Posted: Mar 25, 2008, 1:38 PM CST
morganlee wrote:My ex was in the army for 15 months, we could only talk at weekends on the phone, he had i month's leave during that time, which he took 2 weeks at a time but we would loose 3 days of that in travel time. Our relationship stayed strong but i think that was because we knew there was an end in sight.
I can relate with that on the other side of it:
I was in the army for almost 2,5 years, back in the day when not all people had their own mobile phone. I could only talk on the phone 2ice a week and we had about 1 months leave per year (4 weeks).
It is not just the fact that this is not enough to constract a meaningfull relationship but also that since your lives are walking on a separate path for the majority of the time, you end up growing appart.
One day you simply realise that you do not have that many comon things as you once used to.
My relationship lasted a total of 4 years. A bit b4 i enlisted and a bit after. Today, i say to myself that i would never do the same thing again. It was selfish towards a beautifull girl that was in love with me and i with her. I should have broken up a lot sooner and bite my lips about it.
Of course, i do realise that what i post here is quite different for you because you were in a different stage in your life and obviously married. But in general, for me a relationship needs intimacy and physical presence. For the good momments and for the bad ones.