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I was once in a similar situation, the guy said even said he loved me and wanted to get 'serious', but hardly called, unless i inititated it or complained about him not giving me enough attention. He was always busy at work and said it wouldn't change.....oh, guess what? When we ended it, he was quite relaxed about it!!!!

I guess, a man crazy about you, will show it.

Glad i saw it, before i went in too deep.

Thanks for the advice. It really is too early for me to think about it too much, I know. But I just have a lot of fun with him and I like him alot. I know better than to fall for him so quickly. Wish I could just be logical and not have so many feelings involved.

Give him a few weeks to step up...don't nag him...

Who knows, he could be very busy or scared to look too clingy, as well. Only time will tell, however, if you call and he seems to avoid every little plan you suggest, then lose him. He does pick all your calls though, right?

Yep. he has always answered when I call.

Then he's not married. At least not to a straight partner.


Sorry, kidding.

Since you guys have gone on dates already, he should be calling you too. JMO.

my ex that died called me the woman that i date now calles me all the time three times a day i like hearing from her if he sounds happy to hear from you call some guys cant call

that's so sweet, and a whole different take on everything....

Games, games, games. I'm sorry but I just don't understand all this dating manouvering and rules.

Isn't dating supposed to be about getting to know each other? How does following a set of standard dating "do's and don'ts" reflect us as individuals?

I say if you feel like calling him then call him... let him know that you're thinking about him and have enjoyed the time you have spent together, be yourself. It will either work out or it won't but if he backs off because you're being yourself and doing what you feel like doing then chances are that eventually it's not going to work out anyway.

I used to be really good at playing the game... and dated a lot, but what did it get me? A bunch of dates that were going nowhere because who they were attracted to wasn't really who I am.

Also, in this day of equality... why are we still playing by the rules our mothers played by? Why is the burden of pursuit and potential rejection always on the man?

I say be yourself... if that scares him off then he's probably not the right guy anyway...

The hell with him, call me!

well sounds like a good start from my point of view...

Better sit back and relax and let it take it's course, don't be such a worry wart,,,

ya don't have warts do ya?

Perhaps hun he has been out of thge dating scene for a while too and uncertain about how you feel about him..
Just tell him you are the old fashion type and would like for him to call you when he desires to get together..
Don't over-analyse it just yet if in the early stages.

Ahha, and then if it does work out for them both, then 5 years later he'll still be sitting around waiting for the lady to do everything...... because the "ball" has always been in her court.... I am sure there are marginal cases when guys ARE too shy, but I'd treat it as if I was training my dog - wait for the right thing to happen (him to call you, in this case) and then praise him LOTS.... (tell him you're very happy that he called) Next time he should be less "shy" to call, and if he can't figure that simple connection out, you don't want a guy that is stupider than Pavlov's dog. But yes, I totally agree with everyone else on here - do NOT call him, otherwise you will completely reverse the roles, and there is nothing more miserable (in my book) than a passive man. Also, not to forget that men sometimes do need to pull away and think well about the whole thing, and chasing them will NOT in any way make them come back sooner. (yes, I am quoting my favourite Mars/Venus book here, but it makes perfect sense)

WOW!

That's terrifying to think of "training" another human being!

Sorry, but I still believe an open, clear, honest line of communication will work better.

If you can't establish that, all is lost anyway.

This is what I agree with most in this argument. True, men are sometimes not quite sure of what the lady is thinking or wanting, and true too, there may be some other experience from thepast that leaves an aftertaste of not being sure and all that, but at the end of the day, u just have to be yourself.

And take it from there.

I think this guy is just playing games with you. If he were really interested, he'd be calling you as often as you are calling him. Move on. Be active. Get out and spend time with people. Have some fun and stop worrying about this guy... find someone who really appreciates you.

I am comning in late here but if you are enjoying yourself and dont feel bad after spending time with him ,,,,,live and enjoy life!! you deserve to feel good,,,,if you are curioius why you are the one that calls first,, simply ask him,,,you may be surprised, someone may have even told him that if he calls you might think he is too needy,,,dont lose a good thing if that is what it is,,,please just talk with him in a relaxed setting,,in person if possible,,you seem very nice and I hope it all works out.
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Agreed. This is waht I meant earlier.

Cards on the table, be yourself, and take it from there.

If it's not the right situation, move on.

Good luck.

right on! simple communication

at 28...you are old enough to know whether it's a sexual relationship or not. If you feel good about contacting him....do it. If not, don't!!


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