Posted: May 6, 2008, 11:09 PM CST
Hugz_n_Kissez wrote:Discretion is the better part of valour for me...I don't want to date anyone that is gonna spread all my personal info all over CS either on the forum or behind the scenes to people....that's one thing I wouldn't do and I expect the same...the same with friends...if they want to spread personal things I may have shared all over the place...then those aren't the types of people I want in my life....Trust is a big factor for me in any relationship including friendship!!!!!!!!!!
As far as disclosing personal info about myself...I don't mind sharing some experiences...BUT my sexlife is private and I don't feel the need to disclose my preferences to anyone other than someone I might be involved with!!!!!!!!!!
Now the above, to me is the best so far as it covers a wide spectrum. Having even a modicum of discretion in all things, especially personal and intimate is having what is labeled as 'class' to many.
Indiscreet people are generally the bane of any social gathering. They usually have a well earned reputation for being untrustworthy simply because they won't and/ or can't keep their mouths shut about others. No one really wants to hear about 'private matters' let alone intimate details unless they have some medically out of control pathology or are just an out and out pervert. If people in general were really hungry and drooling from their mouths over knowing the details of other people's sex lives, there would be TV reality shows for it all over this planet. There aren't any, anywhere. People would be bored to tears. I certainly would not want nor desire to know about any one's 'intimate' or 'private' affairs. What comes to mind are words and concepts such as: impudent; impertinent, disrespectful of another and of one's self; distasteful, rude in the extreme. It is so bourgeois; that there types that won't be discreet about themselves or others. In fact it is really 'low class' without any redeeming attribute whatsoever.
For myself, if revealing some experience that could save someone else a lot of anxiety, pain or whatever, then fine but with limits as to any details. Personal/ private/'intimate details would depend on the context, the situation; the other person. If some threshold of intimacy had been crossed, the same conditions would still apply. Certain things are just never brought up or talked about as sometimes as the saying goes, 'ignorance is bliss' and it really is; why burden someone you may love with something that just may shatter their world and your relationship. You can only call it as you see it. Trust is great and a beautiful thing to have in a loving relationship, but trust is not a carte blanche to possibly ruin it. Discretion keeps it going as will love and being faithful to your commitments.