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I have had my share of 'no reply' from men. It does not bother me in the least. I take it as a sign that a friendship was not meant to be. And, some of the people that I have answered have been rude. Gosh, I even had one that would not talk to me because I went to a different kind of church. And let me tell you looks are not everything either. I actually went and met one of the men I had made friends with, very nice looking and made all that money that some of those other women are looking for, but what a SNOB. Bless his little heart, I hope he does not drown in one of our west texas storms. LOL Hmmmmmmm....It really does take all kinds in this world and not everyone is interested in just friends. So take heart, it is their lose, not yours.
Eagle151 my suggestion is to forget them and don't sweat the small stuff. Life is just too short to waste the energy on wondering why.
larou

I can see why people get frustrated when they don't get a reply, but I wouldn't know that cause I haven't got one yet!!!

I HAVE STOPPED WASTING ENERGY TRYING TO MEET SOMEONE ON THE INTERNET. I SEND A MESSAGE TO SOMEONE AND IN A WEEK I DELETE FROM MAIL BOX IF I HAVE NOT HEARD BACK FROM. BUT ONLY IF THEY HAVE OPENED THE MAIL OR FLOWER. I WILL NOT WASTE MY TIME ANYMORE I HAVE MET A COUPLE OF PEOPLE THEY LIVE FAR AWAY BUT WE WRITE FOR NOW AND I HOPE WE ARE FRIENDS. AND WHO KNOWS IN OUR TRAVELS MAYBE WE WILL MEET AND HAVE DINNER TOGETHER AS FRIENDS. AND THAT WOULD BE FINE FOR ME TO.
I HAVE MET PEOPLE ON DATING SITES THAT LIVE FAR AWAY BUT STILL GOT TOGETHER FOR DINNER AND NOW WE ARE FRIENDS.

Ya know I come into that a lot. Women post and simply don't reply. And it just gets down right annoying. As a guy I find it hard enough to get a date with out all of the run around. What does it take to get a date in this town anyway. I keep trying and keep getting told "no" . So i am asking the women of this site why does a woman post as a single person and not reply. What's up with that??????? Can I get a womans perspective on this???? Is it just a " I want to see thing" or what? As a guy I get really disapointed alot as is. I hate to sound like i'm gripping but hey, as I hear a lot from the horses mouth " what's a women to do ". And yes I get told that a lot. As a sincere man I find that being flirted with and then turned down is just a pisser. So I ask the women again. What do you do? As I was told by a woman "if you want to know what women think ask a woman, but then again is it an honest answer.???" So.......??????????? So on the note of sexual over tones, I find that when I go to a dating web site and the girl is acting like she is looking for that then why not. If you don't want the fish to bite then don't throw bait in the water.

I really think a guy has to hold off on the sexual overones, but even without them women usually don't reply. Usually. Almost always don't reply.

I keep saying, it takes little effort to hit the
reply button then type "sorry" just five letters,
then hit send. If they did that, they would at
least be replying, they would at least not be
just ignoring you. But they ignore you almost
always. They ignore me almost always and I never
put any sexual overtones in my messages, so they
can't use that as an excuse. Anyway, I have learned
that if you send enough message a few will reply,
but it still bothers me that almost all will not even
bother to say no.

dpw

BECAUSE THEY CAN!!!! Women, in our culture, have learned that they are the prey and men are the hunters... and, like a lioness, all she has to do is wait quietly until "she feels like it."

I think it is pretty sick, but hey... face reality dudes!!!!

That's my read on it, anyway.... any women care to take me to task over this appraisal? I mean any girls who are actually in the chase... not losers.

The reality is, that's total BS!

I do reply to e-mails and flowers.I don't wait for "prey"

If I was a lioness I wouldn't eat you because you are full of shit.Being a woman,I am good at spotting a woman hating controlling asshole and you sir fit the bill.
Please crawl back under your rock.

I usually refuse to post in obviously sexist opponent bashing forums, but I'm beneath myself today. All I've got to say is- non of you hotties have emailed me, or you would have gotten a reply. Of some kind. I have gotten my share of unanswered email and certainly unresponded-to flowers. I'm not a man or woman basher. I'm a lover, not a fighter. But some level-headed person ought to point out that some PEOPLE don't have enough consideration, not some men or women.

Personally I've replied to all emails and flowers that have been sent to me so far. I even told one that i didn't think we were compatible because he pretty much came off like all he wanted was a quick fuck (pardon my language but i'm usually very blunt). I don't think it's a hardship on anyone to say thanks for the flower (or note) but i'm not interested. Copy and paste works if you REALLY have that many emails though I doubt anyone does if they check it regularly.

Anyhow just one more opinion to add to the pot. :)

I got a better one for ya! You find a lady that your interseted in, profiles, intrests the whole bit just fits. Then when you e-mail or flower her she responds with."I'm just looking for a pen-pal or a chat buddy". Hello???!!!! This is a dating site for people who are truly looking for someone,(possibly), to share thier life with! If I want to gripe and moan and carry on, I can find a bartender for that! Ladies, if your looking "chat buddies" or "pen-pals", there are sites for that, quit yankin our chains. Sorry, I just tell it like it is.

i can't imagine any red blooded straight woman just wanting to be your chat buddy Lakewolf.Damn.


anyway i respond to everything sent my way even the cut and paste stuff.My level of politeness though varies in accordance with the tone of the man's e-mail.Telling me I have nice coconuts is not a good way to introduce yourself.Just a tip.

Okay.I'm guilty of not replying to e-mails.I will correct the problem.As far as wanting to be pen pals.I like to talk with someone for a while before I meet them.It's dangerous meeting someone without enough info.I had a man write me last week planning our first date after one e-mail.He was verrryyy clingy.That just scares me.

Ok..
I used to have the same promblem back 3 years ago.
You have to understand that alot of peaple with profiles on here posts them and then meets that right one. So they do not come online no more to check messages. So they just do not ever think about deleteing their profile. Because how they see it is that they will never come back on the dating sight anyway..
I am shure thats all it is. But I can understand what you are saying. It see a profile and think its the right one. So you send a message and they never get back with you.. I can understand that.

Ok, I am guilty of that also. Next time I will make sure that I send some kind of a short reply. I don't think anyone should take it as an insult. I am sure for some they have there legit reasons for not answering. For me, well I am new at this and still skeptical. If a 40 year old guy states they are looking for someone between 18-99, I don't reply for my own reasons. If someone likes to drink and go to the bars, I don't reply. Been there and done that and have changed my life style. I had this one guy get really rude because I did not answer him and to me it sounded like he could get very angry to easy. I finally wrote back and told him not to judge others till you know the facts. I explained I work 10 hours a day, going through a divorce right now, Grandmother had been hospitailzed for months and just passed away, and my mother has colon cancer and emphysema. I have not been able to get online alot lately. I shouldn't be told not to participate for any reason whats-so-ever. But I will do my best to be a little more considerate next time...

I agree, I always reply to flowers and emails, unless there is some sex message in it blatantly.

Also, I received a flower and when I did email back, saying thanks for the flower, he immediately emailed me asking if I was divorced or not and then when I answered that one, he just emailed me asking if I had kids from that marriage and what were their names. I didn't reply, because that is odd right off the bat. I mean, ask about me not my kids and if they came from a marriage!

I don't think you can generalize that women don't respond, maybe it was just the ones you sent something to. I sent numerous out and some haven't responded at all and some have given me vague, thanks for the interest, responses. I don't immediately say all men don't respond and are selfish. Just some weren't interested. Everyone, keep the faith. The right one obviously will respond!

yes.I hate when they want too much info on your kids,right away.I automatically think petifile,and will not respond.They should wait a little while.If i want to talk about my kid,I'll approach the subject.

Well, thank you for the compliment. I can understand anyone not replyong to some e-mails/flowers because some "internet" users are just plain wierd, which some of you have already stated. But, as I said, this is a "DATE" site. I am sincere in my looking for "mrs. right" and if someone e-mails just to chat, well, I may tell them to e-mail me if they are interesting and theres a chance to get to know one another more. But to come in here for the sole purpose of finding a pen-pal just seems to defeat the purpose of the site and wastes alot of time. And personally, cutelittledevilsmom, I couldnt even imagine myself EVER telling a lady she has nice cocnuts on the first e-mail. I'de have to see some pics and wait for the second one! LMAO!!!! But I understand what you mean. I had one lady in Africa e-mail me once saying I was her "soul mate" and would I send $5000 so she could come see me! Well, mama raised a wild indian, not a stupid one! LOL!!!

Lakewolf, I'm with cute, you are HOTTT. But the perfect mate for you probably lives closer, right?

I'm the type that doesn't really appreciate emails from men that are too instantly possessive, or seem to anger easily. I do send short replies, but I have also been known to just let the coorespondence "die off" after a few emails. Some people can continue sending one-liners for ever - I get bored with it.

BTW lakewolf, I don't usually comment on a man's looks uninvited, but your pic is quite an invitation! *giggle* On a more serious note, I agree with the ladies, and it's not all women, it's the ones that aren't interested. Keep trying. You are sure to find the one you want, who also wants you.

Once again, thank you much for the compliment. As for my "match" living closer, how many of you have gone to the "match me button", filled out the form saying where you are,(zip code the whole bit), only to have the matches they give you live 500mi. away or worse, in a completly different country. I dont know about the rest of ya'll, but I'm not traveling 500mi. just to "shake someones hand"! I did travel 80mi. once, just to find out that the lady I had e-mailed and spoken to over the phone was NOTHING like she described. I was very honest filling out my profile, but with others, men or women, you have to be careful and "weed out the A--holes". I live in MO, if ya like my profile and want to get to know me, GREAT! But bear in mind the trip ahead if ya want to meet face to face. Know what I mean Vern? LOL!!!