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So...I have this date tomorrow and would like some takes on this (attention whore thread)

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StressFree
Kalmar, Kalmar Sweden
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 4:52 PM CST
So tomorrow I will be adventuring three hours for a date! Kinda near Stockholm. I met this beautiful 40 year old Swedish woman at a private party recently at a mutual friends house. We got along really well and exchanged numbers...nothing else. Since then, we have been talking a great deal on the phone and we really get along extremely well....we just flow without the uncomfortable static.
She texts me no less than 8 times a day...sometimes with picswink Anyways, it already feels like we are boyfriend and girlfriend for some reason.

So the here's the deal, we are going to eat out, and take it from there...although she has slipped in a few hints about me staying till Sunday. She said she is really nervous about this date. I am in no way what so ever nervous about this. I am just really looking forward to sharing myself as well as getting to know her better and have some wonderful company.
I have no expectations about this. I am not like "OMG" this is going to be the woman of my dreams and we are going to have a perfect relationship and live happily ever afterscold
I do believe that this weekend will go extremely well. However, if it does not, then fine. No biggie. I am not desperate....well....you know what I mean.

I plan on being my usual self. I will use my intuition to read the situation and go from there. I just want a fun, romantic, and passionate evening free of static.
I will not bring her flowers or roses...too cliche, but I will bring a bottle of red wine.

If you are not aware, Sweden is very liberal when it comes to the sexing on first dates. She has more than hinted her desires of such physical activities...she is in her sexual prime and very comfortable with her sexuality. So if anyone is wondering, use your imagination as to what may or may not happen. God bless Sweden in that sense....hey, I too come from a very liberal part of the world (San Francisco), and I think everybody is aware by now of my position when it comes to you know what.

So, the only thing that is bothering me, is the distance thing and the fact that her kid lives with her every other week. My kids are still pretty young (12 and 7), so what I am saying, is that I may or may not see a potential problem down the road. How often I will see her....I kinda want somebody closer. However, I am open to see how this turns out. Then, if things turn out spectacular, then another problem will be moving in together. I really don't want to live with somebody elses kid at this stage in my life. My kids are still young, her kid is young, and I am just not ready for the mixed family thing....I think.

So, am I over thinking this? Should I just not worry about that and just have a good time this weekend. I just don't want a bad ending here. Either way, it's cool, I can do the long distance thing for a while. I just don't want to feel like I am running towards a dead end. I can say that I think she is a very special woman.

Advice, come with it if you had the time to read my long post....





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jbibiza
Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 4:56 PM CST
OMG!!!! and I thought women were bad! laugh Lighten up darling and stop putting the cart before the horse. Go. Have Fun. Report back. laugh





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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 4:58 PM CST
Just go with the flow...Take one day at a time..Just go and enjoy urself and dont worry what may be or not be...Having all that on ur mind may go into this date..dont worry I am sure everything will go as it should..Enjoy urself..hug





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Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 4:59 PM CST
You have reflected on some good points. Points that you would surely want to ponder and share with her in good conversation, should the weekend turn out to be spectacular and go in a direction towards, "we just can't live without each other".
Love makes one do strange things and love is sacrifice. Perhaps at this time, you do not see yourself wanting to take on another ones son, but if your love for her would grow, you would not allow anything to get in the way. You would lovingly take him on, singing the more the merrier, anything for you dear!
Enjoy the weekend and be StressFree... take it one day at a time. You have good questions, but save them for later. Enjoy!!! The best to you!wine





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Tumpa
ottawa, Ontario Canada
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:02 PM CST
jbibiza wrote:
OMG!!!! and I thought women were bad! Lighten up darling and stop putting the cart before the horse. Go. Have Fun. Report back.


I took the shorter quote, for reason.

If it works, then all your questions have been answered and if not, then it stil sounds like a win / win situation.

Why try to underplay that? You are already way past my place...





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StressFree
Kalmar, Kalmar Sweden
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:04 PM CST
HealthyLiving wrote:
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Love makes one do strange things


This may or may not have happened before....both in a good and bad way. But that is how it is.

Thanks for the advice so far. I feel more calm now. Yes, go with the flow and be with the present.....at times it is hard to practice what I preach, just need others once in a while to tell me this when it comes to dating and love....cause it so complicated at times, yet should be simple if we only live in the now and cherrish what we have, and don't worry about what we don't have. Thanks again for reminding me that what I envisioned in the future has never happened and that anything is possible.





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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:08 PM CST
StressFree wrote:
This may or may not have happened before....both in a good and bad way. But that is how it is.

Thanks for the advice so far. I feel more calm now. Yes, go with the flow and be with the present.....at times it is hard to practice what I preach, just need others once in a while to tell me this when it comes to dating and love....cause it so complicated at times, yet should be simple if we only live in the now and cherrish what we have, and don't worry about what we don't have. Thanks again for reminding me that what I envisioned in the future has never happened and that anything is possible.

I am sure you will do just fine..we all go over board sometimes and go crazy wondering and thinking..instead of just going with the flow and what is happening right now...Best of luckhug





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opalbeauty
Worcester County, Massachusetts USA
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:10 PM CST
StressFree wrote:
So tomorrow I will be adventuring three hours for a date! Kinda near Stockholm. I met this beautiful 40 year old Swedish woman at a private party recently at a mutual friends house. We got along really well and exchanged numbers...nothing else. Since then, we have been talking a great deal on the phone and we really get along extremely well....we just flow without the uncomfortable static.
She texts me no less than 8 times a day...sometimes with pics Anyways, it already feels like we are boyfriend and girlfriend for some reason.

So the here's the deal, we are going to eat out, and take it from there...although she has slipped in a few hints about me staying till Sunday. She said she is really nervous about this date. I am in no way what so ever nervous about this. I am just really looking forward to sharing myself as well as getting to know her better and have some wonderful company.
I have no expectations about this. I am not like "OMG" this is going to be the woman of my dreams and we are going to have a perfect relationship and live happily ever after
I do believe that this weekend will go extremely well. However, if it does not, then fine. No biggie. I am not desperate....well....you know what I mean.

I plan on being my usual self. I will use my intuition to read the situation and go from there. I just want a fun, romantic, and passionate evening free of static.
I will not bring her flowers or roses...too cliche, but I will bring a bottle of red wine.

If you are not aware, Sweden is very liberal when it comes to the sexing on first dates. She has more than hinted her desires of such physical activities...she is in her sexual prime and very comfortable with her sexuality. So if anyone is wondering, use your imagination as to what may or may not happen. God bless Sweden in that sense....hey, I too come from a very liberal part of the world (San Francisco), and I think everybody is aware by now of my position when it comes to you know what.

So, the only thing that is bothering me, is the distance thing and the fact that her kid lives with her every other week. My kids are still pretty young (12 and 7), so what I am saying, is that I may or may not see a potential problem down the road. How often I will see her....I kinda want somebody closer. However, I am open to see how this turns out. Then, if things turn out spectacular, then another problem will be moving in together. I really don't want to live with somebody elses kid at this stage in my life. My kids are still young, her kid is young, and I am just not ready for the mixed family thing....I think.

So, am I over thinking this? Should I just not worry about that and just have a good time this weekend. I just don't want a bad ending here. Either way, it's cool, I can do the long distance thing for a while. I just don't want to feel like I am running towards a dead end. I can say that I think she is a very special woman.

Advice, come with it if you had the time to read my long post....


Well, it is something I always consider. Sometimes I even ask how they feel about the distance. But right now I am not very demanding.
I wouldn't have to see them every night and probably wouldn't even want to. As long as he is sweet like sugar when we are together and I do want monogomy. But that sex, especially GOOD sex does make us women want a connection. If the communication is honest and open...who knows?

Or maybe it is another one of those freaking learning experiences....go with flow. wine





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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, England UK
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:14 PM CST
jbibiza wrote:
OMG!!!! and I thought women were bad! Lighten up darling and stop putting the cart before the horse. Go. Have Fun. Report back.


haha yeah .. do that ^

slowwww dowwwwn

wave





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oslojente
Olso, Oslo Norway
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:16 PM CST
Wow, 3 hours away...That's like really far...






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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, England UK
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:18 PM CST
oslojente wrote:
Wow, 3 hours away...That's like really far...


haha yeaaah





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Indyfella
indianapolis, Indiana USA
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:18 PM CST
StressFree wrote:
So tomorrow I will be adventuring three hours for a date! Kinda near Stockholm. I met this beautiful 40 year old Swedish woman at a private party recently at a mutual friends house. We got along really well and exchanged numbers...nothing else. Since then, we have been talking a great deal on the phone and we really get along extremely well....we just flow without the uncomfortable static.
She texts me no less than 8 times a day...sometimes with pics Anyways, it already feels like we are boyfriend and girlfriend for some reason.

So the here's the deal, we are going to eat out, and take it from there...although she has slipped in a few hints about me staying till Sunday. She said she is really nervous about this date. I am in no way what so ever nervous about this. I am just really looking forward to sharing myself as well as getting to know her better and have some wonderful company.
I have no expectations about this. I am not like "OMG" this is going to be the woman of my dreams and we are going to have a perfect relationship and live happily ever after
I do believe that this weekend will go extremely well. However, if it does not, then fine. No biggie. I am not desperate....well....you know what I mean.

I plan on being my usual self. I will use my intuition to read the situation and go from there. I just want a fun, romantic, and passionate evening free of static.
I will not bring her flowers or roses...too cliche, but I will bring a bottle of red wine.

If you are not aware, Sweden is very liberal when it comes to the sexing on first dates. She has more than hinted her desires of such physical activities...she is in her sexual prime and very comfortable with her sexuality. So if anyone is wondering, use your imagination as to what may or may not happen. God bless Sweden in that sense....hey, I too come from a very liberal part of the world (San Francisco), and I think everybody is aware by now of my position when it comes to you know what.

So, the only thing that is bothering me, is the distance thing and the fact that her kid lives with her every other week. My kids are still pretty young (12 and 7), so what I am saying, is that I may or may not see a potential problem down the road. How often I will see her....I kinda want somebody closer. However, I am open to see how this turns out. Then, if things turn out spectacular, then another problem will be moving in together. I really don't want to live with somebody elses kid at this stage in my life. My kids are still young, her kid is young, and I am just not ready for the mixed family thing....I think.

So, am I over thinking this? Should I just not worry about that and just have a good time this weekend. I just don't want a bad ending here. Either way, it's cool, I can do the long distance thing for a while. I just don't want to feel like I am running towards a dead end. I can say that I think she is a very special woman.

Advice, come with it if you had the time to read my long post....


So why ya going out w/a female then?





grin





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kidatheart
Southern BC/Lamont, Alberta Canada
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:19 PM CST
oslojente wrote:
Wow, 3 hours away...That's like really far...



rolling on the floor laughing

I've driven that distance daily to go to work before.rolling eyes





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oslojente
Olso, Oslo Norway
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:19 PM CST
Claayer wrote:
haha yeaaah



And i thought women were the ones planning way ahead...

laugh





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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, England UK
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:21 PM CST
kidatheart wrote:
I've driven that distance daily to go to work before.


Yeah and I have just done 40hrs travelling .. 8296 miles.. and 14 plane takes offs.and landings. (again) laugh





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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, England UK
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:21 PM CST
oslojente wrote:
And i thought women were the ones planning way ahead...


yeah me too.. he is raaaare laugh





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gingerb
Letterkenny, Donegal Ireland
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:22 PM CST
I like how you thought about it Stress. I would have expected no less from you. She is one lucky lady! The tough part is over. The rest is just detail that time will work out. Enjoy being where you are at right now, and just stay who you are.

peace





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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, England UK
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:23 PM CST
gingerb wrote:
I like how you thought about it Stress. I would have expected no less from you. She is one lucky lady! The tough part is over. The rest is just detail that time will work out. Enjoy being where you are at right now, and just stay who you are.



applause thumbs up





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kidatheart
Southern BC/Lamont, Alberta Canada
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:23 PM CST
Claayer wrote:
Yeah and I have just done 40hrs travelling .. 8296 miles.. and 14 plane takes offs.and landings. (again)



How's your bum?laugh That's a lot of sitting.







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Claayer
Wild Wild South West, England UK
Posted: Apr 24, 2008, 5:24 PM CST
kidatheart wrote:
How's your bum? That's a lot of sitting.


oh I knowww.. it was a numb bum! laugh





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