Would you quit job, sell car, house, tv and move after someone if you had fallen in LOVE?

kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada

Posted: May 7, 2008, 5:51 AM CST

Aries01 wrote:

Its a shame in a way that we have all seemed to lose our innocence/trust... our parents and our grandparents generation would have thrown it all into the pot and taken a chance... and a larger proportion of those marriages lasted...

Shame really.. having said that I wouldn't be reckless about such a choice myself and would want to be really sure.. true love doesn't come along everyday, and not everyone is privelaged enough to have it.. so if it came along.. I wouldn't turn my back on it...

JMV

Well said Honey

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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada

Posted: May 7, 2008, 5:56 AM CST

kidatheart wrote:

Getting married and moving there is no problem whatsoever so long as you don't have a criminal record that would prevent you from entering the US otherwise. Working there is another matter and will cost mony and take time, even if you are married to a US citizen.To the OP, yes I would consider it. Six months ago I would have said yes in a heartbeat but things have changed slightly and I'm stuck here for at least another year or two.
Material possessions don't mean as much to me as I thought they might, and some even less in the grand scheme of things. I'm moving and parting with some stuff I've had for twenty years or more, so getting rid of the rest wouldn't be as big a deal as it once might have been.
I don't think people's morals have changed much overall and I don't believe everyone is out for themselves alone. I'm out for myself but if I was with someone, I'd be out for them just as much or more than for myself.
Maybe people are more afraid to try new things, take chances or simply afraid of change. Things change even if you don't like it and why not steer them into a positive direction if you can. Each day we all get older and who knows what tomorrow will bring.
You might end up giving up something in taking a chance but who knows what you might miss if you don't.

Criminal Record

Hahhaha Just Kidding..I had to have one done When i babyset the Foster Child..So i am Fine..Or they just didnt find out..

Kidding again..

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kidatheart
Southern BC/Lamont, Alberta Canada

Posted: May 7, 2008, 6:11 AM CST

AudrysSis wrote:

Oh, ok. I was always under the impression that there are only two ways to become a legal resident of the US in such a case - get married outside the US and wait for the K-3 (spouse) visa, or get a K-1 (fiance) visa and get married in the US (both of which do take some time to get processed). Just entering the US, getting married there and then applying for a residence permit would be, unless I am severely mistaken, considered a violation of immigration laws, even for citizens of countries that otherwise don't need a visa to visit the US.

http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=426280

The couple I know were married here in canada and then moved to the US afterwards. She is American and he is Canadian. They didn't have any problems but it take quite a while before he was able to legally work there.
This was a few years ago but after 9/11 so things may have changed since then and like anything with government, it always takes time.

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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada

Posted: May 7, 2008, 6:18 AM CST

As far as I know When i go to North Carolina and Get Married there..I was told they couldnt make me Leave..but who knows..Will find that out soon...

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FloraFlora
auckland, Auckland New Zealand

Posted: May 7, 2008, 6:23 AM CST

Why not?!

I can find a new job, buy a new car, get a second hand house...

no problem

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StressFree
SF Bay Area/Las Vegas, California USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 6:33 AM CST

Aries01 wrote:

This is precisely what I am saying.. which comes first the chicken or the egg... has this principally mistrusting society originated from the fact that we are princicpally mistrusting.... it is a fact of life that we will be let down.. at 35, I know something about that....but I refuse to let negative experiences and/or negative people take possession of my future.. that my friend belongs to me.. and I chose to continue to give people and life the benefit of the doubt

Awesome Aries. I really like your posts in this thread

Way to put your foot down and defend the old school's way of thinking about love. I really do like how you can leave the luggage behind you and give people and your future a fair chance. You really do put yourself in the best position to be happy today and tomorrow.

Like they say, if you can trust yourself, than you can trust others.....

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soulmateTWS
somewhere, Alabama USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 8:40 AM CST

Pedrito wrote:

What must have happened?

Don't know...I'll cross that bridge when and if I get to it....

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PeachesandRay
Concord, North Carolina USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 9:32 AM CST

kissmedeeply wrote:

yes yes yes..i am moving June to North Carolina...

We hope you will love our humble state as much as we do....so far Earl has said he loves it down here...he missed a whale of a lot of snow back home this past winter since he moved down last July.

Peaches...Shelia

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Portiea
Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

Posted: May 7, 2008, 9:37 AM CST

RillyNiceGuy wrote:

SELL MY TV!

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fireliter
Allen Park, Michigan USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 9:57 AM CST

OH HAPPY DAy!!!

to be sixteen again..OK to be 20 again

sure I'd repeat that mistake.

As callous and calculating though it may sound.
Reality, is in my case anyway, sacrifices like that for me have never been as fruitful as my fantasies of these kinds of relationship in the past.
I committed myself before like this....

twice bitten... now I'm allergic to that path of acquiring love.

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: May 7, 2008, 10:00 AM CST

kissmedeeply wrote:

Criminal Record Hahhaha Just Kidding..I had to have one done When i babyset the Foster Child..So i am Fine..Or they just didnt find out.. Kidding again..

I hear ya...I don't know why they let me stay here given my long criminal history either!!!!!!!!!....

Oh and I'm still waiting on my invite and hope Eric has sent only the cuties the hog-tying instructions!!!!!!!!!

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Dknew
Loretto, Kentucky USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 10:04 AM CST

bubbles69 wrote:

Yep I would, in fact I did.

I did also

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HJFinAZ
Sun CIty, Arizona USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 10:06 AM CST

Pedrito wrote:

What must have happened?

Does one "fall" in love, or does one "choose" to love???

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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada

Posted: May 7, 2008, 10:08 AM CST

PeachesandRay wrote:

We hope you will love our humble state as much as we do....so far Earl has said he loves it down here...he missed a whale of a lot of snow back home this past winter since he moved down last July.

Peaches...Shelia

Thank you so much..I am sure i would love any place as long as Eric and I are together..

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kissmedeeply
New brunswick, New Brunswick Canada

Posted: May 7, 2008, 10:10 AM CST

Hugz_n_Kissez wrote:

I hear ya...I don't know why they let me stay here given my long criminal history either!!!!!!!!!.... Oh and I'm still waiting on my invite and hope Eric has sent only the cuties the hog-tying instructions!!!!!!!!!

Oh Honey would never forget you..I will make sure Eric only has them cuties there only for you

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Nina3
(Stockholm, Sweden +) , Brussels (Bruxelles) Belgium

Posted: May 7, 2008, 11:20 AM CST

Pedrito wrote:

What must have happened?

If we both had agreed that would be the best option - yes, without a doubt. It's a matter of what you prioritize in life.

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slickness
auburn, California USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 12:28 PM CST

Hmm, seeing I'm 60 and old enough to retire and contemplating in a foreign country, I'd sell all my shit tomorrow if the real estate market here wasn't in the crapper. You can't fall in love at least deeply enough by correspondence, you have to spend time together, yes more than a week more than a month.

I went for k-1 visa for a gal from Ukraine and yes it takes six months and if you marry and then try to come here it is a violation of the immigration laws and jeapardizes a green card and being able to stay without sanctions against you for not taking the proper steps to begin with. My lady friend was unaffordable to me and had I to give up on her as she refused to change her attitude about her needs even though i explained I couldn't nor wouldn't pay for her extravagance.

I would just as soon sell all my things and be free to travel and if the right person came into my life, I would live in her country for a while but prefer a warm climate. I've set myself up for five sources of income when i pull the plug and can live where ever I choose. I'd much rather it be with someone I love than be alone at this stage of my life. But the catch all, never say never

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AudrysSis
Riga, Riga Latvia

Posted: May 7, 2008, 2:01 PM CST

slickness wrote:

I would just as soon sell all my things and be free to travel and if the right person came into my life, I would live in her country for a while but prefer a warm climate.

But, the language.... Seeing from another thread what most Americans seem to think about learning a foreign language...

It's not like at 60 (having never done it before) you suddenly will be able to acquire a new one quickly and easily unless you have the talent for it. And believe me, living in a foreign country and relying solely on your spouse for company and communication will get old very soon.... It really pained me to hear my ex-partner say "I hate Poland" on one of our trips there... He had thought everyone would be obliged to communicate with him in *his* mother tongue - the mighty English which he was sure all Polish kids had learned at school - but alas, it's THEIR country and he's the stranger there...

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slickness
auburn, California USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 2:23 PM CST

But, the language.... Seeing from another thread what most Americans seem to think about learning a foreign language... It's not like at 60 (having never done it before) you suddenly will be able to acquire a new one quickly and easily unless you have the talent for it. And believe me, living in a foreign country and relying solely on your spouse for company and communication will get old very soon.... It really pained me to hear my ex-partner say "I hate Poland" on one of our trips there... He had thought everyone would be obliged to communicate with him in *his* mother tongue - the mighty English which he was sure all Polish kids had learned at school - but alas, it's THEIR country and he's the stranger there...

I understand that and it's a great point. We have the technology to learn a new language quickly, I've used it for Russian and I do remember some Spanish from my high school days. I bought the CD's to learn Russian and Spanish might be easier because they don't use the Cyrillic alphabet. Not sure I would want to live in Poland but I would make the effort to learn the language.

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Pedrito
Poland/USA/San Francico, LA, California USA

Posted: May 7, 2008, 4:15 PM CST

StressFree wrote:

So you moved to Frisco for love and away from your daughter? I am guessing there is a lot to this story and it is none of my business ...
I don't know your situation and sorry to bring it up. You seem kinda shook up. I would just suggest from experience, to be close to your daughter.

I believe everyone here has a story. I know my profile is somewhat misleading. Sorry for that, I'll fix it. I'm not in frisco now but I'd be over the next few weeks.

This however doesn't change the fact that me and my daughter live in two different countries. If this would have bocome an option I'd move to live with her straight away. No doubts. This however is simple, because there's no question of trust, etc.

Maybe if I really felt in love with a women and I believed this is a big love that is going to last forever, I'd be ready to move after her. (despite all rationale, past experiences, breakups and divorce statistic). ....

hmmm

I always thought I'm rather pragmatic than romantic...

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