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J.D

No need for thanks JD. I am just basing my opinion on being raised by my father and on the other single Dad's I know.

The only thing I found difficult from a girls point of view was talking to me Dad about girlie stuff, but once I was a bit older my sister and I would yabber on about it together.

I might say there seems to be an increase in the amount of Fathers that seem to have custody of their children also. I seem to run into this more and more.

My boy is here with me right now Tina.He has a job now and is doing well.Per our discussion earlier on.Amazing what a kid can make delivering pizzas.

How do you feel about being both mum and dad for your child ? Never worked out being a mom I was always the dad... Ya do what ya gotta do...

Does bringing up a child alone wear you out ? Not really but being married to his mother did...

Any experiences to share ??? Do the best that you can and don't worry about making mistakes . Life isn't perfect. Don't let Hollywood screw up your Idea of how you should act. I got custody just before Kramer Vs Kramer came out. It may have been a good movie but didn't do it for me...
Als be prepared to miss out on lots of the activities that your friends are attending.

Too answer your questions.

How do you feel about being both mum and dad for your child?

It has its rewords and challenges to say the least.
My youngest still slips up and calls me mommy from time to time.
The next oldest is mad at mommy for going away.
One just needs to think first then act or respond, and never show nervousness with the female related questions.
But I may have a step up on that as a licensed nurse.

Does bringing up a child alone wear you out?

Some times, but even moms get tired. All Humans get warn out at times.

Any experiences to share ???

Yes.
My second oldest is mad at mommy for going away.
It has taken long hours and talks to even reach her about this.
First I had to convince her mommy did not leve by choice.
Then getting her to talk about what see saw first in the house. See she found her mother on the floor. She watched me work on her mother for some time before the ambulance arrived. We lost her mother at the hospital a short time later of a heart attack.
We spend a lot of time looking at movies and photos, and I let her talk and express her feelings.
Then when my children are in bed I go to my room to cry alone. Not just for myself but for my children as well, for the pain they must carry that I can not fix.

Explaining becoming a young woman and the changes that are starting will be a breeze compared to anything that has come before.

Besides it has been proven that a man can raise a child alone if he is willing to learn the little extras needed. And we men are not all Neanderthals with limited learning capabilities.

My situation is not that uncommon.
At work I have seen many single parents created by accidents and by natural causes.
And to think only females can raise children is a bit narrow minded, and fits in with the thought that only females can be nurses, and all truck drivers have to be men.
It has sort of fascinated me since i joined CS to see that there are so many men as single parents . It is not very common in my part of the world and personally, i would rather tend to believe men cant handle bringing up children satisfactorily by themselves.

But here i have seen so many men adore their children and are more than happy in their company, nurturing and raising them. Its so nice.

So, A question for the guys who are single parents ..
How do you feel about being both mum and dad for your child ?
Does bringing up a child alone wear you out ?
Any experiences to share ???

For the ladies ,
Do you think men make great parents all by themselves ??[/quote

i have my son most week days ,goes to school in my town ,plays rugby,hurling ,football all in my town, i have my son alot its been tough but omg oooh so worth it,when it ended with my ex if you told any1 that a 6 month old baby boy could be your rock ,your constant ,my head leveller they,d say you are mad but he was all those things for me
i would not have it any other way
sorry i,ve not read any ot the rest of the thread ,just had to answer this
P.S.
i don,t think there is any difference between a woman or man been a single parent, its just a natural thing , you see your bundle and say i,ve got to do the best for THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ive had my daughter for two years now and think im doing a whole lot better than her mother would have and i wouldnt know what to do without her especially being single she takes up my time and doesnt give me the chance to get depressed and talks to me about anything and everything it may just b a rare thing but im sure there are other dads that have a great relationship with their kids but it does suck that she doesnt hav a woman to spend time with to n dont forget about me to lol

wow .. i tottally missed this one .. its great to read all these posts.. so heartfelt..

thanks all !!!

I have sole custody of 3 little boys ages 8,6, and 5 and have been doing it for over to years. I am truly a single parent in that I have to support them financially 100% (ie. I get no child support) as well as all the spiritual, emotional, physical support.

The work is tremendous. They joy is even bigger.

One experience to share..my 6 year old's class had some Muffins for Mothers day and the Moms were asked to RSVP. My kid asked me to go. I said "well..yeah man..I guess I do a lot of the things a mom does" and he said "you do ALL the things a mom does. You are the only one that does any work around here". I was glad he noticed.

I notice the biggest challenges when things that are out of the normal schedule happen...When I am sick with 103 fever but I still have to get lunches made, baths taken, etc. I had some dental work I needed done recently and it was almost impossible to get it arranged in and out of the 3 kids schedule.. It is those times that a spouse would really come in handy.

I tried several nanny situations, both live in and out. Mostly I spend months finding someone...they work for a few weeks..then steal or quit w/o notice and my kids end up asking...why did so and so leave? I have kind of given up on it.

How do you feel about being both mum and dad for your child ?
I feel that is is a joy but also a stress.

Does bringing up a child alone wear you out ?
Yes it does, I find myself tired in every way sometimes. When those time come, he goes and stays the night with his nana and I go out with friends. Once or twice a month.


Any experiences to share ???
Yes, if you have a son change him quick. Baby boys seems to aim very well and hit you in the chest or face. Also it isn't about the money you spend but the memories you create with your child. Instead of buying a toy to shut them up, take them to a play ground and swing with them.

Any man can be a father, it takes a real man to be a dad!!

Nah, takes a real man to be a daddy!

Sorry thats what i meant!!

hehe I was just being smart. I'm in such a great mood! Now for tomorrow to come so I can take my son to the play ground!

...... ...Well said...Good Sir....

J.D

I am raising a son of a different race . he was abandoned by his mother at birth . He is now 5 yrs old and has never heard a bad word about his mother . Hopefully he never will because i have taught him to never hate or be mean to any one , we are all of the human race and are entitled to the same persuit of happiness and are equal in the eyes of god. It takes much effort to raise a happy well balanced child , but the rewards are endless . I always tell him his mom loves him even though she is not around to tell him herself and maybe some day he will find out for himself, but he will always remember who gave him love and respect as a child . Happy parents day to all you single parents , and keep up the good work.

too right my friend!!!

its great being a dad. its my reason for getting up in the morning but it would be so much easier if my ex would throw some kids allowence my way, cause the maintenance is murder

I must confess I'm quite amazed at the questions in this post! Of course men can raise children all by themselves! Men are not stupid or incapable and if thats the experience of a minority then, quite frankly, I feel sorry for them...

Yes, men are perfectly capable of raising kids by themselves, being left alone in cars (just roll the window down), getting themselves dressed in the morning, tying their own shoelaces and a variety of other domestic chores

Honestly! Still can't get over this one!

I have an 18,14,13,10 . I have been single for all the years. The men would not be able to do it on their own. The men I know.

i raised two alone.. a girl and a boy...
from 5 and 7 .. now 23 and 25...
and i am now a grandfather.

no way i can be both mum and dad...
just dad..

and while the decision i made was the right one.. no regrets..
it was not easy.. and the horror stories
through the teens seem more impressed in my
memory than the good ones..
both my kids love me and i them...

they could have benefited from
a balanced upbringing...
meaning having the more tender parent
in their lives, would have been a plus...
a second adult opinion on many issues
benefits the family in so many ways...

my daughter especially could have used a
woman's perspective on so many issues in her life.



a second adult opinion on many issues
benefits the family in so many ways...