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So i go out on a date with this girl and i think we are hittin it off im throwin off signs im really diggin her, steal a few kisses or two and we end up goin on a 48 hour date. I'm doin the best I can to impress,charm, and stay spontanious. I'm a gentleman all the way through though never cop a feel or nothing,open doors,etc.. She heads home I make sure she made it home safely and had enough gas etc. then i talk to her today and bring up the subject like askin her how she feels about me now after the date and she replies with a real killer "oh ive always only seen you as a freind..." i put all i had into showin the chick a good time and all i get is a bullshit line?
so here i am from the depts of solitude as before but now with only a damaged ego/pride to add to my mounting hidden insecurities to show for ma hard work. Where did i go wrong?

Maybe she just didn't feel the same way you did.

Not sure. Hold your head high and move on.

Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. Plain talk I find, works out much better than signals. Talk first, date later.

good advice but it still sucks i dont understand it if anyone woulda done 1 quarter of all i did and i wasn't diggin them anyways i would siad something early on instead of leadin them on for so long

Yeah I can understand how you're feeling that way.

there we go thats what i was lookin for! lil bit of empathy!! HAHA thnx

Sounds like to much to quickly. I never let a girl know I'm that into her that quickly.

Wemon like the mystery of not knowing and figureing it out as they go. What you say and do matters less than how you make them feel. I like to keep the mystery going.

JMO

First of all, I am a bit surprised there were kisses involved on the first date. To each their own, but that would be way too much and too soon for me. Don't forget that woman's attraction develops exactly in the reverse order compared to man's attraction - we generally first like to see whether we like your way of thinking, values etc, and only then proceed to emotions and then to physical attraction. With guys it's vice versa. Don't worry about her saying she sees you as a friend, it may actually be a good sign, but she is not attracted to you (yet) in any other ways, which is normal. Again, if someone tried to kiss me on the first date, I'd be well grossed out or at least uncomfortable, no matter how handsome the man was. It just doesn't feel right. (except if it was in a light-hearted, friendly kind of way) Personally I need to decide first if I'm even interested in the person. Try acting like a gentleman instead of harbouring hurt feelings where there shouldn't be any.

[quote=KooLAiD86] I'm doin the best I can to impress,charm, and stay spontanious.quote]

Be yourself...particularly as she knows you.. she probably saw through it.. also.. just cause you have switced on the 'charm' should not mean that there should be any expectations.. let her see the 'real' you, but in a different context and take ur time.. 48 hours of 'charm' does not a potential relationship make..

Sorry just being honest...

Oh, and please please don't count or calculate what you have done for the lady or how much you've spent on her.... You were both supposed to have a good time, and your reward is her having had a good time in your company. She wasn't "leading you on", unless (!) you were only looking for sex at the end of the 48 hours (then you're the one who should have said something earlier so she could back out of it right at the start).

Duct tape fixes all, even ego's....best to you...

You went on a date

Oh puhleeze! Maybe girls like all that mysterious bs, now that I'm a grownup, well I never really liked it anyway, but I want to know how a man feels about me, none of this guessing game stuff. If a man doesn't let me know how he feels about me right off, he's probably not going to get a second chance.

You're right about that one line, how a man makes me feel is the most important thing.

And ... 48 hours would probably be a bit much for a first date.

JMO.

Wounded ego? Joke right? No woman should be able to do anything like this to a real male. I guess this is where I lose. I am going to laugh until I am on the plane. You can be heartbroken, lovestruck, the gambit, but wounded ego? Ego = Your tester, Wound = Hurt... You get smacked in the nads?

Here again, it's just me...

you didn't go wrong, she's clearly a lesbian, get over and move along. With every 48 hour experience, you just gain more insight.....she was a learning experience, it is up to you to decide what you have learned.....sexy

I'll keep my oppinion very brief, as it has been covered by the previous posters (namely Aundryssis and Aries01).

In addition to what has been said, i think your mistake was mainly that you tried too much: When you say that you went on a 48 hour date, geez, who does that on a first date? I get the impression that you tried to do everything on the first date; and that's almost never a good thing mate!

Take your time; a first date is supposed to be a getting to know each other thing, not a "can-you-stand-me marathon"... On a first date you are supposed to talk a bit, ask a bit and listen a lot

and good morning everyone

everyones dif! But I only know when I reveal to much to quickly I end up kicked to the curb.

hahaha, a crash course into dating!

yeh, it's pretty simple really...

Hiya Mano.. like the new photo... ur up early? (I know I am too.. long story.. work thing)..