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[quote=Islander2]
It's obviously it's not us women here that are in those relationship. But those women who were didn't seem to have much choice now did they? Was some of it abuse, or was it really love at first sight? Were some of the men avoiding jail sentence, thus they marry their cousin after the relationship started? If they go by the double standard that a woman must be a virgin before she marries, then she can't be if she is busy with her cousin before that, or can she still be considered worthy only if she marries him?

A distant cousin showed interest in me once (hadn't seen him ever before this time basically) he was a second or third cousin and after a lot of beer went to kiss me.. it still completely grossed me out.. lovely guy... could have had a good relationship.. if that horrible memory wasn't etched in my mind... now while I understand that there are different degrees of sickness.... if you KNOW that someone is a direct blood relative... I just think it is waaaay to creepy .. JMV

[quote=mychelle]

I think.. JMV that people who submit to this kind of thing have a very skewed idea of what familial love is about.. possibly becuase of abuse.. I don't know... but u just don't go with family. even biology rejects that as a notion JMV

[quote=mychelle]

Not sure where the virginity requirement came from. Or the sudden necessity of marriage.

Anyway, we are still judging the whole thing from our standpoint and we in the western world don't make up a third of the world's population. There are so many other views all dependent on our upbringing.

And while I personally haven't experienced nearly enough of it, I'm quite sure women have their own sex drive which they satisfy in whatever way suits them. Why wouldn't a woman "have much choice"?

[quote=Islander2]
In Jerry Lewis's case.......that didn't seem appropriate, young 13 year old girl... Was he completely divorced yet from previous relationship?

I knew this couple *married*, that i liked very much (nice people). I found out later, that they are in fact cousins. They have an adorable son.

No, no one commented on it.

Well for the sake of the child, no one says anything beside whispers perhaps, but unless it was a taboo subject where you live, no one bothers about it.

There is no child involved whats the problem?

Excuse me sir, do you like your cousin?

That's just nasty ewwww

I love all my cousins ------ read the entire thread

My previous response was to the lady lusciousmile, but I know you are aware of that.
But something tells me you are eaten up about a situation. Would you care to say how it has affected you?

True. No one dares to say a word. They are a mix of seychelles and Kenya.

Are you trying to come to terms with a situation that has really eaten away at you and your family?

No just me all the rest are easy with it I come from a family of 9 you hit the nail on the head.

Well then the response you are getting may be similar to those that you may have felt in the intial stage of that individual announcement of the relationship.

If there was some shock, disbelief in the beginning of that person's realtionship, sometimes this may have led them(the couple) not to have children, inorder not to further complicate matters. Secondly, if you were close(meaning on good terms with one or both of them) then it put a further strain on your relationship with them.

Fair enough it has been interesting and your points have been well founded lovely to to converse with you .

I love anything with a "1" in it

I have to say to you that it took a lot of guts for you to put that initial thread out there. But it sure got lots of response!