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sex is 1 of the most important things in a relationship and as for no sex before marraige


u wouldnt by a car without a test drive now wud u???

For me, without the emotional, psychic/spiritual context and the sheer fun of sex I would just fall out of bed laughing.

Stripped of all these extras it becomes just an awkward jumble of limbs, sweating through a range of motions that -outside of Cirque du Soleil - is just reminiscent of slap stick of the most basic kind.

I wasn't referring to you as using sex as a tool, but to your ex girlfriend by refusing to have sex for sometimes up to a month because you had an argument.

I personally love playful fun sex. An example;

After a long drive romantic drive up the coast of Italy my boyfriend and I arrived at our waterfront destination and basically raced up the stairs to be with each other. After a mad passionate round of sex I burst out laughing, he looked at me questioningly and I laughingly replied "Now everyone in the hotel knows your name". The jokes continued about how everyone was now in their rooms making love and 9 months from now there would be a flood of children born named Tony or Antonia... through this the lovemaking never stopped nor did the laughter.

We went on to imitate the way the different people we had seen in the lobby would make love (to hilarious results) and always enjoyed talking to each other in the language of romantic novels, "let me taste the sweet nectar of your bubbling brook" or "please thrust your hard, velvety sword of love into my aching void" with laughter at every phrase.

For me, the ability to laugh and be playful during lovemaking takes it to a much deeper connection then being serious and intense.

Oh oops.....Then I agree as well.

Thanks jbibiza and bajanblue for your examples and insight. Now I see what kind of fun you were talking about, and I am total agreement with that. To be honest, I was thinking about some kind of silly role playing games involving costumes, paint, or chainsaws.....

Costumes and role playing can be fun and a great way to bring your fantasies to life...

I trust sex more than relationships. If the sex is solid and exciting, the relationship should be as well. Some have primal urges that when satisfied, the relationship is healthy. I am one of those people. As far as sex before marriage, if I waited to have sex before marriage, I would still be a virgin I could never have a relationship for a long period if the sex was unfulfilling.

jmo

Chainsaws and knives? jk, That's cool jbibiza. Everyone has different tastes....


Princes4someone.....I like your tone sweety.....

I have also made love when extremely sad due to bereavement and it was very beautiful and serene.
Also in the middle of a heated argument we started having sex and literally F****d one another to death.
We can make love, shag, screw, f**k, etc each word describes a different emotion and a different method of having sex, and I have fallen out of the bed laughing at times because we were having so much fun.
All the emotions can be expressed through our sexuality and I think we learn about our own sexuality throughout our life as we learn about good food , Music, People.

I think Jibiza has one of the healthiest and mature views about sex there is.

I was envisioning something more like Tarzan & Jane...

Chainsaws and knives??? What kind of sexual fantasies do you have???

I was thinking more along the lines of wealthy land owner and serving girl...

Thank you Patrick.

I'm with you completely on the variety of emotions expressed through our sexuality... one of the most memorable love making experiences I've ever had was saying goodbye to someone I loved, it was sad and filled with tears, but so tender and loving...

I have a tree house in the backyard

I trust relationships more than sex, You can have sex that is "solid and exciting" and little or no "relationship"
Lovers come and go but friendship can last a lifetime.

I do know that now and only now can I have a serious relationship with someone with sex taking a back seat (forgive the pun)

This could well be a Male thing although I often think that older men are closer to younger women in their sexuality and older women to younger men.

I'm with you there

It's definitely a part of it and it's expected, along with so many other elements that make a relationship strong.

Okkkkkkkk!

Enough work for today.

Only came on for a few minutes before and left again. Have read though and quite an interesting mix of posts I must say.

I keep on repeating this everytime there's tis sort of talk going around threads. Sex is good, but not all sex is good sex.

If one is still pumping hormones and is walking around with a perpetual stiff then probably the brain is too fuzzed to make a distinction. But once that period is over one tends to become more demanding of oneself.

It is not a matter of relationship, or wether a one off, or a total stranger for that matter.

It is a matter of chemistry. A look, an aura. If it's right, it happens.

And another thing. Experience has taught me a long tiome ago, that with all the 'macho' thing of man being the hunter and all that crap, it is the woman who decides who she wants in her bed. And they sure have a million ways of telling you so too!

theorizing about each step of the relationship is a mistake. It brings tension hence lack of spontaneity that can extend to bed performance.

Oh that was not the question..

If we start losing sex appeal, it's a problem...
If we start losing communication it's a problem...

We need both

Is sex part of a healthy relationship?

too right it is

I agree to disagree...there are different types of animals out there, I just happen to be one of them. I don't sport fuck, I believe in having sex in a relationship, not one night stands or whatever you may call them. However, for me, if the sex is good, life is wonderful hazy eyes overlook a lot of faults....


yes, here's to sex in the backseat.... visual intended.... been there done that....would do it again and again and again.....