Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 2:22 PM CST
These games are for horny pre-teens not mature adults that should have long ago decided that they were secure enough about their own self opinion that they no longer required another's opinion to feel a sense of self worth and acceptence.
Personally I dont need someone to tell me i'm careing or loving or a sensitive understanding person to feel in my own mind and opinion that i am just that, i know in my own opinion that i am. I hope that doesnt come across as narcisisstic (sp) but its how i feel I have enough of my own opinion of myself to not
require someone elses. However everyone wants to hear it from their lover every now and again but by no means should either person have to "pull teeth" to get their significant other to say it.
Knowing everylittle detail of your life does not prove that i care about you and vise verse not knowing doesnt prove that i dont. lets face it people with everything that goes on in our lives daily remembering little facts may become increasingly harder. Remembering the exact date your sister was pregnant isnt exactly as significant as remembering our aniversary or your birthday. Yes being attentive and taking interest in her life and family is important but if a guy forgets something like the day your brother became engaged but remembers that your the aniversary of their relationship is this saturday then cut him some slack its not like women remember every little detail either.
As for the "We need to talk and the drop off test" I have to agree with them on this one. If the "boob tube" is more important than your gf, wife, life partener's well being or own needs then you need to seriously re-evaluate the relationship and either put your priorities in order or end the relationship.
OK LADIES AND GENTS HERE COMES THE BIG ONE...... SEX IS NOT A WEAPON, BARGAINING CHIP, TOOL, OR PAYMENT METHOD!!!!!!!!!!!!! If this is the case you are not mature enough to be having a sexual relationship and should consider taking some time to straighten out your life, mate. All to often in relationships rely too much on sex to survive or to get what one or the other wants, this is simply not healthy emotionally or mentally to either person in the relationship, if you are in this practice seek professional relationship counciling to try to put your love life back on the road to health and happiness for both parties.
A relationship is a 50/50 engagement no one side (male or female) should have more "power" or "control" over the other. Again if this is your case seek professional help because you are hurting your partener or are being hurt by your partener.
Now onto the last two things on that list, if you are angry and/or having an argument sometimes backing off and seeking solitude for a few minutes might be a good idea to avoid saying and or doing something you will regret later, however this should be a very limited time and you should end up talking it through that night and getting to some form of resolution within that evening. A cold shoulder will only eventuate in a breakup and possibly if done enough, cheating (mind you i dispise people who cheat on their bf/gf and i certainly dont condone it). The same goes for mind games on the behalf of either party, this is a very unhealthy practice and is in the same catagory as Deception, manipulation and underhandedness (is that a word?) these practices should cease immediately and be followed up by seeing a relationship councelor.
that is my feelings and beliefs, sorry for being so damned long winded
