What do you think... to harsh?

jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:12 PM CST

mindfful wrote:

uuuh
im bored and its only afternoon here was he hawt?

He had Elvis sideburns

hhhmmmm a chicken??? does it work?

Thanks Morgan, feeling a bit better just by venting...

I always loved New Yorkers ooby!

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sxc666
Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:15 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

Hi bella and tina

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Sparky55
Prattville, Alabama USA

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:20 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

I have a lot of young guy friends and adore them, and have had my share of younger lovers which can be great fun.... but this one was on about life partners, completing each others souls... yada, yada, yada... [b]Do I look desperate and wealthy[/b]???

Well, you don't look desperate and I don't know what wealthy looks like but if you ever get wealthy or desperate give me a call.

Seriously, your reply sounded fine to me.

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jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:26 PM CST

[quote=Sparky55]

jbibiza wrote:

I have a lot of young guy friends and adore them, and have had my share of younger lovers which can be great fun.... but this one was on about life partners, completing each others souls... yada, yada, yada...

Well, you don't look desperate and I don't know what wealthy looks like but if you ever get wealthy or desperate give me a call.

Seriously, your reply sounded fine to me.

I wouldn't need to be desperate to give you a call Sparky... just a bit closer!

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bajanblue
Speightstown, Saint Peter Barbados

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:43 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

I don't know about the rest of you women over 40 but I am so fed up with twenty something guys contacting me. This one said he was interested in someone who was straight with her opinion... possibly a mistake when contacting me.

So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.

Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close.
Jbibiza

I think you could have stopped here.

Clearly you were not in a good mood when you wrote this email. We all have bad days.

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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:43 PM CST

hahah Some bloke messaged me the other day .. it said..

*I'm looking for a decent non-opinionated kind of girl.. do you think it could be you?*

hahahaha!

NO

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irishlass45
Bristol England/Texas USA, Texas USA

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:44 PM CST

Hello JB, no I don't think it was too harsh you hit the nail on the head when you told them that their youth did nothing for you HERE! HERE! I get them in the emails but mainly by im which I don't answer by the way, but I think you did right maybe some of these other youngsters will look at the age parameters and the older ones too.

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irishlass45
Bristol England/Texas USA, Texas USA

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:45 PM CST

Claayer wrote:

hahah Some bloke messaged me the other day .. it said..

*I'm looking for a decent non-opinionated kind of girl.. do you think it could be you?* hahahaha! NO

What woman pray tell is not opinionated? snap! hello!

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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:46 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

I don't know about the rest of you women over 40 but I am so fed up with twenty something guys contacting me. This one said he was interested in someone who was straight with her opinion... possibly a mistake when contacting me.

So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.

Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close. What could we possibly have in common? I have a daughter just a few years younger then you are, I have been married, divorced, a single parent, a successful business owner and have traveled all over the world.

I am single because it is difficult to find a man who matches me in education, life experience sense of humor and maturity. I am looking for a partner not someone else to take care of and teach. Please don't insult my intelligence and that of other "older" women by thinking that because you are young we will be flattered by your attention.

Regards,

Jbibiza

Well.. at least you replied..

I'm rude enuff not to even bother.

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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:46 PM CST

irishlass45 wrote:

What woman pray tell is not opinionated? snap! hello!

hahaha

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:47 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

I don't know about the rest of you women over 40 but I am so fed up with twenty something guys contacting me. This one said he was interested in someone who was straight with her opinion... possibly a mistake when contacting me.

So the following was my reply... what do you think.... to harsh?Well you said you wanted someone straight in their opinions, be careful what you ask for because sometimes you get it.

Did you not read the age parameters on my profile, I'm willing to give a year or two in either direction, but you're not even close. What could we possibly have in common? I have a daughter just a few years younger then you are, I have been married, divorced, a single parent, a successful business owner and have traveled all over the world.

I am single because it is difficult to find a man who matches me in education, life experience sense of humor and maturity. I am looking for a partner not someone else to take care of and teach. Please don't insult my intelligence and that of other "older" women by thinking that because you are young we will be flattered by your attention.

Regards,

Jbibiza

If he like a woman that plays hard to get.. he will be back!!

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jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 3:57 PM CST

bajanblue wrote:

I think you could have stopped here.

Clearly you were not in a good mood when you wrote this email. We all have bad days.

I know what your saying bb, and I have to say I'm of two minds... My reaction did come from having a bad day and not feeling to well, but after I sent it I started thinking about it. Hence the post.

On the one hand, dumb kid, ignore it.

On the other hand I actually do find it quite insulting to be approached in this manner. To tell me that I look more like 28 or 30 not 48... oh come on, I wish that were true but it's not... I may look a couple of years younger then my age but not 20 years younger!!! I may be reasonably attractive, but I'm not a beauty by any means.

What I am is an intelligent woman and to be approached in this manner I find to be an insult to my intelligence.

I'll be over it by morning!

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jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 4:02 PM CST

Claayer wrote:

Well.. at least you replied..

I'm rude enuff not to even bother .

This is the first time I've replied to something like this, and actually felt my reply was a lot more rude then just ignoring him. Can't believe someone thought of you as non opinionated!!!

Hi lass!

OMG Ras... say it ain't sooooo!!!

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jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 4:06 PM CST

For fu*ks sake... I just got a reply, He was happy to get my reply and doesn't think age should be a barrier for partner and marriage...

Ras you were right.... and here I was actually feeling bad that I may have hurt this guys feelings...

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bajanblue
Speightstown, Saint Peter Barbados

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 4:46 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

For fu*ks sake... I just got a reply, He was happy to get my reply and doesn't think age should be a barrier for partner and marriage...

Ras you were right.... and here I was actually feeling bad that I may have hurt this guys feelings...

He probably doesn't read emails any more than he reads profiles!

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 4:53 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

For fu*ks sake... I just got a reply, He was happy to get my reply and doesn't think age should be a barrier for partner and marriage...

Ras you were right.... and here I was actually feeling bad that I may have hurt this guys feelings...

HMMMMMMMMMM...Maybe he's just looking for an on-line mummy fantasy!!!!!!!!!....

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morganlee
Qawra, Majjistral Malta

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 4:55 PM CST

thought you would !

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roseofsharon
Casa Felice, Southampton, Hampshire, England UK

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 5:48 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

yes, and maybe with this post a few more will get the message as well, I'm just a crabby biatch tonight, I usually just ignore them...

Hi bella and tina

No worries, love. I just meant that if they didn't take "no" for an answer, then yes, I would make it clear in a stronger fashion but the guy may have only contacted you the once, trying his luck, of course.... don't forget, out of every, I dunno... 10 or 20 or so, he may get lucky, so I guess you can't blame a fella for trying??

But, yes, I do get pissed off with them........!!!

Still, we are unlikely to get fellas of our own age, coz they are out there having a "second youth/male meno-thingy/middle-age crisis"... whatever, so they will be chasing the young, giggly girlies.... AND thinking they stand a chance...??!!

Hee hee.... Ahhhh, ya gotta laugh, eh??!!

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lover65
Vero Beach, Florida USA

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 5:48 PM CST

I don't feel that that was too harsh, I'd have said the same things. I get offers from 22-26 year olds all the time and answer pretty much the same way. My daughter is 24 and I couldn't even think about dating someone close to her age or younger. It makes me sick just thinking about it.

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Mar 24, 2008, 5:54 PM CST

jbibiza wrote:

For fu*ks sake... I just got a reply, He was happy to get my reply and doesn't think age should be a barrier for partner and marriage...

Ras you were right.... and here I was actually feeling bad that I may have hurt this guys feelings...

I think you were too soft with him on your first reply. You should see how i handle men, who don't bother going through my profile first. Most time, i reply once and block them.

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