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It always surprises me when I see some people who seem to jump from relationship to relationship witthout any time in between....I think it's better if you can learn to be on your own outside a relationship first..before engaging in the next one!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm fine, hun!!

I'm just thinking out loud, and in general... and what others have found!!

hi os
by os
ive gotta go drive kids around and then
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crap of course i meant BYE not by

see?

Hi..Bye darlin....

It depends on the realtionship itself, the history, whether you have exhausted all your options for trying to keep the relationship together; I think keeping things in perspective can really help when you are trying to get over someone; it's easy to be nostalgic at times, but you have to remember why it didn't work out and just accept that.

Also getting to know yourself better and being a lil selfish can help to recover/ regain you shine, which is inevitably lost when a part of you is gone with whomever you gave it to.

I think it is different for many people, I know two that dumped me and had a boyfriend the next day, anyway. they are both together till this day and the one couple is getting married. I really dont get it except some people can and some can not,,,for me, I have a real hard time letting go, so maybe I am best to move on, again I just dont know really, interesting timing on this thread nevertheless.

Just coming up to ten years for me.

Dont think i'll ever be ready for another
relationship.

There are too many factors to determine. How deep you were in say for instance.....

My last love took me years to feel that I was ready and had my walls torn down to accept love in again....

No clue ... maybe i will wait till i meet someone who can spark the same feelings again ..

It varies on the intensity of the relationship. If it was strong enough, you never get over it. It's a permanent part of you. ESPECIALLY if it was good.

Moving on takes time. Months, years. Different for different people.

On to a new relationship? That most definitely varies also. The best lovers start out as friends. (Well maybe, I don't know about that yet.)

After you have ended it with someone you care about...

How soon after do you feel you're emotionally ready to move on?...


Quite a long time I think.. I like to regroup .. pick myself back up and have a shed load of ME time.. before I would attempt anything else. haha

If it was me that ended it.. probably sooner, because I would have already been emotionally pulling away a while ago.

..I am newly divorced (10th March)..i have been on my own 6 years now and have not had a relationship with any guy...my ex and i have remained friends through it all...i dont love him but have lots of respect for him and he has met someone else and is happy..i have became set in my ways..selfish with me and dont know how to let a guy into my life...i do feel ready but scared..R.

I agree that it really depends upon the relationship and how close you were to that person. However, one thing that delays the recovery is if you still have feelings for that person and you still see or talk to them. I was in a six year relationship and after being together that long, it was hard for both of us to move on. We still talked and saw each other occasionally (even had sex) for six months afterward. While it might feel good at the time, it just makes it harder to get over things.

I agree with the ME-time... I think everyone needs that after breaking up,
and I also agree with your second part... That's kind of me as well...

hi Oslo snow has been keeping me away,missed everyone.For me it would depend on how deep the love is.

This is the period it is suppose to take and although I have tried fooling myself it always turns out true

hi honey

hi Mickey