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Ah, Dana...perhaps you haven't noticed, but **you're** just a young girl relative to me? But somehow I just can't make myself send this form letter to you or that other nymph, Uli.

And I think I can speak for Uli since she isn't here at the moment and say "thank you. we would be devastated to receive such a letter from you."

omfg!!! i just took a peak at your profile man, can you imagine getting the exact same kind of response from a 72 year old honey?

just j/k of course

And what about you, Freeya? How would you feel receiving one from someone that is in her mid-50's? Oh God, that just seems so young!!

Ok, that was a joke, but i'll answer seriously on the question:
as a matter of fact, i have received a couple from that age group. And if you see from my previous responce on the thread, i am not the one to answer back in a harsh manner. Given that i am approached in good manners of course. I would probably write back, returning the compliment and politely refusing.
Maybe i am naive, but it has worked for me on both occasions.

If you meant if i sented to somene in her mid fifties: I wouldnt, 10 years plus/minus is the furthest i would go

I agree, 10 years plus/minus is a pretty good rule of thumb.

although, in my age (32), i would find it extremely difficult to connect and communicate with a 22 year old...
lol, imposible actually!
but we see eye to eye on this
lets see who can outstare who

Jbibiza, your post caught my eye, and I read through all the posts. I dont think women in their 40s should take responses to their profiles as insults to their intelligence/and or flattery. I think the age group of 18-28 may lack a lot of guidance. Things come easy, people are losing morale, morals. Divorce rates are high.. plenty in the aforementioned age group, come from broken homes, children running wild growing up.. parents making ends meet.. not having the time, even though they cared. Trying to establish a strong household, confident children, that respect the past and future.. has become very difficult. I understand women/men being insulted be sexual propositions by someone younger, but I would look more into it.
I think this this is a direct reflection on modern society, technology moving too fast, people in general moving too fast.. lack of respect for family. love. Ive always spent my time with groups of people older than myself, and dated older men. People need to focus more on other people. Being kind.

Ok guys, sorry I ditched my own thread... I have been on an IM for the past two and a half hours with an incredibly intelligent and interesting man of 48 years!!!! and to think I almost didn't answer it because I thought it might be the 28 year old....

You guys have done some great posts, just got done reading through them, thanks Dana just have a bit of a sore throat and am really tired... after not working for 5 months these 10 hour days 6 days a week are killing me, it'll take a couple weeks to get back in the swing of things.

Jeff, I'm LMFAO... brilliant letter, you're always so witty and dry... I love your sense of humor.

Like I said, I really was of two minds on my response and I'm actually really surprised at how many of you agreed with it... to be honest I kind of thought I was being an arrogant bi*ch, but his reply relieved me of any misgivings on that front. But I think I'll probably just go back to ignoring...

i agree with more than 1 things you say in there

To me the only reason a boy of that age would contact me is that he is after something, money, a visa, etc. and I do find it insulting that he would think I'm stupid enough to feel flattered or desperate enough to give him what he's looking for.

i see your point... if we are talking a 20 year old...
but what is "that" age?
is an average looking 30 year old man "that age" still? that would immediate divert your mind to those things?

He's 28, and if the approach had been something along the lines of... I read your profile and you seem really interesting... or I noticed that you like diving, I love it too, that would be great, we have something in common that could be the basis of a friendship or some conversation...

but when the approach is... you are so beautiful, I can't believe you are 48, I would think 28 or 30, I'm really impressed with you, I think we can be life partners...

ok, i get it now
i just havent had that kind of experience yet so i couldnt relate. my approaches have been more friendly-oriented and generally nice.

btw, i love diving too

I can't imagine you approaching someone like that, you're first contact with me was here on the forums, we found out we have the bar business in common and now diving... that's a great start to creating a friendship and communicating with each other and your age has no bearing on that.

If we were to start conversing and then find we had a lot more in common and found we had an attraction that could be more then a friendship then again your age would be of no consequence because it would happen by genuine attraction and things we can relate to with each other. I have dated guys your age in the past few years and have had a lot of fun with them, but now that I'm ready to settle down the chances of that happening are very slim, simply because of what Dana said earlier... most younger men haven't had kids yet and still want to have a family and I'm not interested in that anymore.

So I guess the real problem with the guy that contacted me wasn't so much his age, but the fact that he was obviously a scammer, someone looking to get something from someone and I don't appreciate being contacted in that way.

i know experience first hand why you are so respected and admired here. You are a wise person.
and you are right about one thing:
if someone hasnt had kids yet, then he will either definately want them (so there is no future there) or even if he doesnt: He is not the right kind of person for me. kids are gods blessing to us, we should all have them if we can.
Thanks

I'm scribbling down little notes.

Keep going.

I hve received messages from supposably 20 something men.They usually 1 way or another give the message it is a scammer.A few may have been real.I think your answer was honest and direct,yet politite.I reply something like,I am not interested in meeting a partner your agebut can be freinds.No reply,and interesting almost all want to go off sight right then.

i just checked you out again to discover to my plesure that you "definately" want kids...
But i was dissapointed with how many profiles i have read here that either "dont want" them or are "not sure" about it...
Some thing, are just beyond me...

what could possibly hold bigger plesure than starting a family? i ask again: What???