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When is it ok for a person to start being sexually active? Is it age or maturity level? Is it different for girls and boys? Is it ok for a young man to be with an older woman, but not for a young woman to be with an older man?

When and how do you talk to your kids about their sexuality?

As a parent, or anybody who's thinking about becoming one, what's your opnion?

I don't have kids, so don't know....

Hi i have a son and daughter from when they were little i answered any questions as honestly

as i could in a way they could understand, so we were always open about it. When my daughter was 18

she wanted her boyfriend to stay, i was pleased she felt comfortable enough to ask but i did say no as

i didn't feel comfortable with it as it was early in the relationship, and knew she would have many

boyfriends before she meet the right one for her, She understood this.

I think society does view it differently for boys, my son never asked about girlfriends staying although he

had the same girlfriend from 16 his now 24yrs .

Thanks for the post. I think this must be a really tough thing for parents to deal with. In dealing with this situation, in general, do you think people worry more about the girl than the boy?

Head for the hills when they reach 14 and come back 10 years later when all the real difficult stuff is over.

Seriously though, you can only try to convince them to respect themselves and give them as much guidance as they will allow you to. They will do their own thing and make the same mistakes that us old yins made. Remember when lust kicked in for the first time?

You just have to hope that they'll come through the more difficult years unscathed. It's times like this when all the effort you put in when they were younger pays off. My own experience was/is that they don't want to let you down, and if they have a sense of what is right and wrong, you have to trust them.

i worried about them both equally, but think a Father worries more about a daughter and alway's views them as ' His Baby ' that he has to protect, whereas they seem to be proud of there son's sexual exploits , kinda like a chip of the old block

i agree it is about trust and giving them all the information that you can

Oh, this is cool....it's really about establishing a good relationship with them all the way along.

Yep I agree with all that ^

that is so true Morgan...... well dads know what guys are like and dont want thier daughters getting involved with any of them....... daughters aren't allowed...

When reason and honesty fails resort to nailing the windows shut and a heavy bedroom door that you can lock them inside and bolt it.

I am so looking forward to a certain someone when she hits puberty, i think i might have to hide in a shed for years.

Is it more difficult to deal with a girl's or a boy's emerging sexuality, if it is your child?

I have one of each...twins 16....I have always tried to be open and honest with my kids and let them know they could come to me about anything....To refuse and tell them you forbid sex is the worst thing you can do....because ultimately that means nothing when it comes to when and if they have sex....to educate them and instill some moral values in them..as I have tried to do and keep an open and honest dialogue going with them...goes a long way to relieve my mind that they will use their heads when it comes to having sex....I also educated them not just on the physical BUT on the emotional side of things when it comes to having sex......

Sounds great...I think it must be a challenging situation, but one a good parent deals with in more than a superficial way...

I agree...because often times...what a parent wants....and what a teen does...are not reality...I would rather my kids didn't suffer the consequences of not being educated...physically...heath-wise and emotionally...than I would prefer to keep my head in the clouds!!!!!!!!!!!


I don't treat my kids any different either just because one is a boy and one a girl!!!!!!!!!!!