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I don't think you would sleep watching Iron Man. Its reaally good, if you like that sort of thing. Should interest the guys as well as there is quite a bit of warefare involved. Not saying anymore..

Thats right.. you still have the rest of your life to go yet.. there is lots more time to feel those things again.
and as your best friend too.. im sure he would never have wanted you to just be alone.

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Sex excluded he would be a great catch... spiritual, intellectual, funny, thrice (can't spell) published author....

haha yeah..

I used to miss my ex husband alll day (before it got BAD).. then he would come home.. barely speak to me and sit his backside in front of sports tv for the night.. and that was it.


greeaaaaat.

NOT.

We were never best friends.. I don't think we were ever even friends. So it kind of got off on the wrong foot from the beginning.

Funnily enuff.. we get on a lot better now

Thats the worst part .. worse than being lonely as such ..

I would rather be on my own than be with someone and feel alone.

Omg absolutely.. the loneliest time of my life was when I was married.

Yup.. exactly

absolutely .. there is an underlying sense of security even in loneliness when by yourself ... lonley in a relation can be too confusing and difficult to handle ...

nice to meet you

Same here..

hey Lusci and anyone i missed ..

Off for today ... yet ruminating over .. how complex emotions can get when friendship evolves in to a relationship while that is still the basis of a healthy relationship to begin with ..

haha that's very true..

I think that's the only way to have it....If not for friendship first there isn't a foundation to build anything else. There are friends that will never be anymore because the chemistry or whatever it takes to move beyond friendship isn't present for both, but I agree 100% that any relationship should start first with friendship as the basis or it can't be sustained. I would prefer my partner to be my best friend who I can turn to in times of need and know beyond a doubt that they will be there for me no matter what....and vice versa!!!!!!!!!!

Hello Kid!! How are ya?

Very well thank you! Yourself?

I just got off the phone with my friend.

For me, yes, I want to be best friends with my partner, but I can't imagine being partners with any current friends because the "partner" attraction is missing. If that makes sense.

It does to me.


It would be odd to have a relationship of that nature, with guys i look up to like brothers. Friendship and attraction have to both happen, in the beginning.

Yes it can happen, I was Married to my best friend and for a while it was amazing. But we were young and just grew apart. The divorce was tough even though we remained best friends through it all. And we are great friends to this day. I think because we were always honest with each other.

My ex was like my little brother when we first met, he was early 20's I was mid-20's. We were buddies for years, he was best friends with my ex-before-last (I know, Jerry Springerish.) Anyway, we became best friends cause he was around so much, and after my hubby split it just sorta devoloped into more.

We remained best friends for the first 8 or 9 years or so, but then things started changing. He'd always been moody at times, and he'd never talk about it, if I tried it would turn into an argument, so I learned to leave him alone when he was down like that. The down moods became more and more till it was constant, and I just couldn't deal with the misery. I am a happy person by nature, and living in constant negativity just about drove me crazy. He stopped working much at all, he had been self-employed, was a fantastic woodworker, but all he would do was odd jobs when he felt like it. He was depressed and drinking constantly. He wouldn't talk about it or do anything about it. He became a stranger to me.

I spent another 8 years watching him slide downhill, till I decided I wasn't going gown with him. It was really hard seeing someone I was once best friends with turn into a brooding basket case. But there was nothing I could do to help him, so I had to help myself. I left, and made a happy life for myself on my own. That was two and a half years ago.

He died the first of this year. He was 45 years old. Depression kills people. There is help for it if they aren't too proud to ask. I would give anything to have my best bud back, but that person died long before the body did.