Does it bother you how many lovers a person has had?

Zarah
dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:51 AM CST

Does it alter your perception of them at all???

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:53 AM CST

It doesn't bother me how many, but what kind. If he has been with over 50 women, though, yes, i would be bothered.

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Zarah
dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:55 AM CST

lusciousmile wrote:

It doesn't bother me how many, but what kind. If he has been with over 50 women, though, yes, i would be bothered.

jeSUS do you think reckon they would admit it Luscious...if they did I would be afraid too

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nuala
dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:56 AM CST

Zarah wrote:

Does it alter your perception of them at all???

well it shouldnt really, if they are clean from any std well then who am i too judge them.....If you like the person for who they are not what you think they should be.....I think its the same if they turned out to be a murder or a bank robber....does that change your perception of them too!

Its the here and now i live in....as the past to me is the past and should stay there.....I accept people for who they are not what they are....thats just my opinion of it....

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Zarah
dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:57 AM CST

nuala wrote:

well it shouldnt really, if they are clean from any std well then who am i too judge them.....If you like the person for who they are not what you think they should be.....I think its the same if they turned out to be a murder or a bank robber....does that change your perception of them too!

Its the here and now i live in....as the past to me is the past and should stay there.....I accept people for who they are not what they are....thats just my opinion of it....

Nuala...

so tell me...truthfully...
Does Jim have new knees???

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lusciousmile
Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:57 AM CST

Zarah wrote:

jeSUS do you think reckon they would admit it Luscious...if they did I would be afraid too

I know one, who told me that a friend of his admitted it. I know him well enough to know, he is his friend.

I know this because he brags a lot.

Some men.

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joanie04984
North Woods, Maine USA

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:58 AM CST

Oh please

Folks my age lost count years ago

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nuala
dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 5:59 AM CST

Zarah wrote:

Nuala... so tell me...truthfully...
Does Jim have new knees???

Well to tell the truth Zarah, sorry No Jim does not have new knees Yet!!!

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Zarah
dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:02 AM CST

nuala wrote:

Well to tell the truth Zarah, sorry No Jim does not have new knees Yet!!!

Well hun I am sure you are certainly working on it...
get knitting...

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morganlee
marmaris, Aegean Turkey

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:04 AM CST

No it doesn't bother me provided they were not with someone else at the time. Think i would be being

a little hypocritical if it did. We all have a history it's about the present and future to me.

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The_Kansan
Claxton (Powell) , Tennessee USA

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:06 AM CST

Most of us here are adults. It goes without saying that very few of us are virgins. Quite a few of us have been married more than once and that, by itself, implies multiple lovers.

And none of it matters to me. I love my wife because of who she is. She is who she is because of her life experiences just as I am who I am because of mine. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, if you care about someone, the past doesn't matter anywhere near as much as the future...

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breezee
athens, Attica Greece

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:08 AM CST

If the person is a friend, of course not. That's to do with his/her sexuality and not really my business.

As far as seeing that person as a potential partner goes, then I suppose yes.
It tells me our natures/spirits are fundamentally too different for us to go down that path together.

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Zarah
dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:08 AM CST

The_Kansan wrote:

Most of us here are adults. It goes without saying that very few of us are virgins. Quite a few of us have been married more than once and that, by itself, implies multiple lovers.

And none of it matters to me. I love my wife because of who she is. She is who she is because of her life experiences just as I am who I am because of mine. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, if you care about someone, the past doesn't matter anywhere near as much as the future...

you're a good solid man kansas...your wife is privileged..

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morganlee
marmaris, Aegean Turkey

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:11 AM CST

The_Kansan wrote:

Most of us here are adults. It goes without saying that very few of us are virgins. Quite a few of us have been married more than once and that, by itself, implies multiple lovers.

And none of it matters to me. I love my wife because of who she is. She is who she is because of her life experiences just as I am who I am because of mine. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, if you care about someone, the past doesn't matter anywhere near as much as the future...

Exactly

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The_Kansan
Claxton (Powell) , Tennessee USA

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:15 AM CST

Zarah wrote:

you're a good solid man kansas...your wife is privileged..

Thank you, Zarah, but I am the priviledged one. She's the greatest gal in the world for me and I am ever so blessed to be able to share her life.

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Galwayman2008
Galway, Galway Ireland

Posted: Apr 27, 2008, 6:17 AM CST

The_Kansan wrote:

Most of us here are adults. It goes without saying that very few of us are virgins. Quite a few of us have been married more than once and that, by itself, implies multiple lovers.

And none of it matters to me. I love my wife because of who she is. She is who she is because of her life experiences just as I am who I am because of mine. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, if you care about someone, the past doesn't matter anywhere near as much as the future...

Well said.

Am glad to be able to honestly say that a woman's past is not important to me. It is only the here and now that counts (getting too far into the future is also futile). I am who I am as a result of all my good, ok and bad experiences - I presume the same it true for her.

Too many people have been made to feel guilty by society applying a judgement as to what is "ok" and what is not.

Peter