Do we scare people off the forums ??

bajanblue
Speightstown, Saint Peter Barbados

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:20 PM CST

PureSail55 wrote:

I looked at this discussion and removed all of the open spaces, all of the blank lines,all of the text repeated and emotes and it went from five pages to less then one. How in the world could people be interested in a site when at times you look at a good discussion and more the half of the replies are only emotes stretched out for pages. Rather Juvenal to try to add one word and five emotes is it not. I started this with page five and each of you regulars have now repeated to yourself how happy that you are now that you can talk to each other. This started with a though of adding new to this did it not? You all stated the it was hard to get in and now you are in? Lucky you. It did not take long to look like any of the other discussions here. Same people same story.

Open spaces make reading easier.

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I started this with page five and each of you regulars have now repeated to yourself how happy that you are now that you can talk to each other.

Perhaps we are reading different pages? I am a regular, and did not say that...

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Lucky you. It did not take long to look like any of the other discussions here. Same people same story.

Are you trying to be rude? Or are you having a bad day? It has been a lively thread that stayed on topic with only minor excursions.

I know you are not new because i have seen you more than once in my who's viewed you box, so if you are not seeing the type of discussions you prefer why not start one?

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bajanblue
Speightstown, Saint Peter Barbados

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:26 PM CST

PureSail55 wrote:

This is not the first time that I have posted and I am not new here. If I had only bit my lip and agreed with you there would have been no reply on your part. I only expected to be criticized and the discussion started here with how to get new people. Dissensions will not permitted. We must all agree,,,, soon we all sound alike??

Actually no. I don't think any of us sound like you.

There's some dissension for you..

I do think if you criticise you might expect it to be a two way street.

We frequently get what we expect, it is how the Universe works.

The tone and content of your posts would put me off if I were a newbie.

Perfect example of what we can work to avoid.

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jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:28 PM CST

PureSail55 wrote:

This is not the first time that I have posted and I am not new here. If I had only bit my lip and agreed with you there would have been no reply on your part. I only expected to be criticized and the discussion started here with how to get new people. Dissensions will not permitted. We must all agree,,,, soon we all sound alike??

Well there is certainly a difference between sounding like a bunch of clones and openly criticizing people whom you know nothing about. If this is your normal entrance into a group then might I suggest you read "How to win friends and influence people".

We are all individuals but try to use common courtesy when addressing each other (in most cases) and I have often had differences of opinions with many of my "clone" friends, but try not to insult them when having a difference of opinion.

There is a difference between being rude and walking to a different drummer.

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PureSail55
Haslett, Michigan USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:29 PM CST

This was a new discussion remember... to find new people, Was that not the idea or was it point out head shapes and chat with old friends. I can see that the subject is no longer as started. It is now to find fault so I will apologize to all who live here and go back to being quite.

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jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:34 PM CST

PureSail55 wrote:

This was a new discussion remember... to find new people, Was that not the idea or was it point out head shapes and chat with old friends. I can see that the subject is no longer as started. It is now to find fault so I will apologize to all who live here and go back to being quite.

hhhmmmmm, sound a bit like " I didn't get my own way... so I'm gonna take my toys and go home!"

It's a shame that you feel it's all right to come in and criticize others, but can't take a little "dissension" when it's thrown back at you.

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mindfful
--, Missouri USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:35 PM CST

o
my gosh

pointless now for sure

start in your own garden

arrogant son of a gun

like i said
its plain to all why youve not become a regular-
youre plain unfriendly

haha-bajan-me too

and JB thats an ooold book-

you couldnt tell it but its next to my toilet

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:36 PM CST

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bajanblue
Speightstown, Saint Peter Barbados

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:37 PM CST

PureSail55 wrote:

This was a new discussion remember... to find new people, Was that not the idea or was it point out head shapes and chat with old friends. I can see that the subject is no longer as started. It is now to find fault so I will apologize to all who live here and go back to being quite.

Not quite. See below.

In response to:

* I wonder if we are expecting too much of " forum etiquette "
from people? What do you think ?

* Is it up to us to make people feel welcome and make them feel
comfortable or is it up to them to mix and join in the threads ?

* Do you think people resort to rude posting time and again to get
noticed or make a point ( new or old anyone )?

* Keeping in mind this is a dating site , are we many a times way off
track making it boring for people actually looking for a partner ?

* Is this an issue to even think about at all ? If yes, what can be done
about it ??

Anytime I point a finger at someone there are three fingers pointing back at me....try it and see.

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kidatheart
Southern BC/Lamont, Alberta Canada

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:37 PM CST

PureSail55 wrote:

This was a new discussion remember... to find new people, Was that not the idea or was it point out head shapes and chat with old friends. I can see that the subject is no longer as started. It is now to find fault so I will apologize to all who live here and go back to being quite.

That's the nature of the forums here. No fault, just the way it is.

Can't be too serious all the time.

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highplains
Highland Springs, Virginia USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:40 PM CST

<<<Skeers people.....All the time....

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bajanblue
Speightstown, Saint Peter Barbados

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:49 PM CST

skeered!

highplains wrote:

<<<Skeers people.....All the time....

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highplains
Highland Springs, Virginia USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 1:52 PM CST

bajanblue wrote:

skeered!

as well you should be......

Now I want to plaaayyyyy with yewwwwwwwww......

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riyablossom
somewhere India

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:39 PM CST

PureSail55 wrote:

This was a new discussion remember... to find new people, Was that not the idea or was it point out head shapes and chat with old friends. I can see that the subject is no longer as started. It is now to find fault so I will apologize to all who live here and go back to being quite.

I think all threads do go out of track here and there. But that way it keeps things healthy and is a good reading. I personally dont have issues with people posting or chitchatting on a thread.

The purpose was to discuss and think to ourselves if there is anything we would do about things ( if there is anything to be done ) and to share views. So, I think thats being served well.

As we all know the forums have limited no. of people. So, if people do get chitchatting i wonder why its a problem as long as the rest of us continue to post our opinions on the matter on hand . Also, we can join the chitchat too.

Ermm .. is there anything else you would like to add ? I am justt rying to explain pls dont be offended.

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riyablossom
somewhere India

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:41 PM CST

morganlee wrote:

hi riya

I think the thread was a good idea and made us think about the way we can be percieved by people who are new. I don't think that anyone was saying 'aren't we lucky we have been accepted' but sharing experiences that is how we look at what we do and try to change things for the better !! ~~jmo~~

Its true Morgan.

We say how it was and just talk our minds. I feel it makes us aware of how we are behaving and how it is perceived as you have said.

We cant always be angelic but we can make an effort to avoid being obviously rude.

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mindfful
--, Missouri USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:43 PM CST

the faultfinder being a victim?
thats always my favorite

HP is what scares people away
we coulda ended the thread in 3 posts

PureSail is right
we just are NOT succinct enough around here
we should just all walk thru and wave and nod
kinda like at the grocery store

i mean ive heard thats a good place to meet singles too

riya stop apologizing to ppl who behave rudely
and dont also apologize
and i swear if you apologize to this i will come over there!!!

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morganlee
marmaris, Aegean Turkey

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:44 PM CST

riyablossom wrote:

Its true Morgan.

We say how it was and just talk our minds. I feel it makes us aware of how we are behaving and how it is perceived as you have said.

We cant always be angelic but we can make an effort to avoid being obviously rude.

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joanie04984
North Woods, Maine USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:46 PM CST

highplains wrote:

<<<Skeers people.....All the time....

highplains wrote:

<<<Skeers people.....All the time....

You don't skeer me...Burt

I've been here too long

P.S. Page 8 of this mess doesn't seem to be loading. Did PureSail55 have something to say that I missed?

And I missed encouraging a newbie?

Rats!!

I'll be cursed and evil again???

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sweetykat
Lakeland, Florida USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:50 PM CST

HI all Memeber me? lol good to see some of the old gang still here, i just took a break for a while, i do lurk occasionally, leave a messsage everyonce in a while for some freinds. i don't hang out here much just because i have been busy with some th ings life and been pitching at me, i need a huge bat and a catcher

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RedHeadedTaurus
Here, Michigan USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:51 PM CST

~"I think some of the new "would-be-regular-posters" are put off by all the boring chit chat amongst seemingly cliquey members. They must feel like they've turned up at a party where everyone knows each other except themselves so they feel ignored and vow never to return.

This even turns off some of the older regular posters."~

I absolutely agree, and have had a few folks actually express this to me in the past.

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joanie04984
North Woods, Maine USA

Posted: Apr 8, 2008, 2:54 PM CST

sweetykat wrote:

HI all Memeber me? lol good to see some of the old gang still here, i just took a break for a while, i do lurk occasionally, leave a messsage everyonce in a while for some freinds. i don't hang out here much just because i have been busy with some th ings life and been pitching at me, i need a huge bat and a catcher

I remember you!

Good for you that you have been busy with Real Life.

Keep on keeping on, because baseball season is HERE

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