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I have never read or seen "The Secret." I was reading something this evening that mentioned it. Not knowing what the big secret is, I searched the net for information about it. I found the right website and under information about relationships, read this:

"Every single relationship you have is a reflection of how you feel inside about you. You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings. Every relationship you have and every interaction with every person, is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings in that very moment." [thesecret.tv]

According to this, I feel like sh*t, because this is the way I've recently been treated. Not completely, just by one guy. The other one might have married me next week if I'd wanted. It's probably 50/50.

So, my question to you is this:

Do we attract the kind of people that we really want into our lives?

Dana we attract both but sometimes we are so blind we never see the one that we really need we go after the one that we want and looose the one that we need

the connection we make with certain people is real and they come into our lives for specific reason/s- these "gifts' are for us to recognise and grow

No, I don't completely believe it. Some relationships are just what they are and some are unavoidable, like work. Although there may be some truth to the idea that you attract some people and they come into your life for a reason.

I've had the movie for almost a year now but haven't watched it yet. Sitting like about a dozen others.

Intuative.....

Basically what you put out ..........you get....

In simplest terms.

Yes....we do. Some come and go if you catch my drift....

Good books Celastine Prophesies.

Do explain a bit of where your thinking .

Secret is a bit materialistic in my eyes.

Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness within you.

I really have to wonder about that Dana... I've read all the books, have a degree in psychology and I'm really beginning to doubt all the visualization, reflection, etc.

When I look at my own life... all my ducks are pretty much in a row. I have a good job, an active social life, some amazing friends, I feel good about myself and who I am, the words that other people use to describe me most frequently is confident and intelligent. These are traits that I look for in a partner as well, but I seem to attract just the opposite.

The men most attracted to me are the ones looking for a care taker, men like my past husband who wanted me to take charge of everything in our lives because I'm strong and confident. I'm not interested in this type of relationship, I want a partner who can be as strong, who can shoulder their share of the responsibility of a relationship. I'd really like to know what it is I'm projecting that continually attracts this type of man to me. I know the signals now and guys like this last about 2 minutes, but in the mean time I'm still not attracting the kind of mate I want.

I'm not really sure how I think about this concept. I do believe in this idea on some level, but then again, like you, JB, I seem to be projecting the wrong thing.

I do get your drift, hun. Maybe there is some lesson I'm to learn from these recent experiences. I'm just not sure at this point, what that might be.

Simple women.

Were once upon a time the people who had children and looked after husband and child.

Man husband the hunter
Woman the nuturer

Simple

we have over years changed the whole balance of how it was?

There is the problem. Doubt. Once you plant that seed, it can build depending on the strength of your negative thoughts, and what you think, manifests. I think you are focusing your energy on what you don't want. And what you don't want is what is manifesting, because that seems to dominate your thoughts.

It is a process and takes time. Many people give up when they are right on the cusp of their positive thoughts from manifesting. Then it dies by the doubt and pessimism. You can always start over though.

A pessimist no one has ever called me, and the doubt is something new.

For many years it was a choice to be single... I wanted to put all my attention into raising my daughter and didn't have the time or inclination to put the kind of effort needed to make a relationship work. Then I made the choice to travel... again my energies were focused on something other then finding a relationship, it was more about discovering who I was outside of being a mother. Those "tasks" completed, I have been open and available to seeing an end to my single life for the past
5 years with no distractions, but nothing.

I have had some amazing men in my life and some fantastic relationships and know that it is possible to have what I'm searching for.

Due to stupid preconceived notions I ended one relationship, timing has been the end of a couple of others. I'm starting to think that we only have so many chances at meeting a life partner and perhaps I've used mine up.

Whatever you do, do not give up. Please You live in the world you create and create the world you live in. I try to live by it and it takes a lot of work at times. Please don't perceive me as a know it all or like I am 200 percent happy all the time. I try and do my best. Sometimes it is easy and no prob, then other times the rain can come. But I know the sun is waiting for me. Without a doubt.

I'm thinking you may be right about all of this, StressFree. You're making a lot of sense.

Sorry - lost my text! (bummer!)

Yes - I attract positive, happy, generous, outgoing, intelligent wonderful people..........'jushhhhhhhhhhh like me!'

Not giving up and not sad or unfulfilled either all though I do have my moments of frustration. The fact is that I would much rather spend the rest of my life on my own then share it with someone just for the sake of having someone. I have a fantasitic life with amazing friends and family, work that I love and the majority of the time am really happy, just every once in a while think how nice it would be to share it all with someone...

But thank you for your enthusism and great positive outlook, it doesn't come across as "know it all" in the least.

A agree with you 100%, JB. And as she said, Stress, no, it doesn't come across in a know-it-all manner at all. to both of you.