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Iv got a invitation or visiting to me from a netpal of french blond ladies.blushing: .

she s got something hint and ask me for some passionate..we just knew for 1month net meeting.frustrated: .to be frankly ,the moment hearng from her that i was shocked so much ,good feeling stolen here..but im fraid i v got trouble to response quickly as i did before this time..how could i cope with that,? any experts here for my help?thanks !::

I'm a sexpert but not sure I understand the question. If you think a month is not long enough of knowing her maybe you can tell her you want to wait longer before you decide whether to meet her or not for a passionate time

I agree with beautiful Zell.Don't allow anyoneto push you into anything.Talk about it with her.

Our great minds think alike NMG .. That's a great pic

A month...too short a time span?

I recently knew a girl who was of the opinion, after chatting for a couple of months and spending but 10 days together, that she wanted kids in the next couple of years.



I guess I was lucky in my escape.

Wow, bet you vamooshed as soon as you heard her say that, is probably the fastest escape that ever happened in the world

Yup...damn right.

You see, initially it was a compromise issue...but as I said, her idea of a compromise was to pencil it in for sometime in the next couple of years.

Heaven knows what would have been the case if she wasn't of the mind to compromise so reasonably.


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A compromising issue with conditions attached

Yes, you're definitely best off out of that one, we live and learn

You all got that out of the op? I'm impressed, I couldn't make heads or tails of it.

Maybe she was just talking and didn't even mean you .. maybe you were being a little too presumptuous

It was during us discussing the possibilities of a relationship.

So I damn hope it was me she was meaning.

What's wrong with being honest about a matter so importand as this, from the beggining of a relationship? Maybe not in the first 5 dates, ok, but within the reasonable span of the first couple of months, it is a very importand issue that needs to be brought forward.

Especially in the environment of CS, where this is something that is stated explicitely on our profiles, it no big secret if a woman wants kids or not.

And for people that an looking for long-term relationships, especially around my age and up to your age, wether or not they want kids is something extremely importand that should be let out as soon as possible.

By discussing wether i want kids or not, it doesnt mean that i will deffinately have them with the person i am discussing this subject with. But it can show if the relationship can go on or if it can't. Because if, for example, i definately want kids, why would i be interested in a woman that definately doesnt want any??

Jiayi, i got a few thoughts i'd like to share with you on what i got so far, but could you please try to clarify what the situation is, cuz honestly i am a bit confused with your post

Check out Zell's reply to him, I think she deciphered what he was talking about.

I think he means he's been talking to an internet friend and after only a month she says she wants to visit him for a passionate time. He was shocked and has lost respect or maybe a good feeling about their friendship and is finding it difficult to talk to her so easily and without awkwardness and so needs advice on what to do.

Then again, I could have got complete wrong end of the stick

There is nothing wrong with discussing such a matter with somebody with whom you are considering a relationship with. Indeed, it's vital.

However, setting a time scale before you're actually in the relationship is a little disconcerting if you're not quite of the opinion that you're 100% sure this is the person for you.

Being prepared to compromise on such a metter doesn't include such rigidity in my opinion.

I'd have much preferred a much more reasonable approach.

So, it's better to let such a person find what they're looking for elsewhere.

Hence my comments above Manolito.

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Hiya Mano

Yeah I agree with that Mano..

If I was at a point in my life where I knew I wanted children in my future.. then I wouldn't want to be wasting time in a relationship with someone that didn't.

Infact.. if we had got a long way into it .. then I had found out they didn't.. I would have been pretty pissed off at wasting my time on someone who wasn't headed in the same direction as me.

I don't think there is anything wrong with talking about it in a relationship. At least you both know where each other stands.

It's different when you are young.. more carefree.. and just 'dating' .... I agree that then.. it woul dbe a little too *Fast*..

but I think when (like here) most of us are all older.. and know much better about what we do and don't want.. and it's all a bit more 'serious' then I think it's an important thing to know.