works for them and for you. Sad.

dpw

correction i am in boise for 48 hours.LL187 it is my job to stay out here to make sure the people of this country have everything from fuel to food.So when you all receive a note,reply befor you make a judgement as it could be something different

I would also like to clarify that it is NOT just woman who do not reply, I personally have rec'd a total of 5 emails from different men and have replied to each one. However, I have sent out just as many and they ALL went unanswered. So you see eagle it is not just woman who post and do not reply it is men as well. I think everyone should take a class in good manners to learn that a simple "thank you for your email",or "not interested in a relationship",or "sorry I do not think we are capatible" reply would go a long way in improving the relationships between men and woman. PS in my last post on this subject I said,"those of us" I was referring to woman in general and not me personally I always send a reply.

if it's friends people are looking for why mail only the opposite sex,i mail friends online male and female(i am straight)after all we do on message boards like these so why not in email.

I agree. I think people should take a min or two and reply to emails. However, it doesn't bother me too much if i don't hear back. I don't take it personally. I've sent my fair share of emails and have gotten some back but i haven't met anyone i care to talk to offline. Doesn't mean i won't but it's ok either way. I still think it's fun and u never know who's waitin for u around the corner.

I am just astounded now to have actually gotten into
a long e-mail conversation with a woman almost my own age, who writes very intelligently, is clearly well-educated, makes a lot of sense, and sent me a lovely photograph. Of course she lives half-way across the world away in India, but that's a mere detail. This was on another site, by the way. I have subscribed to several, to increase my odds. I think thats a good
idea, and would recommend it. ...... It began as a research project for
me.
dpw

Well said & I agree with you 100%. I think people are becoming very selfish & dont care about anyone else but themselves & their interests. It doesnt take much to be polite & treating others like you would yourself.

Most women have been very respectful, and if they weren't interested, they replied with a simple paragraph or two. Where I live on an island, I realize that finding a compatible match is difficult simply due to distance constraints. And then there are women who are simply "not interested", and that's ok with me, because for every door that closes another one opens! As for women who simply do not reply, I say it's really their loss. Like everyone else on the market here, we all have something different to offer, and when someone doesn't even take the time to reply, I ask myself, "What am I really missing out on?" It is also noteworthy ladies and gentlemen, what comes around goes around...if a woman/man EMails you, it is just as important for you to reply to them as it is for them to EMail you! Just remember what it feels like when your EMails go without responses...