Posted: Mar 29, 2008, 12:56 PM CST
I Dont have the patience to read the entire thread and i stay away from this topic cos there is a lot of " i wont's " and " thats dirty " and " morals and ethics " and assumptions and assumptions always.
The little i would say is :
Assuming we understand everybody is an adult and has the ability to " think " a lot of situations in life arent exactly like what we describe in 2 dimension here. In reality, there are so many seen and unseen factors apart from what the 2 people or 3 people see or realise.
Nope !! Its NOT justifying anything.
All i am saying is lets not make someone's situation a code for " moral judgement " about them nor can we talk of things with absolutism in such cases. Though we are adults with a mind not everyone can make rational and ' ethical ' decisions all the time. If we could, we would be close to utopia. There is no excuse to being allowed to make mistakes in one area while not in another.
Men cheat and so do women , men steal other's spouses and so do women , there are innocent men as well as women , there are both in unhappy marriages and bad situations , there are those with no option for divorce whatsoever ( for whatever reasons ) ... so coming to say ... if we are going to crucify them based on a fact .. well a fact is a fact .. but real life has a third and even 4th dimension .. time as well as human emotion.
What matters at the end ... if one is able to learn from the mistake and rise over it and that one can sleep with a conscience which doesnt hurt .. there is still hope.