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have experienced or how they handled various situations.

Scenario 1:

You strike up a conversation with someone and speak at length. Then all of a sudden they have decided that you are the love of their life and they want to spend the rest of their life with you. Meanwhile you've never met the person and you aren't even thinking in that sense about them.

Scenario 2:

A person makes it blatantly obvious that they want more than friendship and you are not interested. They continually persist that they are wanting more than friendship and no matter how you try to deter them and keep the distance they continually keep pushing that boundary.

What do you do if they are persistent in the stated scenarios?

Do you set boudaries and make others aware of those boundaries?

Do you tell them to go fly a kite?


I have seen this happen on here several times as well as experienced it myself. I'm sure I could probably think of a million more questions to add...but at least it's a start.

The first one, forhget it- he is obviously not in touch with reality and would not even consider a second conversation with him. I tend to sudden loose my respect for a man that tells me I am the love of his life after the first date/talk....how could I actually rely on him?
The second one.....tell him to take a hike .....Not interested means not interested, not "maybe" and not " not now".

Scenario 1:
I try to be nice and let that person know the deal. If that dosnt work I go blow there house up.lol

I have been there but it seams that men are more often the pushy one.


Scenario 2:

unless we are already good friends, I walk away. Those feelings that person has for you dont go away and its hard to have such a friendship/

have experienced or how they handled various situations.

Scenario 1:

You strike up a conversation with someone and speak at length. Then all of a sudden they have decided that you are the love of their life and they want to spend the rest of their life with you. Meanwhile you've never met the person and you aren't even thinking in that sense about them.

I got into a scrape like that once, she still try's for contact..it has been hard to deal with

Scenario 2:

A person makes it blatantly obvious that they want more than friendship and you are not interested. They continually persist that they are wanting more than friendship and no matter how you try to deter them and keep the distance they continually keep pushing that boundary.

What do you do if they are persistent in the stated scenarios?

I'm still trying to figure that out

Do you set boudaries and make others aware of those boundaries?

Not much for info there, but if ya want to know I got a buddie that drops Bunker Busters on the outskirts of my boundries

Do you tell them to go fly a kite?

I build kites, I can sell them one first

I have seen this happen on here several times as well as experienced it myself. I'm sure I could probably think of a million more questions to add...but at least it's a start.

Say's one thing to me, Mental illness, seriously.

People who cant grasp reality are vulnerable and may be exploited.I trust few people i interact with now as i've had more than enough experience with these characters.

People who are incapable of understanding how to interact with other people on a normal basis are not well.It's as simple as that.

Anyone who confesses love, unflinching devotion or any feelings without even meeting the person concerned i am afraid are delusional.

If you believe it, your judgement is impaired and your need to believe is greater than your reasoning ability.

Friends and chatting is one thing, but anything else is an indicator that something is very wrong!

That's the polite concise version.

You want the long version its $500 an hour and join the waiting list

I have had this scenario a few times too, and me being me, I find diplomacy difficult, so I usually smile politely, nod a lot and then leave at the first opportunity, hopefully never to see them again.

Should they find me and call, I am always and thereafter busy, going out, otherwise occupied etc.

People who come on like that freak me out.

Huh, even 14 reasons don't work for you

i agree, 'love at first sight'

is another thing i can't understand, physical attraction yes, but love?? nope just not real

[quote=Serenity1971]have experienced or how they handled various situations.

1. That's just wrong and creepy.
2. I still try to be nice, but back off. That's not working, it sounds like. So b-slap em. Hey you tried to be nice, right!

Stalkers are among us all :)

This leads me to the question of....

Why do some people attract these types more often than others?

Should they stop being nice even though that's who they are and turn into an ass?

Not even that, imagine!

[quote=Serenity1971]

Scenario 2:

A person makes it blatantly obvious that they want more than friendship and you are not interested. They continually persist that they are wanting more than friendship and no matter how you try to deter them and keep the distance they continually keep pushing that boundary.

What do you do if they are persistent in the stated scenarios?

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I lock my doors and don't answer the phone..........

If I meet them out accidentally, I ignore them...........

There nearer "bonkersworld" than reality, either that or they are dishonest.

So you have a choice, someone mad or someone dishonest......

Far better to face reality and accept they might find you attractive, funny or anything else, but to confess undying love or anything simular isnt normal.

If you believe it please be very careful and under no circumstances whatsoever offer to pay for their Visa or flight.

Be sensible, use your brain and ask yourself are you that desperate to believe it before meeting them where you will see if there is mutual attraction, chemistry and common ground.

Also if there in front of you you may well see signs that make you wary that your not aware of via a computer screen.

Hmmmm let's really throw a wrench in the first scenario...

Maybe you had brief contact with the person many years ago and it was merely due to mutual friends. You've been out of contact wih the friends for a very long time and this person all of a sudden pops up.

Sorry,Mo, but I have experienced that love, love at fist sight,not just a lust.So I do believe that anything is possible.

A friend of mine (Turkish guy) was contacted by an English woman from a dating site, they had been talking for 45 mins and she told him she loved him, had i not been there i would not have believed it. Has she not read 'Take a Break'? meant to be the other way round By there 4th conversation she wanted to move here to spend the rest of her life with him, and her daughter was talking to him to and calling him Dad. completley beyond me !

I meet these people with dysfunctional personalities all the time.I have no idea why they home in on me, well i do but i wont type it here.

One characteristic being you appear non threatening and polite.

Others feel they maybe able to manipulate you, and this isn't always easy to spot until its too late.

Fact, Socio path's are very intelligent and very calculating, and if they don't want you to know what their thinking you certainly wont find out what's going on.They will let you know, if they want you to know.

The more you learn the worse it gets.We wont even go into socio-psychopaths.

Then i think that must have been very special ,

Love at first site true can be real but what about on a web site is that not a totally different setup.