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Well she never did find out about me... but she may have found out about the second or third one after me...

I have to admit, my last relationship I did not even think twice about her cheating, I knew darn well she wouldnt.
I have never cheated myself, I just dont see some getting a kick out of it.
Whe me Daughter got married a yr ago, at the reception a hot gal made it clear that she was interested, I danced a dance with her, then my daughter told me that this gal was married.
she kept flirting with me and I told her exactly how I felt about her.. didn't take her long to leave.

Hi wall, hope you're enjoying the show...

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Good post

me too! no wayy... I have been on then receiving end of that many times (in my marriage).. there is NO WAY I would put someone throo that.

and me ! it's a shit thing to do

My husband slept with the world and his wife in the 10yrs were married.

I disagree that we blame the other woman. SOME people do... but not all.

In my marriage.. the only time I blamed any women (as WELL as my husband) was when I KNEW them.. and they knew me.. and my marriage.. and my children..


and is THOSE cases.. too frickin right I was blaming them as well as him.. they KNEW he was married.

The ones that never new he was married.. I didn't blame at ALL... how the hell they are supposed to know he is lying throo his teeth to them.

I actually asked one of them around one evening.. to come and speak to me about it all.. (because he was making me think I was going insane!).. I wrote her a letter.. (talked for England).. and asked if she would come.

She did..

and my estimations of her went throo then roof... (after all.. I could have been planning to bury her in a ditch)... after talking to her.. and 'comparing notes'.. (drinking wine and stuffing our faces)

We could see how MUCH he had lied about it all... to both of us.

She and I still get on brilliantly all this time later.

I agree completely. I've also been on the receiving end and it hurts like hell. I wouldn't dream of doing that to someone else.
When a man exhibits interest in me....approaches...starts conversation, etc., one of the first questions I ask is if he is married. Maybe not THE first, but it is something I want to know as soon as possible. If he IS married (assuming he is honest), I won't engage in the flirtation. I'm not rude to him, but I am not encouraging or receptive to anything other than polite conversation. There's just no point in it, for I will not play a role in his cheating on his wife.

Also.. I have absolutely NO sympathy for the 'Other woman' (or man)... if then affair goes tits up and they get hurt..

TUFF SH*T! as far as I'm concerned..

You cannot expect to get involved in other peoples relationships and not get hurt.

I had a (single) friend who was having an affair with a married man.. (she KNEW his wife too).. She would sit around my table telling us all about it..

Then when it all went wrong.. she was bawling her eyes out.. heartbroken.. Some of my friends consoled her.. but tbh honest I didn't at all.. She totally deserved what she got imo... and I DID tell that (in so many words)

As far as I'm concerned if you are going to play about in someone else's relationship.. you are asking ... and deserve to get hurt.

It's not YOUR partner.. it's not YOUR relationship.. it's someone elses.. and you are poking around where you don't belong.. trying to make/take a relationship that wasn't yours in the first place.

I think it's an incredibly SELFISH thing to do.. get your OWN fricking partner.

I have NO sympathy AT ALL for cheating. NONE.

and for then record.. I have always felt like that.. long before it happening in my marriage to me.

If someone I know to be married has ever tried it on with me.. they get a bloody mouthful


As you may have gathered seeing some of my posts on CS..


It is something I feel very very VERY strongly about.

Which... is WHY.. I can say NEVER.

Hellooo It's a bug bear for me..

freakin beautifully put Claire.

well said Claayer,

My question is..

If a man has affair with his secretary......

and then marries her and she's at home.......

and he gets a new secretary.........

what would the woman be thinking at home??????

She should have done the thinking before every marrying him. The saying is "Cheat WITH me....cheat ON me" so she should be well prepared to have him do it to her, too.

In the infamous words of David Lee Roth, "Oh Jimi!!"

hahah that's then chance you take I suppose.. you would never know if they were going to do it to you too. What a niiiiiiice way to live.. NOT

I would never want to be with a man that has even had an affair in their past relationships.

I wouldn't trust them (with my feelings) .. as far as I could throw them tbh.

I think it says a lot about the kind of people they are..
When then going gets tough.. instead of sorting it out.. (in one way or another).. They take then coward's route.. and look elsewhere.. it says a lot I think... and leopards rarely EVER change their spots. (imo)