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Welcome.

U know, funny thing is the lady who started this ain't here any more.

Could be a different time zone........

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on a different page......she's local from here...

Congrats Jo didn't know that we can at least wish ya'll two well, you seem right for each other so go girl!

If there is such a thing as the right one....it's basically who you can get along with and vice versa........lots of people barely have anything in common and still manage to put 50 or more years into their relationship.....so it probably is learning to dismiss some things and compromise in others. Doesn't mean you are to agreee with abuse, quite the contrary!

Why is so difficult to find the right one?

Because there are vanishingly few of me?

Modest too!!!

I would add "love thyself and life" to compliment that. If you can't love thyself, then it is kinda hard to love others unconditionally....

Thank you sweetie

I don't know......it's always Irish women I SEEM to ATTRACT.

oui!

I know what you mean...and agree to a certain extent.....BUT, in this day and age I think some people take the 'love thyself' bit too far....they love themselves so much that they don't have enough for anyone else! I do believe there are some people that are so enamored with themselves that they can't possibly care for anyone else near as much....jmo.

To clarify, I am not talking about loving yourself in a narcissistic or egotistically.
I mean to cherish the things you have and appreciate it. To love your positive attributes that help yourself, others, and society. To not judge yourself so harshly and accept things as they are and not what you want them to be. For instance, many people hate themselves for who they are and how they do things. I love to do things last minute, I love the pressure and it seems to force me to think more clear and fast paced. Many people who are last minute may stress over the fact that they wish they could do projects earlier.
The point lies in the end result. Many people try and do what other think they should...that is not loving and respecting yourself. Having understanding and respect for yourself can only fuel your love for yourself as a quality individual who has much to give to anyone who is ready to accept your happiness.

I think Kissme eeply has an ideathat worked.When you don't try so hrd,it happens.Oka for some of us.I think most of us as I rea in threads for 1 and 1/2 yrs.,we are too picky.Sometimes we pass someone up be fore really giving them a chance.

Yeah, I think you misread me and it was my fault in the first place for not defining it in the crystal clear shine on what I meant.

When I speak of love in that sense, I speak of unconditional love. Love is giving and sharing...unconditionally. Loving yourself and sharing that zest and happiness with others....

Happens all the time....expectations in a relationship is a killer. Expecting the other person to make your life perfect. My recent ex had enormous expectations for me to do everything as she thought a boyfriend should do....just to make her world perfect. Sorry, I was not a morning person etc....Respecting differences plays a vital role...and a little sacrifice here and there. But not being the person that your partner thinks you should be. If you can't be yourself, or if you won't allow your partner the liberty to be his/her self, then things can get fucked up....

I think it is important to love a person for everything they are....and everything they are not. If you can't accept another for all that makes them the person they are, there is no point in pursuing anything.

I also believe that we cannot count on another to make us happy...we must be happy within ourselves before we can ever be happy with another.

I have decided to just enjoy life single and if that right one happins to come along all the better.