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I love it. Though I think I could use some help sometimes, I'm handling it pretty god on my own.



Yes, often. I have two, but they're finally at the age that they can make their own breakfast which gives me time to sleep in when I'm off.

I get worn out keeping up with all the afterschool activities, etc.

And some of the homework they bring home takes me a while sometmes to remember how to do it when they need help. (eg. they've changed the way to multiply whole numbers--in a little box instead of columns like I was taught.)



be more specific. I have all sorts of things.

Yes they do, the more ppl, the more you get. Depending on what the family income is. A good friend of mine was on assistance when she split from her husband, she had 3 kids and they got food, housing, medical, all kinds of assistance.

I am going to college for free right now, books and all are paid for because I am a single parent. there are lots and lots of programs for single parents, or just low income families... my friend never had to pay a penny for her kids medical bills or medicines.... Dunno how she got on the assistance, but it is there! You just have to know where to look to find it!!

i have 2 boys - aged 10 and 4. i'm only a single parent part-time as i only have them stay over for 3 days. (the other 4 days are spent cleaning up after them lol). i do adore my boys and they adore me. however, it can be difficult keeping on top of everything but it's all a case of making routines (along with the occasional bribe). i love to read them stories at bedtime and sing a song or 2 for my 4 yr old. watching him drift off to sleep while i'm singing is such a wonderful feeling. mind you, i've often been known to fall asleep right beside him once i'm done.

I was a bit older than you when I became a single parent... although later I married, I still felt I was a single mom... two failed relationships later and two more children, and I'm still a single mother... For some reason, I'm not ready to relinquish my children...

Maybe it has something to do with feeling that the men in my life and subsequent parents to my children, were not strong senough or capable enough to keep them safe.

I hope I am giving my children enough love, knowledge and endurance for when their time comes. And after reading this thread, I'll enforce even more all those on my son.

I would respectfully disagree. I raised my daughter all by myself and she is now a college graduate (The Ohio State University -- go Bucks!). As an educator I see kids that come from disfunctional one and two-parent households. The most important factor in any household is a happy, communicative family -- not how many parents are there.

If you love your kids and have your shit together than anyone can be a good parent.kudos guys!!

I have, I think, successfully brought up 2 children, one of each.
I felt absolutely great at my bringing them up alone when their mother died. In the sense that I had wanted children whereas she, I think merely acquiesced. I was terrified at times at all the possible things that could go wrong and what each hour, each day held. The weight of all those responsibilities never affected the joy I had with them. Their mother would not and could not cope and so whatever sacrifices had to be made, I made. Only regret is that I didn't have more! I loved being able to have them to bring up; being a father was a life long wish finally come true; and yes, I just wish that the circumstances had been very different, but you do as best you can. The experience never wore me out because it was FUN, loved them dearly and again, I had wanted them and I'd do it all over again without any hesitation.
One deep personal regret remains in that I could not find them a mother to help give them a really balanced upbringing. One with a woman's touch that only a woman can give...never even found one remotely interested.

Thankyou all for the replies.

Goose .. any experience funny , difficult anything ..

as a single parent and a father for the first time,my daughter is the world to me,I enjoy all the spare time I spend with her shes only two and a half but soo much fun I cant wait for her to get older to do alot more fun things with her

I was 40 when my daughter was born.My relationship failed because both she and I wanted different things.she had 2 kids which I loved as my own but my ex girlfriend wouldnt let me be there for them.so now I do all that I can for the 1 that is mine and thats all I can do,the other 2 are welcome in my life but I dont think their mother would allow that.

Gender plays no part in being a good single parent

i raised my oldest son and a year later i got my youngest daughter early teens he retired from the military and employed as a federal prison guard now he can cook clean and wash clothes which he does on his days off to help his wife, my daughter is married works and takes care of her son with downs syndrome plus she raised three other kids so i think i instilled some thing into them growing up

the mother of my youngest ran off with my son at when he was 4 years old, I could not find them ,then my son at age 9 found me on the internet (gotta love the internet) and called me on the phone, came for a visit and refused to lieve, I raised him till he was 17 and he is now 18 and living with his mom in IN. He did not want to live by dad's rules, hey what can you do....We do talk on the phone often tho....

I have three boys, ages 13, 13, 16 that live with me from Sunday evening until Friday after school when their mom picks them up(well picks up the twins) for the weekend....(my oldest will often stay with me on a weekend or at friend's houses)....at this age I love taking care of my boys though sometimes it can be a
real challenge.....

walking into their room is like being on the set of Twister....
keeping track of schoolwork, homework, their friends & social
activities can be a challenge.....and then one plays electric guitar & the other twin plays drums....Do you know how loud it
can get in my garage?

yanno, we get along fabulously....and after being with their mom
on the weekend they are relieved to be back with me come sunday
eve.....i love being a Dad....a couple of weeks ago I ordered
some tennis shoes online for my oldest....on Thursday, just when
we were both wondering when they would arrive, they came in the mail....to see my son's face light up was worth it, and when he
came over to me and gave me a big hug & Thank-you Dad, I think
I was going to melt right there.....

Well I have been a single parent since 05 and I can tell ya breast feeding is a pain , they keep spitting up hairs Seriously my kids were teens when they lost thier mom, and when she was alive my wife couldn't do much because of a bad heart but what she did do was enormous. My wife was good at keeping up on insurance issues, she kept track and kept the kids on course with thier school work, if there was a problem she took care of it, she rocked when it came to details. I think I have tried my best to be a good parent, I have been over whelmed by the details however I think in the process this made my kids take over some of the minor details and this has taught them to grow up a little faster. I was always there for them for important details, I even taught my daughter to drive and will be working on my son this summer. I think Dad's can be very good parents and I must give anyone who's a single parent a big round of applause because its alot of work for one person to do.

I am a 25 yr old single MALE parent of one and i love it. Yes there are times when it seems like its too much but my daughter always manages to do something to make me laugh and the frustration goes away.

Well i found out in dec past that im gonna be a dad again at 44...As shocked as i was i actually was thrilled..Now im scared shitless..Biggest part of that fear is cause my babys mom was discussin our problems with her so called long time male friend while i was on the road...I am a truck driver and i was with my g/f's brother..
Well i get back late dec and get the new and by feb every thing totally changed..By early april she was announceing to the world(on face book) that she is in love with a new man..

Well im gonna miss all the mom dad stuff as the baby is growin inside her...(she lives 3 hrs away)Ill most likely miss the birth of my child and chances are the baby will imprint on her new man which is killen me..
I woke up twice in one night totally scared about all of what ill miss...

Ill be doing everythin i can to spend time with my child but being so far apart im gonna miss way to much..

I figure either he is some sorta freak that got attracted to a lady thats preggy with another mans baby and already has two girls,or some how there was some serious brain washing and rebound issues..
Either way im screwed outta this baby thing....
She broke up with me over the net,told me no over the net when i drove to see her and ask her to marry me..She accued me of all sorts of stuff thats not accurate..Funny though,what she accuses me of is what she was doin while i was away on the road..

Yeap im gonna be a single dad and i dont know how to..My other son is 26 now so alot of time has passed and im scared and left alone to learn how to be a dad again..

So i give props to any single parent out there...

I am sorry but I done't agree with trying if there is abuse involved. Someone abuses you once, they will do it again! that is not the kind of life one should lead, especiall with children involved

Nice one.......

...........Thank you...good thread....as a single parent bringing up a Daughter and Son was super hard work.....especially in the 'teen years',I am sure a lot of parents can relate to that one...that when I lost all my hair
But it was the most rewarding experience I ever had in my life, and more important my kids made me a much better and more of a understanding human being......yep...I got a lot to thank for, with my kids....bless them....I am sooooooooo proud of them....Oh...equally important have to give a big huge thank you to my ex Mother in law....who stood by us thick and thin thought the rough patches

J.D

My Dad practically raised me on his own.

I know a few single fathers and they are grossly underestimated and valued in my opinion. And they don't whine half as much as single mothers do.