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I spoke with someone for awhile, nothing but chit chat....he flowered me one day and he signed it with a different name had a fairly decent excuse, said that he got sick of his name and decided to use his middle name.... okay, fair enough....but then it made me look back.....he asked questions about me, seemingly interested in my life, but I knew very little about him, except basic stuff. The answers he gave me seemed kinda shady after I thought about it. I blocked him. Never figured out what his intentions really were, but it creeped me out. Trusting a guy intimately is not the same as trusting someone who plays as your friend. Lovers come and go, friends are not supposed to. I see that he has returned....

Anyone have anything that they would like to share?

wow
well for me when things go awry
i have, in looking back as yo mention-
it was always my own doing
ignoring red flags

my big effort now is trusting myself more

also remembering
that rejection ends up being a protection more often than not
ive experienced that w/ jobs and many levels of relationships

like they say-hindsight is twenty twenty?
so sposedly we get wiser as we plod on

im hangin on to that hope

yeh, red flags are good-thinking back to a certain someone who has 2 on his body...he won't get a chance to add a third. I don't think he's a bad person at all, just not the right one for me....

Sometimes though, red flags aren't always visible....

sucks when that happens....

LISTEN to your instincts/gut feeling
LISTEN to the voice in your head that tells you "things don't add up" ... whatever the reason, who cares???!!!!!!
LISTEN to the signs/facts that SHOW something isn't quite right

"Get out of there" (the friendship, relationship, situation, whatever) ... Don't look back!!!!!!

FLOOOOOWER!!!
i love your new name

way to affirm!

Hey babe!!!! Thank you!!!

thought that have saved me grief


Mastubation is better than marriage!!

Keeping my whole paycheck is better than sharing it!

Murder is better tha divorce. And less painful. Oh sure, I'll go to jail for it..BUT........

underwear on the living room floor is perfectly O.K.

And......my dog is truly my best friend

It's funny, cause I always know when is NOT gonna work, sometimes I don't listen to myself, but it has never been too late.

Words, attitudes...LIES....no better clues than those...

Don't even know if women and men can ever truly be friends except in certain circumstances, (I have male friends, but got singed by a few that I thought were friends too).

I find that absence, or name changing are big alarm calls for me.

Someone who tells me they love me and haven't met me, are in that category too.

Starting a conversation with an excuse is bad, as is any sexual innuendo in the first 6 lines of a conversation online with someone I haven't met.

A man who wants to be my friend, who already has a wife or girlfriend is way out of my league as well, because the ones I have known like that, ultimately were just passing the time until they could talk to their partner and were just interested to chat to ANY female and not specifically me.

I am wary of men who travel a lot, it's not about me and them then, it's just about their lonliness and the way they deal with that, so not good for friendship.

Of the men I have spoken to, who were interested in friendship, we always had some interest in common, be it books or a subject matter, (like writing, or philosophy or psychology or art), or hobby and it was a place to talk about that.

Don't really know what to tell you here because I have made probably all the mistakes on here over the years and there are, way too many to enumerate right now.....

HINT FOR CREATIVE PUKING............................................................................

whaaa?


anyway...

ah, getting my arse ripped in a different thread....just thought I'd throw a hint out there for whoever wants to take it.............

trying to be helpful,

but alas,

some know better than others


whatever


at least I didn't sit by and not say anything,

THAT in my opinion would be WRONG.............................

hey u!

Hi Anjel!

Ok I get it!



Don't be so obtuse next time!

sorry, didn't know what else to do...........


promise, no more heaving

Cost/benefit analysis.

Look to the returns on your investment in time/money/emotion. If the returns don't at least EQUAL the payout, then they're a passive dependant person, and they will suck you dry if you let them. Nobody needs friends like this, let alone lovers.

Yes!!! Just very recently. I even went and met the malaka

1. He changed his name - said it was his middle name

2. He changed his PROFFESSION from writer to artist / painter

3. He said he had children on his profile and then said he had none when we met for a coffee

4. He was living in Greece and was listed amongst the French singles

5. He wasn't even as tall as he said!!!

6. He looked nothing like his picture.

7. He put enormous (misplaced) emotional pressure on me within days of meeting me just that once.

8. Said he was looking for a friend. Kept saying..... well, whatever..... he was NOT.

Is the world so totally packed tight with sh!8 headed guys or what????
Sorry

Oh, and Hi Princess!!
Good to meet you

not all men are alike....thank you for your input....I'm sorry that you went through this....